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writes:I am looking for a longterm relationship. so i started to join the online dating. I am 34 age old and i like to have a family. If i meet someone in person a couple of times, and like each other, but not sure whether we are the match. should i still see other person in person or i should only see one person at some period??I just kind of feel run out of time, as i believe truly known a person does take time. at least one year. what do you think how long to know a person before marriage or relationship?
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reader, traeumerin242  +, writes (24 April 2012):
Being in between friends and boyfriend/girlfriend is just fine at the moment. It means that there are feelings present, but he doesn't see you as actually dating just yet. He told you that he is interested in you, so my gut says that he may just want a few more dates with you to make sure his feelings for you are real and that he wants you as his girlfriend. Maybe his schedule with work and the fact that you work weekends has meant that he cannot see you as often as he'd like, so he hasn't been able to make a decision yet.
In the meantime, you should feel free to see other guys as long as you are honest about it with the guy you're interested in. Tell him upfront rather than after you see other guys so that he is aware of what you are doing. If he isn't sure about whether he wants the relationship, then he should have no problem with you seeing other guys. If he does want the relationship, he may still encourage you to see other guys for a little just so you're sure you want the relationship with him. However, if he seems to have a problem with you seeing other guys, then that may be a sign that he does want a committed relationship with you. At that point, you should not see other guys until you figure out what needs to happen between you and the guy you're interested in. Hopefully, it turns into a committed relationship shortly after that. If it doesn't seem to be going anywhere, then it's time to look elsewhere.
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reader, judith2012 +, writes (24 April 2012):
judith2012 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your help. Reallly appreciated it.
I am not western background,so sometime feel hard to start dating. I made one mistake already, like the things go right this time. thank you very much again.
I like to be loyal to the man i like or love, but not sure whether seeing other guys is acceptable. I asked him once, where relationship we are in at moment, he answered between friend and girl/boyfriend? My gut feeling he is not that interested in me, but he said he is, just got so busy with work. plus, i work at weekend sometime. hard to find time to date. But he said he is not dating someone else. Therefore i was a little confused.
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reader, traeumerin242 +, writes (23 April 2012):
Nothing says you couldn't see another person a few times, just to make sure your feelings for your current interest are genuine. I'd suggest that you go on a date or two with the other person, and then start up a casual relationship with your current interest. Let him know upfront that you are really looking for the long-term thing, but you're not quite ready to commit to exclusive dating. A few weeks to a couple months after you start dating your interest casually, you can decide whether you want to take your relationship to the level of a committed, exclusive relationship.
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