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writes:There's this guy that I dated briefly many many years ago...we have called it quits romantically because of communication issues. When we were together though whew the chemistry we had. hehe But we stayed good friends. We were hanging out buddies you know. We got even closer during that time, even though there was nothing physical.There came a day where I realized that I wanted to see if I could find another relationship, and with seeing all the time I was holding myself back from doing that. I told him to call me sometimes if he wanted to, but we couldn't hang out anymore.He called! He called here and there throughout all these years, and there were even many times that I felt his calls were one of the only things I could count on.I saw him face to face only once in all those years. Also, I never once called him during the years. It was always him that called.Ok so now spring this year I *finally* agreed to meet up with him. Everything was great, and all the feelings and attraction etc were all still there. After a while, same as before, communication started to be a problem.It's really just alot of blah blah, but the bottom line is last thing he said to me was "it's better if we don't see each other anymore"No expanation. The communication thing you know. How or WHY would be a guy keep in touch with an ex for so many years and beg to see her again, only to get back to a face to face relationship for a few months, and then say we shouldn't see each other anymore?It's not a matter of attraction lol, trust me! But my intention in seeing him again wasn't even really for us to get back together, it's just that the attraction's still so strong, and maybe we both got overwhelmed...But my question is, what exactly did he mean by we shouldn't see each other anymore? (Aside from the obvious) And WHY did he say that?? (I know there's no way for you to have any clue right) and also, do you think he's still going to keep in touch through phone calls? I have no freakin clue what's going through his head, so I wouldn't dream of calling and potentially bothering him...
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2013): Hi there!
According to your story you just met once, face to face in all those years of communication and then when you finally decided to meet up, things changed not on your end but his.
It could only mean one thing. his not into you.
Women can say, i think its better not to see each other or lets forget each other without really meaning it.
But once men say it. its different. They really mean it.
He really don't want to see you, he say that because his not into you. Maybe he have a new girl in his life. Or maybe his getting married.
Or maybe he just don't want you to think that his romantically involve with you. for whatever his reasons are His just not that into you.
Sorry, if i sounded like super harsh. I just want you to open up your eyes, and look at the bright side. at least his not giving you false hopes.
No more phone calls too. unless his sad and wants someone to talk to because his sad and not because he attracted to you.
If i were you just forget about him.
But if your feelings for him are too strong, go ahead and tell him, ask him but prepare to get hurt, and after that I'm sure you'll get over it.
Good Luck..
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