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writes:I have a problem now that im starting 11th grade boys are very tempting about sex. my boyfriend and i of 3 years had sex and now i feel all weird at first we didnt say that much 2 each other and now we talk alot.. for me loseing my virginity at 16 felt so weird and nast to me. my question is what i did waz it wrong like am i too young or should i tell a responsible adult. please help me.. Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (7 August 2010):
 I don't think you are too young age wise. But if you were ready for it is another thing. Laws about when someone is over the age of consent vary from 12-18 in the world. So most will say, around that age you are ready to decide if you are personally ready. You misjudged if you were personally ready or not. I don't think you should tell an adult. I mean what for. But, you could talk to your school counsellor. They could possibly talk this out with you, or send you to a therapist for a session or two, just so you can share how this experience has been for you.
Of course, if you have an adult that you trust and know will be willing to listen, talk to them about it. What I worry about is that they will scold you instead of helping you, and maybe embarrass you by telling others and not keeping it private.
But yes, as others mentioned.. if you didn't want to have sex, tell an adult. How old is your boyfriend? Check if what you did might have been illegal. He could potentially get in trouble.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2010): Girl,
you are just too young to get into all that which you have put your self in to under what pressure , i do not know. But plz plz get out of all this. Focus on the studies and be a good kid at this point in your family. you are just a kid.
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell  +, writes (7 August 2010):
 I agree with the others. If he forced you, tell someone. It's worrying you, tell someone.
If it didn't feel right, my guess is it wasn't. The fact that you've been together for a few years shouldn't be a deciding factor on what you do together. If you're uncomfortable doing it, and don't feel ready just say no in the future. If he loves you, he'll understand.
Talk to someone about this, a best friend or even a teacher that you completely trust. Having someone who isn't your boyfriend to talk to about this may make it easier on you and a bit less worrying now that you know you're not the only one who knows :)
xxx
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reader, Lilylove1 +, writes (7 August 2010):
My dear, did you feel you were ready for it? If you didn't and were pressured into it, talk to a counselor or parent. I know my advice is against what most would say, but if you wanted to do it and it turned ou not being so great, maybe talk to your boyfriend (who sounds very nice and trusting) or another good friend of yours who maybe had sex. If you tell your parents that you wanted to bit it turned out wrong, you'll get the whole 'i told you so' speech. So which one was it? Pressure I say talk to parents, wanted to but didn't like it talk to your boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2010): If it doesn't feel right, it probably wasn't right.
If you're comfortable with it and have no regrets then there is no problem as long as you used protection! But it doesn't sound like you are comfortable with it, and it sounds like you regret it.
If your boyfriend forced you then you definitely need to tell someone ASAP.
But beyond that try talking to your boyfriend or someone you trust and respect that won't punish you, judge you, share your secret or rat on you.
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reader, Sophiie.m +, writes (7 August 2010):
 if your worried, yes tell a responsible adult.
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