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writes:I want to be able to love again and be loved. The father of my child emotionally hurt me after all I've done for us to maintain a stable living situation. Our relationship at that time was rocky because I couldn't trust him (he's cheated on me), our finances were going down hill (I had to put my bills on the side so I can pay the main utilities, i.e. eletricity, gas, rent, FOOD, whatever the kids (we have one child together and he has two from a previous marriage) for school, etc). His check was only enough for his truck payment and car insurance and that was it. His family members would have to help him. He just gave what he could which was hardly anything but it was something. It was rough for the both of us. I love him, I stood by his side while he was serving his time in the "brigg" (military prison) for two months, taken care of his two kids and I was pregnant, working full time to maintain the household, picking up and dropping off his son to whatever sporting activity he's participated in and don't forget paying the bills. I just couldn't take it anymore, not trusting him, my stress level way beyond what I could handle, finances, not spending time with my daughter, not having time to myself and being on post pardum. I had no support system from him. Telling me things will get better although at that time, it'll be when our daughter graduates from college when things will be okay. I miss him, I love him. I can't stop thinking about him. I tell myself, I need to move on. I don't deserve him for all he's done to us ( my daughter and I). A friend of mines said, "Get mad enough to move on". I do and it works but I miss him. Is it maybe because I am lonely or I am not over him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionU are right! I have commited myself to that relationship. Now he's with another woman. I feel sorry for her because she doesn't know what she's in for. According to him, he puts his two cents in it. I am still hurt by all this. I hate it. I hate what he's done to us. Thank you.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (29 June 2007):
 I guess the problem is, you have committed a lot to this relationship and then it's so difficult to let go of it. Maybe you think that if you just wait a little longer he will change. It's easier to move on when you can get mad at the person, but, I think all you need is the conviction that you cannot continue with things as they are now.Good luck.
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