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writes:i went out with my ex for nearly seven years i loved him very much and really wnated to set up our lives together so we had a future, but he didnt want to move in or get engaged. i was heartbroken so we split.its been ten months and i cant get him out of my head. everything reminds me of him. he is going to see someone to help him through this. i got a new boyfriend who loves me to bits and he would do anyfing for me but i just cant let him fully into my life. how do i move on with my life?its breaking my heart ive tried soo hard to be friends with my ex
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2009): thanks guys for all the advice! i know i have to get him out my head
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reader, lcmla  +, writes (23 November 2009):
I have noticed that you wemt seperate ways from your BF 10 months ago... But you should remember one thing that friends can be lovers but lovers can never be freinds. On the other hand im not saying it can never happen but it is very hard.In life you Always have to Seek what has to be found and Forget what has already been Lost. What I mean is you have to find ways how to move forward. Im 40 and unfortunately have been sep for the last 8 years and still have no GF. Im not happy with the situation but i try and move forward..The same thing that you have to do is move forward seek new friends and you are young you would fall in love again..Take CareLen C
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reader, xynebrutalis  +, writes (22 November 2009):
 If you dated the guy for seven years and he didnt want to move in with you, or have a truly serious adult relationship he obviously didnt love you. You said you now have a relationship with a guy who loves you. If he truly does then focus on your relationship with him. Delete old pictures of you and your ex, or get rid of them. Anything that might remind you of him, old gifts, clothes. Trust me might be a little drastic, but I was engaged to a girl for four years, and when we broke up I couldn't get over her. I tried for years to get over her. Finally I got rid of everything that reminded me of her. Slowly the pain I had left over from the relationship faded and I was able to move on. As far as being friends with your ex, sometimes that is hard, especially when your trying to get over that person. Especially if your already in a relationship I must say that its not a good idea to spend time with your ex. Again, if your new man loves you, focus on that. You might not love him in return yet, but sometimes love doesnt just happen over night, you have to grow into each other. First you need to move on though, once you get your ex out of your head, you'll begin to feel more strongly for your new man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2009): your ex at the time probley wasnt ready for that sort of commitment as moving in with eachother and getting engaged is a huge step. you obviously still love him and are finding it hard to get over him, you need to try and let go of your ex, its hard but you will get there in the end. your ex obviously dont need you, so try and move on. you have a new boyfriend who loves you to bits and would do anything for you so if i was you i would keep hold of him. you cant let him fully into your life because you aint properly over your ex yet, but try your best to let him in your life as this could help you get over your ex. best thing to do is take small steps at a time and eventually you will get over him, trust me its hard but you'll do it. but the first thing you gotta do is accept he aint in your life anymore and let go. he cant be that bothered about you otherwise he would still be your friend now or contacted you. but if you feel you cant ever let go of your ex then dont string your boyfriend along coz it aint fair as he loves you and its not nice for him to ever feel second best. but my advice is try your best to move on and forget the past, just think about your future. good luck
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