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writes: I fell in love with my ex boyfriend's brother. We became good friends while I was with his brother. I broke off with his brother about two years ago because he has a really difficult and selfish character. Even though it was hard for him when I left, we ended up in good terms. I started to have feelings for him while I was still in a relationship with his brother, but kept it a secret for some time. It was really difficult because I lived with his brother and then he moved right next door, we started to hang out a lot, and thats when i started to have feelings for him, but they were not as strong as they are now. Time passed, I had a couple of not so seruous relationships, but we always stayed as good friends, hanging out once in a while, and there was always a romantic and sexual tension between us. Then we became coworkers and thats when everything exploded. One day we made love, we acted out normally, but i was totally in love, I noticed he was the person I wanted. We had some texting. flirting, and the friendship continued. Then it happened again, i wrote a love letter for him, he was touched i told me he thinks he will never meet a woman like me, but that his brother will hate him for being with me. I tried to stop, but we still flirt, see each other too much since we work together. There has been some drama between us, which makes me sad because I love him too much, and i wanted the road between us to stay clean. I dont know what to do, i tried to stop talking to him but working together makes it hard, and also makes me too sad, Hes really my friend and I will miss him too much, his jokes, his laugh, his way of being nice and humble, his selfless way of treating everybody, we have such an incredible chemistry, im afraid i will never give up on him in my heart. Its too scary and I am mad at myself since we we first meet( I was only 16) he was flirty and nice with me but I ignored him and ended up with his brother. I really need an advice, Ive been too depressed lately since the other day we kissed and made out, it was romantic, sad and sexy, it leaves me wanting for more, but It cant be. Help!!!!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (24 April 2012):
 This is a really hard situation that you have got yourself in to. But I guess there are only two ways to get out of this. Either sit down and talk to his brother and tell him how you feel about him and see what he has to say, you may be surprised that it might not bother him as much as you would both think. Off course I know you wouldn't want to get in between two brothers but it is worth a try to talk to him and see how he would feel.
If you are both not up for that, then the only other way to go around it is to try and avoid any contact with him outside of work. Keep contact to a minimal at work and give it some time. I know it will be hard but it would be for the best. It will take time and effort and heartache but it will get better in time.
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