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writes:3 weeks ago I told this guy I was seeing for almost 5 months that I didn't want anything to do with him anymore, after an argument about where the whole thing between us was going. Our relationship had been going round in circles since February (through no fault of mine) and I just felt pretty messed about, so I just wanted to get over him. Deleted him on facebook etc etc. Naturally though I still really care about him and would give anything for it to actually work out between us.I saw him 2 weeks ago at a club and blanked him as I was still pretty mad, even though he spent the night standing close to me and staring at me.On tuesday night, I went out again with a group of my friends, knowing he was going to be there somewhere aswell. As it was his birthday, I planned to maybe just smile at him and leave it at that. At one point, me and one of my friends went outside for some fresh air and as soon as we stepped out the door we walked into an argument between him and my other friend who was really drunk and demanding answers from him about the downfall of mine and his relationship. I know she only meant well, but it was really unnecessary seeing as it was nothing me and him hadn't already gone through a million times before. As far as i know, he just kept saying things along the lines of 'i care about her but it wouldn't work and now i'm just getting yelled at' (he was really drunk too). I know he wouldnt have initiated the argument. But he seemed really angry.I was just stood there not knowing what to do but the whole thing just ended up in me saying "happy birthday" to him which he seemed to appreciate- it was the first time we'd spoke in 3 weeks and he kind of took hold of my hand and smiled and looked me right in the eye. After this, whenever i passed him in the club he'd kinda grab me so id have to turn and acknowledge him, which isn't what I want at all as he did do wrong by me and i'm still mad at him for it :/. But it was really obvious to me that night that he really does like me and he really does still care so it was all kind of reassuring in a way.The next day I woke up feeling really bad about what had happened between him and my mate, i know what my mate is like when she's drunk and the whole situation was un needed and could have potentially ruined his birthday night out. I texted him saying- 'Hey it's Laura, I dunno if you still have my number or not, I just wanna say sorry for whatever happened between you and natalie last night, the last thing i wanted was for everything to get dragged up again, she just thought she was doing the right thing. I hope u have a nice birthday x".I don't really know whether I was expecting a response from that text or not, but I didnt get one. I just kinda want advice on what to do now? Or what is he thinking? Does he resent ME for what happened with my friend? Is he playing the "ill pretend i dont care" game? Or am I just being really childish and getting a taste of my own medicine from when I was ignoring him? I really don't want this to end in me and him actually hating each other!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2011): "so I just wanted to get over him. Deleted him on facebook etc etc. Naturally though I still really care about him and would give anything for it to actually work out between us"
So why blank him when you saw him at the club?
"Or am I just being really childish and getting a taste of my own medicine from when I was ignoring him?"
Yes, you've been ridiculously childish.
"I really don't want this to end in me and him actually hating each other!"
Then stop playing stupid games. This is the sort of behaviour of a 13- or 14-year old teen at school. Grow up or move on.
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