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writes:I have been with my girlfriend 2 and a half years now. We have 2 children aged 4 and 6 months (one is ours, one is my partners from a previous relationship).Recently she has seemed really off with me for no apparent reason, blaming a lack of sex at the beginning of our relationship as the main cause even though she knows the problems I had which resulted in my circumcision, talking about us living separately, about her getting a house on her own with the kids and most recently saying we should just be friends.Now I know for a fact I cannot be "just friends" with her because she is my world! I am completely in love with her and she is on my mind every hour of every day. I think she is the most beautiful woman I have ever met and their is no way I can put my feelings aside and act as friends. Also, I want to be their for our children. I don't want my son growing up in a split family, I want us to all be together as one. I want to be able to see him grow, learn new things and be with him every single day, not having him "go to his dad's" on set days each week. Our daughter as well, I have been there for most of her life now and I have seen her grow up, helped her learn and progress, I want to be there for them both.I know I haven't done anything wrong and even so I would still do absolutely anything to try and change her mind, but I am out of ideas on what to do. I really need some help as I cannot live without my girlfriend and our little family. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2014): I'm sorry your in that situation. Maybe you could save up for a little vacation just the two of you to a place she always wanted to go to and make it all romantic like flowers nice restaurant that kinda stuff and leave the kids with a trusted family member. Or maybe pamper her for a weekend buy her flowers get her stuff for a nice bubble bath and light the bathroom with candles rent her some movies and cook her a nice dinner while you take care of the house and kids. If none of that stuff work than there might be nothing you can do if she truly is unhappy you might end up having to tell her exactly how you feel and what she means to you and how you feel when she says those things and what your worried about. Good luck.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (4 July 2014):
 Did I read this right? There was lack of sex because of problems, and you had circumcision because of that. Still the problem is not fixed and I am guessing lack of chemistry. I don't know about her other relationship but she is having a kid with someone she does not love. She talks about getting a house on her own like it's easy to do so. Either she is an heiress or she likes having children, more of them to get support from the government? There was no mention of marriage. Not that it is a requirement but it seals your commitment and ensures that you are serious about long term. You can't force feelings on a person. But if you do find love again maybe a potential step mom can just give him the love he needs.
She could be having post partum, and a repulsion of sex could be normal. However to talk about living separately, as if needing no help from you at all is extreme. Only someone who has no devotion to you could say something like this. There are women who want to be single moms and having nothing to do with boyfriends or husbands. I simply don't understand such women.
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