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writes:I never thought that I would be asking advise from strangers, until now. i really need a second opinion.I always push away, people who cares for me. I push away my friend who did nothing but being a good friend to me.I broke up with my ex-bf without a valid reason just cause I am suspicious his not being truthful to me. i haven't proven anything yet. Then after him, I met 3 amazing men but I also push away for the fear of they might be insincere towards their feelings for me. The last one i really care about but i drove him nuts, now his ignoring me. When i said i drove him nuts, because I never showed i care for him or how i really feel for him, i told him my feelings but my action differs from my words. Its like I lied but I really really care for him. I might be In love with him for some reason I am not sure.His all I think of, even if we haven't spoken for so long. Now I'm driving myself crazy thinking of him. How can I stop myself from not trusting people. How can I learn letting them in my life without being negative?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2013): Hi there!It seems like you have a BIG Me Issues going on, in your life.I cannot disagree to the first advice given to you, maybe you have trust issues because of some bad experienced from the past.We all have bad experienced from the past.could be your best friend betrayed you or a bf cheated on you and so on and so fourth.Remember no man is an island. if you keep pushing away people who cares for you, you might be surprise to wake up one day knowing that the number of your enemies are greater than the number of your friends.My suggestion, is for you to pray hard and cry out to God every fears you have inside of you, and ask him to take it away from you because its not doing any good for you.I have a tendency to push away people i care about too, and its no good. So my suggestion to you try to change for the better because if you keep doing what your doing it will take away your happiness.I don't even know you, but i honestly do think that everyone deserves to be happy.If you think your in love with someone, and he makes you happy, tell him. Try to be humble sometimes.
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (27 June 2013):
 Sounds to me like you are self sabotaging your happiness. Maybe you suffer from abandonment and trust issues because of stuff that happened to you in your childhood. I'm only guessing here. I would advise that you see a therapist regularly to dig deep and figure out the root cause.
I used to do the same thing with people and it all stemmed from a childhood filled with all kinds of abuse. It took two years of weekly therapy for me to acknowledge, accept and forgive. It may not take that long for you, but therapy does help.
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