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writes:I'm in a bit of a dilemma. My problem is that after quite a number of years living in my own house I have now put it on the market to sell. It is now under offer. The reason I decided to sell is because I just can't see any future here for me or my son and I feel i'm going to be stuck in a rut if I don't do something now. I don't have a permanent job. There is no love in my life and I don't have many friends to rely on so I am really not happy with the status quo and feel I wont' have much to lose. To add to my dilemma my ex is getting married soon and he lives only 5 minutes away from me. I am not happy about it but there is nothing I can do. He hardly makes contact with his son. He really isn't bothered about keeping in touch or supporting his son. Part of my reason for leaving is to do with him too. I feel that when he gets fed up of his situation, I will always just be a fall back for him to pop in to see when it suits him which he seems to do from time to time. Not that anything is going on now but I don't want him to think he can use me for as long as I'm around. He has no idea that I'm thinking of leaving. Anyway my intention is to leave the country and stay with my mum for a while. She now lives abroad and said that my son and I could stay with her until I decide what to do. After selling the house I would have quite a big lump sum but I wouldn't have enough to buy another home and I really don't want the responsibility of having another mortgage for now. I want to go away and run a business that I have been doing part time here for the past two years but I'd like to go abroad and do it as I really want to start anew somewhere else. I am looking really forward to a change but I keep thinking what if it doesn't work out. What will I do as I won't have no home or anyone to come back to if it doesn't work out for me and my son. What should I do and am I doing the right thing.
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reader, Royofthe Rovers +, writes (4 June 2007):
 There comes a point in everyones life when they have abig choice to make which could change things for ever, this is one of them.
Your situation and how its led you to feel no-one can blame you for and the thoughts about starting things a fresh are anatural progression. You are wanting to better yourself and your life and there is nothing wrong with that what so ever.
To me it sounds like something that you need to do as much to want to do. Your doubts about this are expected becuase this is a massive decision, with massive potential also. If your not happy with your life as it is, why not make that choice and do something brave like this. It is a massive confidence boost for you and gives you new goals and when done a great sense of achievement.
My opinion is go for it. As long as your sure your going for the right reasons then there should be nothing stopping you making anew life for yourself.
Alot of people think of doing something like this but back out because of the risk etc....But if you are sure and confident in what you want to achieve then go and make yourself happy.
i wish you all the best in finding your happiness..
R
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