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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend kissed another girl on a night out a few months ago. We were having problems at the time. I was suspicious and checked his phone and then I text the girl and asked her (very nicely) what happened and if she wouldn't mind not getting in touch with him again as we were going to work things out. Things have been a lot better lately however this morning. I downloaded whatsapp to keep in touch with my friends in group texts. I had forgotten to delete this girls contact and it came up in my whatsapp with a picture of her. Basically in my head, I had pictured this girl as fat and ugly to help me get on with it. But she's not, she's young, really pretty and kind of slutty looking. I'm devastated all over again. I keep thinking, why didn't he go off with her and just break up with me, she's not like me - she wears a lot of makeup and lovely hair. I don't wear much makeup. My boyfriend has always said he prefer the naturally look. And he likes me when I don't wear makeup. Well this girl is one of those girls that's always done up to the nines. I feel like I can't compete and it's torn my self esteem apart again!! What so I do? I know it's silly and all because I know he wanted to work it out with me because he loves me. But I know he fantasizes about the curvier sluttier girls like when he's masturbating. Why doesn't he go for those kind of girls in relationships? I mean, I'm pretty but so natural and dull looking beside these dressed up young girls that are all about the selfies. I'm completely shook in work trying to hold back the tears!!
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (20 May 2014):
 He sees more than a pretty face in you and that is why he is with you and not her. Like you said he could have got this younger girl but he still chose to be with you and work things with you. Don't compare and accept that he loves you and wants to make things work with you. I bet any one can look beautiful with make and a sexy dress but that is not always enough. So you BF has everything he wants in you looks, mind and above all he loves you.
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reader, Biibi  +, writes (24 April 2014):
Be proud of who you are! You are probably way prettier than all those girls wearing make-up. And your boyfriend knows that.
Maybe he kissed that girl because he was angry with you (you mention you had a conflict at the time), so he tried to choose someone who wouldn't remind him of you.
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