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*llaAmelia
writes:Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 and a half years. We've seen eachother through really rough times and we do love eachother, but we decided to have an open relationship. I don't want an open relationship anymore though but he has a problem with commitment. He's never cheated on me, but he did sleep with one of my female partners when me and her were together and now i can't trust him at all. I think I'd rather have an open relationship than none at all but I'm not happy with it being open. Should i call it quits after everything if he can't commit or just wait?
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reader, Lucky786 +, writes (10 July 2011):
 You want an open relationship rather than none at all but you're not happy with it being open...?
To me you're just talking about degrees of being unhappy. Why settle for second best? If you want to be in a committed relationship with this man but he doesn't then you have a problem as your expectations and his are different so perhaps you need to call it a day with this guy and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2011): I would suggest having a talk with him and expressing that you are not happy with the situation. After 3 and a half years if he is not happy with committment in your relationship he never will be. Perhaps it is partly to do with your ages and the fact that he may feel that he is too young to be in a monogamous relationship. Nevertheless, if he feels that way, and you can't come to an agreement, perhaps it is a good time to walk away, as harsh was it is, to prevent further pain (other than the pain that comes from the end of a relationship, that is :( ). Good luck!
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reader, sammy1986 +, writes (10 July 2011):
if you don,t want a open relationship anymore i would tell him so if you don,t tell him he will think you are happy with the relationship and clearly your not just tell him you want to talk to him and explain to him how you feel
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reader, van1llabeeen87  +, writes (10 July 2011):
 If you don't want an open relationship anymore and he simply cannot commit than the logical thing for you to do would be to walk away. If you stay in that relationship without actually wanting it to be open anymore; you're going to get hurt.
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