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writes:Dear Cupid,Currently i'm in a relationship for 4 months with this girl i met...the thing is when she asked about my past, i only told her that i broke up with a girl once before about 2 yrs back..i never told her that a year after that i got rejected by another girl, or the previous rejections that i got (i thought those are insignificant)coz i'm just too afraid that she might get jealous and who knows that this could be a spark to start a fight and god forbid end our relationship....i know this sounds kinda silly, but i just wanna be honest and at da same time i'm scared that being too honest may come at a certain price..what should i do? i love her soo much and at the same time i wanna be honest as well...should i tell her? she told me once that whatever it is don't lie to me..what should i do?
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reader, coolcontrast +, writes (21 April 2011):
coolcontrast is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx, i'll keep that in mind..=)
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reader, Odds +, writes (21 April 2011):
 No reason to list rejections, unless she asks about rejections. We all have those, they're part of life and I don't see why you would even keep track.
Certainly, never lie, and never withhold information that would be pertinent to her happiness.
As for the group of friends, don't worry about it. Your girlfriend won't care if some chick mentions that you asked out one of her friends a year ago. Just treat everything as no big deal, and most people will follow suit. If anyone does something vindictive, call them out on it, tell them they ought ot be ashamed, and move on - they aren't worth the time to insult or get back at, just to call attention to. Even so, I think it's unlikely you'll ever have to do that.
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reader, coolcontrast +, writes (21 April 2011):
coolcontrast is verified as being by the original poster of the questionowh n i forgot to mention,after the rejection i kinda ignored the girl which happened to be my best friend..as a result all her close girlfriends (who were also my close friends) started hating me..im just afraid that if they found out about this new girl they might actually sabotage my relationship by mentioning the rejection to this new gf of mine...in which i hadn't told her bout da rejection..what do u people think?
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reader, coolcontrast +, writes (21 April 2011):
coolcontrast is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanx people, really appreciate it...now i feel less guilty..=)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2011): If she doesn't ask, don't bring it up. Sometimes ignorance really is bliss. Why does she need to know those things about your past... how should they be of significance to her? If she really loves you too, those things shouldn't matter anyway. But if she does ever happen to ask about your past in that way, don't lie then. Be honest and I'm sure you'd feel a whole lot better afterward than if you had lied about it.
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (21 April 2011):
 Why would she feel jealous if you got rejected? I think she'd me more apt to think, what's wrong with this guy he keeps getting rejected? No you don't have to tell her.
What would be the point, unless you think if she's jealous she'll somehow love you more or stick around more or it'll give you an ego boost to see her jealous over you. Besides it may all backfire on you as already stated above.
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