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*yberDog
writes:Dear CupidMe and my girlfriend have been going out for the last 4 months. It has been a very passionate, deep, caring relationship, but it came with a lot of squabbles, arguments over little things. My girlfriend has the tendency to go quiet on me if I start getting vocal about something or if I tell her there's something I don't agree with or like. Then she just wants to get off the phone cos she is irratated. The next day she sometimes carries on the grudge until I beg her to tell me what's bothering her. Last nite we had a huge argument, we both said things we don't mean. I told her I don't want her to be friends with certain people cos they're bad news and I mentioned double standards. We both lost it a bit and instead of talking civilly it broke out into a huge fight. Today she tells me she wants me to give her space to think about her feelings for me, and about us, she wants to be alone. I don't know what to do, I feel like I'm losing her, it seems we can't communicate properly! HELP !! Reply to this Question
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT  +, writes (17 July 2007):
 Hi there babes,
You been together for four months and your telling her not to be friends with certain people, well to be honest I wouldn't like my guy telling me who I can and can not be friends with would you???
If there is a problem with certain friends you should have told her that you love and care about her and that you get concerned when she is with certain friends, not told her to give them up....
She obviously needs her space right now so respect her for it, the only thing I can suggest when she is ready to talk is to tell her you were wrong to pick what friends she has and to be there for her.....
I don't know what type of friends your talking about here and obviously your concerned for her but be a little bit more diplomatic about it babes....
I hope you both manage to talk this through properly without the big fights..........
You do sound like a lovely guy because your obviously concerned and want to do the right thing so good luck babes,
Love Donna xx
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reader, Dr. Nikki +, writes (17 July 2007):
 Sounds Serious... it has been 4 months if you are arguing like this already are you sure its meant to be.. giving her space is a good thing and as long as you dont intrude in that space she will eventually come round. Us girls are awkward! I suggest you text her and tell her you both need to sit down and talk EVERYTHING through to let each other know where you both stand and see what happens from there. Good Luck.
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