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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 4 years now and I love him more than anything in the world. His very best friend lives in Canada and comes to visit every year at summer time. They are inseperable and are the best of friends. My boyfriend recently suggested the idea of a threesome with his best friend and at first, I refused, but now a few months ago I agreed to the idea. I have spoken to both my boyfriend and his best friend on multiple occassions and it seems like it could work out. But my only concern is that it might affect their friendship and I don't want that to happen. Is it a bad idea to have a threesome with a best friend? I don't think either one of us is comfortable with doing it with a stranger, but could this have a negative impact on their friendship? The last thing I want to do is cause him to lose his best friend or cause any trouble for us.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2008): Threesomes can and have worked.
But it is extremely rare that they do and the people involved are usually single at the time.
If you do have a threesome, get a professional sex worker. This eliminates any and all emotional attachments as they are paid to have sex, not form emotional friendships and you will be nothing to them, ever, but a means to an end.
It's cold, but if its just a sex thing, then avoid bringing in friends... this in all likelihood lead to awkwardness for at least one of you.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (19 July 2008):
 I think I need to state my bias first: I wouldn't share my woman.
This, dear poster, is one of the cases when I read between the lines and take the post to mean more than just the words the poster wrote. Forgive me if I go too far in my trying to outguess what happens here.
If it was your boyfriend who suggested the threesome, then most likely he feels that his friendship wouldn't be affected if his friend slept with his wife. Particularly if the three of you have been discussing it for some time.
I don't think it's your boyfriend's friendship with that guy what bothers you. I think you don't want the threesome, and need to find a way out of that yes you gave some time ago. You don't need it: if you don't want the threesome, of if you don't want the idea of perhaps affecting their friendship, whatever, then just don't agree to it anymore. You're in control here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2008): Sweetie, a threesome is a bad idea, period. Don't do it.
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