I just want the old husband back.

A female age 51-59, *orried navy wife writes:

I am a Navy wife of almost 6 yrs, and at first it was really good, I was his princess, and he spoiled meall the time. Well, my husband went to ship duty a yr and a helf after we were married. The first 3 deplyments were fine, emails everyday and always, but this new ship my husband was put on since spring 08 things has changed him to a totally different person. Now, I do not have the best health, and have had alot of surgeries, so I am sick alot, but this is something he has always supported and always helped me thru it all. Since this new ship, he has got a higher position, therefore females call if they need to about work (suppose to be about work). My husband had been on a short 1 month deployment, and as soon as he got home this female (that calls quite often) calls him to gossip, something that could have waited till Mon. when he got back to work. Then not an hr later she text him. I ask him to call and ask her to please not do that, he did not do it, so I picked up the phone and woman to woman(if u want to call her that) I ask her to please do not call unless its to do with work, especially when he just got back from deployment with her (she is on his ship). Now back to this deployment he left 8/28/08 and I have received 7 emails since he has been gone, and all of them have been nothing but worrying about his shpmates that he is over, and nothing really nice to say to me at all. When I ask him about it, he says he is sick of the questions, and tired of me always thinking something is going on. I have a mass on my side (I am a smoker) and I had a CT scan today to findout what it is, and this man has not even ask if I had it done, how it went, nothing, but he was worried about his sailors being treated unfair. He has started taking more money out of his check, and has never done this while on deployment. Please help me, is he frustated with his job, or is it me? I have lost sleep night after night over this, and I amalready in bad health, what do I do, how can I find out the truth, and should Ibeleive him when he has lied about being on singles sight and all kinds of stuff. I need peace of mind, but I love him, I just want the old husband back.

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