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writes:So I've been talking to this girl and she's kinda gone quiet the last couple days. We slept together on Wednesday night, so I know its not like I don't stand any chance with her like that lol. But we have been sleeping together for a couple months now. And we usually talk all the time. But I can't read her lately. She seems to have gone distant. And I can't tell if she's waiting on me to contact her or if she's just not interested at all in talking. A part of me thinks she's insecure because we had a fight the other day (which she vehemently apologized for) and now doesn't know whether I want to talk to her. When she came over on Wednesday night (days after our fight), she was adamant about knowing whether I really wanted her to come over or not and if I really was cool with her. And when she left, she expressed more insecurities. But we talked all that day like normal, and then she just kinda disappeared. So I've not been pushy, as it's not my style. But I don't know whether I'm supposed to reach out and contact her or just see if she contacts me. I don't want to seem desperate.To contact or not to contact? That's the question.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2016): Hi there, if you really like her and feel connection them I would say you should contact her. She probably feels stupid and if she has confidence issues she will not contact you. The question is whether you want to be with someone who needs constant reassurance from you...as this can get tiering after a while. Good luck
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (2 February 2016):
 Ask yourself where do you see this going with this woman? Do you want a relationship with her? Or is it just casual. Once you have figured that out then you can proceed.
You have already noticed that she is insecure, so maybe you should contact her. She might need that added push from you so that she knows you have forgiven her completely. Have you both spoke about a relationship? I think you need to be open with her about what you want and hopefully she will do the same with you. If she is insecure then she might be afraid off being to clingy so she is holding back.
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