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*lizaS01
writes:I've always been the quiet one in my group of friends and the one with no confidence but i really want to be like my other friends, they're so confident and know how to start conversations. How do i come out of my shell and be less quiet and hidden?
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reader, watsername1523_  +, writes (11 August 2012):
 I seem to have this same problem. But i'm learning to becoming less shy and to talk more. I really think it all starts with how you see yourself. Build up your confidence. Maybe try something different with your hair (example) if you don't like it, little things can boost your confidence, try something new (join a club, band, activity, etc) but instead of trying to fix EVERYTHING you don't like about yourself, focus on what you do like. I'm sure you're a very pretty girl.As for social, try talking about things you like (music, movies, classes, etc). I'm sure your friends will help you out. But like I said try joining and activity, something you'll like, so that way you'll find people that have similar interests. I'm everything will be alright, good luck! :)
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reader, Atsweet1 +, writes (10 August 2012):
 I tend to be both depending on situations you have to be bold that's what I tend to do when I was younger I was shy,insecure and unsure but be yourself there's always a quiet one in a group I perfer those types myself soft spoken is cool people like myself we tend to like to hear ourselves talk
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2012): It sucks right?! Im also 16-17 an i can assure you, ive been there before. You dont have to worry about coming out of your shell, normally what you have to do is keeping it natural. The more you worry is the more you get nervous and the more the conversation gets weaker then boring. Let me give you a few simple steps that ive experienced myself: 1. Always look clean and well organised 2. Get involved- the more you do, the more people you will get used to. So try out a soccer or a netball team or any group/team that you like.3.Act confidently-even if you dont feel confident, act as though you're confident. You will be surprised at how positively people respond, which will give your confidence a BOOST!4.Accept compliments- think about a way to handle compliments. Do you shrug them off or do you take them seriously? You are entitled to be praised, you should accept compliments!5.Be as prepared as possible- whatever the situation is, be as prepared as possible. This will make you feel in control and raise your confidence.6.Focus on solutions-if you are lacking confidence in a particular area of life, dont dwell on the problem. Rather think of possible ways of dealing with it.7.Lastly. .SMILE:) - a smile is a very powerful facial expression that can even destroy your enemies. This few steps helped me improve my self-confidence and self-awareness. I hope they help improve yours too. .gudluk ;-)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (10 August 2012):
 It can be hard to be more out spoken and loud when you are used to being quiet and shy. But it is all about gaining self confidence and learning how to make conversation with people. Take it in small steps. Start yourself off by giving yourself small goals. Write them down so you have something to follow and to reach towards. Maybe the first couple of weeks agree to yourself that you will smile and x amount of people and say hello and how are you to others, and just gradually work your way up. Practice in front of a mirror to yourself things what you could say to people to get to know them more.
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