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anonymous
writes:Im 19 and recently I kissed a guy when I was very drunk and came out to a lot of people as gay, the thing is I dont think I am gay and have corrected many of these people, I admit im probably bisexual but I dont know how I truely feel about anything anymore? I find men sexually attractive yet I dont really want a relationship with a man, I also find women sexually attractive but when it comes to actual sex im useless I dont get turned on even though I want to? I want to go out with women but am scared of lack of performance, yet I get turned on by men but dont want anything to happen exactly? There are few girls that I like at the moment and I feel like I can't get closer to them because im going to end up hurting them? Im a mess! What do I do to work out how I feel and about who?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2007): Dude... i feel the EXACT same way.
well... i used to. I think we're just late bloomers. I'm finally getting over the fear of "lacking performance". Learn to be more selfish.. just think of it as "getting off".
if you're like me.. you'll get over it.
gay guys are disgusted by anything sexual with women.. (like those straight people do).
why not meet in the middle??
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionQuick Update, I mite be all sorted now, went out the other nite got with a guy, dont feel bad about it plus I realised that I was far more turned on than when I am wiv a girl, also feeling really good about myself!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice maybe i need the time to have a think, maybe im just scared about what people around me would think...i mean if i concluded i was gay how would my family react if i told them and what would i do if they stopped supporting me?
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reader, cd206 +, writes (24 February 2007):
 It's okay to feel confused about your sexuality, especially when you're still young. I advise you to take some time out from thinking about or dating any men or women until it becomes clear what you want. If you're out every week kissing guys and girls you're bound to just get more confused so take a few steps back and think about it carefully. Time and space usually clears a lot of stuff up.
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