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writes:I have been involved with a man now for 4 years and found out that he has been sleeping with other women probably the whole time he has been with me. The way i found out was I called his house to see what was going on and another women answered. She then proceeded to tell me that she was engaged to this man and was carrying his child. Now three months later I call the house again and the same women was in his house. He told me the first time he dealt with the problem and it wouldn't happen again. Well it did and I feel so disrespected. How do I tell this man I need to call it quits.I can't take it anymore it's all to painful.
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reader, babygirl63 +, writes (16 July 2008):
babygirl63 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo give an update on the situation it goes like this. I went down to the mans job to confront him about why he had done what he had done and it turned out to be a very ugly situation. He screamed at me so bad that i was in such a total state of shock. i know what i did was wrong and tried to say i was sorry for that but he kept screaming and telling me to get the F*** away from him that he didn't want to hear anything I had to say etc.. He also told me that I disrespected him by coming to his job and really don't see how i did this. All I wanted was to talk about what was going on. As I write this i still can't believe that after 4 years this is how he felt he needed to talk to me. If that isn't being rude and disrespecful I don't know what is. I do hope if nothing else ever happens ever in life between us i would like to believe the day will come where at least he will at least say he was sorry for how he spoke to me. Nobody deserves what i got.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): ummm....i'm just going on a whim here, but if he doesn't care or resptect you enough or even have the balls to tell you he's in another relationship, then why should you worry about finding the right words to tell him your done? Just call him up and tell him to "drop dead", and that you wouldn't mind if he did it "literally". I don't know you, but i'm guessing you deserve better than that anyway!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2008): hi
so you went to (his) house, maybe just maybe it was (their) house, after all she did say (they) were engaged and (they )were having (their) baby. she answered the door, he then tells you he dealt with the (problem!) was this problem the fact that some stray pregnant woman had found her way into his house and stole an engagement ring too? he was was admirable in letting you know he would deal with the problem . strangely enough three months later an even bigger bump answered the door. i wonder if the pregnant stray woman could not fit through the door to leave? disrespect! now then i wonder if she was telling the truth and maybe she wondered who the heck you were, just a thought for the other side of the door. stop fooling yourself and letting him fool you and his pregnant fiancee.
i would not even bother worrying about how to tell the man it's quits. I'm sorry it is painful for you but it must be worse for the poor mother of his child to be that has strange women turning up at there home and she has to live with the plonker. count yourself lucky you were on the other side of the door and dry your eyes while you take the tinted glasses off.
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reader, inloveoutofmind +, writes (13 July 2008):
first of all let me say that i am so sorry for what has happened. it would be wonderful to get even and sometimes it makes you feel happy and good but most of the time it doesnt i know this might sound juvenile but why dont you right all of your feeling and all of what you feel in a letter and mail it to him. he will read it and want to talk to you about it but you have two choices A) give into temptation and talk to him about B) ignore him but hint to him that whats done is done
you sound like a very nice woman who has met a very mean man but i wish you the best of luck :) remember that there are olenty of people who can make you happy good bye
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reader, bebe girlie  +, writes (13 July 2008):
Hmmmmmmm Hiiii.. I have a better idea for you.. Dont call him and tell him I quit .. IGNORE HIM .. dont answer his calls.. This drives a MAN C R A Z Y ... and if he calls u again put on loud music as if ur in a party and answer..."HUH hellooo sorry babe i cant heaaaaaaaaar yooooooooou .. Ill call u baaaaaaaaaCk..."........and dont call back... if he cals again dont answer ........ and if he calls again and again which he will.. pick up the phone as if ur sleeping and moan.. say another name intead of his name.......Play with him.......And ok so he might drop by .. so these days TEND TO LOOK UR BEST .. put on the best makeup u ever put on...the best dress.. 24 hours...when he sees you this way it will kill him... Men go crazy when they se a woman better off without them or lost interest in them... Try it and tell me what happenes
XOXO
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