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writes:My daughter's dad and I are spending a lot of time together. I don't have the feelings I use to have for him anymore. He's cheated on me, twice, put me down...and now I see some change in him. The thing is that, it's not there for me. We have fun together. He have given up his rights of our daughter and of course, regrets it. I'm not too sure if he's like this because he wants his rights back or what. Per court order, he owes me his portion of what I have paid in full as well as the medical bills I haven't paid yet up to the date of when he signed his rights over. He's buying this and buying that. He's also on state assistance. When I bring issues like that up, he gets defensive. Plus, he has two kids from his first marriage in which their mother is coming to see them this coming spring break for four days. Yes, she is staying with them but he's staying with me. The thing is that, he wants me to meet her. My question to him is, why? Need some advice on how to go about this situation. Please!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your responses. I've made up my mind...NOPE! Not meeting the lady who gave up custody of her two kids from his first marraige.
Ask_oldersister: We both have an understanding however, we're not an item. He assumes since we're spending time together, we're an item. From time to time, I would have to remind him about that. I've stopped so many things that we've been doing. He's wondering why I ignore him and then again, gotta throw him the reminder sign.
Collary: As far as visiting rights....he has none. He gave up his rights because, his words, I made him do it. Not sure how.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (12 March 2008):
 Since you both have his kids . You are all related even if you don't wish to see her.It will be up to you to decide.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (12 March 2008):
 Hi,
this is a really complicated situation, but only because your ex has made it so. He has spread his seed throughout the land and has children lining up all over the place.
So it's no wonder anyone involved in his life lives it in turmoil. But the solution in this case is easy, "No, I do not want to meet your ex". It's as simple as that. Remind him of his visitng rights ( if he has them )and that is all the contact you need with this man.
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