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writes:im 13 and i dont understand many things about sex yet. i havent had the talk yet and i really dont wanna have it. i would rather ask on the internet so i am.1st questionis it normal for someone my age to masturbate? because i do all the time.also i dont like to use my fingers so i use a hair brush handle, is there anything else i could use other than sex toys.2nd questioni think ive been horny b4 bot im not sure. because every time i look at my bestfriend i wanna masturbate (does this mean im gay?)3rd questionive never had an orgasm and i realy want to, is there any way that i could give myselfe one?i feal sooo stupid asking these questions because the answers r probably obvious but PLEASE help me im clueless
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reader, ChristineAvril  +, writes (7 March 2010):
 Oh yes, it is perfectly normal for someone of your age (almost any age, actually!) to masturbate.
At your age, any stimulus will do mit for you and it doesn't mean that you are gay, just experimenting.
Relax: the harder you try and the more you make it an issue, the more difficult it will be for you to cum. Just find some "alone" time when you are sure not to be interrupted and be naked but warm, and take your time caressing your whole body, not just the pinkl bits, to get an idea of what feels good to you.
I would advise against using too much in the way of food, as has already been suggested, but if you can't get a dildo, try a banana or cucumber, but wrap it in cling film - I think you call it seran wrap inn the States - which makes it safe to enter you even if it does break up.
What do I do?
Ok, my favorite technique is using the bathtub mixer tap because it has great pressure. I just put myself, "Y-shaped" under the tap with the water at a warm temperature and let the water hit my clit and occasionally move around to find the best spot. I know it’s working when my legs shake against the wall.
It helps me to think about humping as I do it-humping the floor, the furniture, a bloke, anything…it really turns me on.
My other technique, which can be done before sleep, is to just lay in bed and have an erotic fantasy. Then when my clit begs to be touched, I reach down and rub it in circles with one or two fingers until I orgasm!
Both ways work great, try them!
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reader, tutu8896 +, writes (7 March 2010):
a am the person who wrote this question and i just want to thank u all 4 ur help
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (7 March 2010):
 Considering your age, I can say that it is not something that you cannot 'understand', but cannot even 'feel'. It is quite possible that you will do many sexual thing, but without feeling its real taste. Because, your doing is guided by 'instinct' and not by 'intention' and 'concentration'. After acquiring mature age, required mental element will work automatically. But, keep learning.
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reader, angel78  +, writes (7 March 2010):
It is normal to masturbate. It is safer to use a dildo if you can get one. And make sure you get the sanitiser for it. be careful what you use and how clean they are, make sure they are clean.
Your sexuality is your decision but sometimes at a young age it can be confusing. Just because there is appreciation of the female body doesn't mean your gay. i have female friends who prefer to watch gay porn but are straight.
Sometimes different positions while masturabating can help orgasm and as the previous replier said rubbing your clitoris. I have found it it easier to have a clitoris orgasm using lube and knowing I wont be disturbed. it lets me get in the moment.
Hope this helps.
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reader, veronika +, writes (7 March 2010):
 1. Yes, it's normal for someone your age to masturbate.
2. Only you can come to conclusion of your sexuality. I, personally, identify as straight but in the past I've thought about females sexually. It doesn't necessarily mean you're gay, some people just like to experiment with their feelings. And if you masturbate regularly then chances are you've definitely been horny before.
3. A clitoral orgasm is the easiest type of orgasm for women, generally. At least, I've found that to be the case with me. Rub your clitoris, or the side of your clitoris and think about something that turns you on. Eventually, you'll orgasm. Just be comfortable and let go of any worries and only think about the job at hand.
And don't worry about not knowing much about sex, most people at 13 don't know everything about it (even if they're doing it!).
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2010): 1) yes thats normal, I've used a hairbrush handle before too. You could also use water..Like in the bathtub..use the faucet, lay under and put ur legs up. start with the water low and turn the pressure up & up..thats how i had my first orgasm
And if u don't want to get a sex toy, u could find something else, like a cheap toothbrush the vibrates??..stay away from food. this girl in my highschool tried a hotdog, well, a piece broke off and she had to go get it removed..stay away from anything small in general :p
2) i wouldn't say u r gay. at your age, ur hormones are going up and down and all kinds of other crazy stuff. If u do chose to experiment with a girl, just remember pleasure is pleasure whether it comes from a girl OR boy, meaning its possible to like it either way. So it may be wise to wait a year or two till ur hormones settle down. You r 13 and it would be better to wait rather to get confused on who u really are. Plus kids are not very nice at you age and could spread nasty rumors
3)well i mentioned that idea with the water..it made it easy for me :/
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reader, lily13524 +, writes (7 March 2010):
 I understand,i have been there,i will try to answer the questions to the best of my ability.I am 14 soon to b 15.And it is normal for people around your age to masturbate,i think you can use a vibrator,you can get these anywhere if you are of a legal age,so you can give the money to a well trusted adult to buy you this!well,i am not sure for the second questions,maybe the other aunts might help you,but again its perfectly normal to masturbate.For the third question you just have to know how to pleasure yourself and maybe naturally one day whiles masturbating you might have an orgasm.If you are thinking whats an orgasm well no one cant perfectly explain this but from what im hearing its a an enjoyable release built up tension and energy and some also say it is an intense sensation that men and women feel when they are at the maximum height of sexual arousal,also known as climax.
xoxo melisha xoxo
if you have anymore question just message me.
hope i help
gud luck in life ;)
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (7 March 2010):
 Don't feel stupid about asking these questions. I knew nothing until I was 16.
First Question: Yes it is very normal. About other sex toys...i`m not sure as I don`t use them. That doesn`t mean you are not normal for using them.
Second Question: I don`t know if you are gay, bi, or straight. In time you will figure this out about yourself. Just because you are attracted to one person does not mean you are bi, gay, or straight.
Third Question: I really don`t know...
Good Luck!
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