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writes: Dear cupid What is on the market to enhance a womens sex drive? Men have viagra.What about women?Is it hormone shots.I have herd of some creams.There has to be something out there.Men have a high level of testosterone can women take it to?I simply think if my wife were to take something to boost her libeto,we would be a happy couple.I am very horny i need release twice a day.I would be happy if my wife would be interested twice a week.She really dont like her nipples rubed or her clit its just wam bam.I like slow for play with toys and nylons.Its been 21 years together.Try having a stale peace of bread and a glass of water for years.I here as a couple you have to keep it interesting or you loose interest in each other.I love my wife and would like to keep 100% focus on her but whats a man to do when she is cold and not willing.I masturbate so much my hand stays sore.Is there some women sex enhancers out ther?Will a dr perscribe some thing?
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reader, Yos  +, writes (10 August 2006):
 Don't mistake how Viagra works. Viagra does not increase a man's sex drive, or make him want sex any more than he already does. What it does is make his penis hard. It's very possible to take Viagra and end up with a great big erection, yet have no desire to have sex.
In this context, a female viagra makes almost no sense. What would it do exactly?
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reader, i no how u feel  +, writes (10 August 2006):
Not knowing what your ages are this is only a guess. Is it possible that your wife is going through menopause? Has she always been not interested or is it only recently? If it is menopause that can reduce a womens sex drive and sometimes cause the vagina to be quite dry, this could make sex quite painful. Talk to her and see if there is anything that is worrying her. If she is going through menopause go to the dr with her and discuss the medical options with the dr. There is medication both prescription and herbal that can really help.
If i've got your ages wrong, then is it possible that she is just really tired from working, looking after your kids and keeping the house clean and everyone fed and happy? Maybe you could help her out around the house, let her put her feet up for an hour every night. Send her to have a massage or get her hair done. I'm sure she'd appreciate that. Show her that you love her, romance her, take her away on a romantic retreat for a weekend. Make her feel so special she won't be able to keep her hands of you.
I hope that my advice helps, even a little bit. Please just talk to her, tell her how much she means to you. PLease what ever you do don't look elsewhere for a release. Goodluck and don't give up!!!!!
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reader, Bev Conolly +, writes (10 August 2006):
 Nope, nope and nope. No ethical doctor will prescribe pills or testosterone shots for you wife (particularly if it's YOU doing the asking). Think about it. Testosterone makes boys into men; do you really want your wife to develop a deep voice, chest hair and an Attitude? Sure, a little bit of a shove in right direction might be a good thing for you both, but why isn't your wife doing the asking of her doctor?Womens' sexuality is a tricky thing. You can't just pump her full of male hormones with the hope that that'll fix her. Women's sexual interest is in our *minds*, not simply a physical drive, like men have. As her husband, you need to find out why she's not interested these days. Is it because she's tired? Is she working hard at home, or at her job? Or both? Does she feel neglected? Does she feel "fat"? If you have kids, does she feel more like a mum than a lover? Is she bored? Does she need a holiday? Does she need female friends to spend time with? Has she been checked by her doctor?There are a thousand reasons why she could have lost the sexual spark. You need to talk with her and try to find out what her Top Three are, and see if together you can address them.Try to explain to her that you have needs that aren't being met. Show her that you can compromise on those needs (you ARE compromising, aren't you?) and ask if she'll try to meet you in the middle. A good place to start is with her GP, who can send her for blood tests and maybe a referral for depression.From the sound of your question, you might also need to realise that your wife is not just a receptacle for you. Most modern women work, raise kids and take care of the majority of household chores with the result that they're EXHAUSTED by day's end. Her lack of sexual interest might be a direct result of simply being too tired to care.So, rather than look to pills and creams, look at whether you can lighten her workload, either by doing half the housework, or getting someone in to do it for you. You might also do a careful self-examination and be sure that you're not expecting sex when you're at your least attractive... say, after you've been drinking, or when you're sweaty or need a shave. Think about the way you'd hope your wife would appear to you under ideal circumstances, and try to do the same for her.
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