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writes: My ex and I broke up in march. he jumped straight into a relationship with a new girl a few weeks later and not long later she moved in with him, everything happened so quickly it destroyed me as we have been through a lot in the 6 years we have been together but broke up due to a lot of arguments. at first I thought it was a rebound but it seems to have lasted. but recently my ex has been showing more interest and is more warm and friendly towards me. we have a child together so communication is a must! but phone conversation aren't just about our little girl anymore, we seem to be drifting into other discussions and they last a lot longer than usual. he also asked me if I wanted a run into town the other day. could he be finally missing me? or is he just making the effort to be friends?
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (3 November 2014):
 It's hard to say.
BUT my advice is this, keep it civil and don't get your hopes up that he wants to come back.
I would honestly avoid these long "memory lane conversations". Because you wouldn't be the first woman to get into a FWB relationship with an EX in HOPES that he wants more, when all HE might want is some extra sex with someone besides the GF.
There is a GOOD reason you two broke up. LOADS of arguments isn't good for a relationship and NOt good for a kid to watch either. But seeing their parents treating each other decently even If they aren't together is a good thing. For you, and your kiddo.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (3 November 2014):
 it's very good for children of parents that don't live together to see their parents getting along.
IF you don't plan on trying to make it work with him does it matter if he's missing you vs just behaving like an adult???
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (3 November 2014):
 Having a new girlfriend move in with him doesn't mean it is not a rebound. My assumption is that he has a short attention span and it's hard for him to devote to a person for long. Now that he is bored with the new one he's depending on an external source to give him the spark, and weren't you the best person since you had history. I would keep it strictly about your daughter. You don't want to be misled and get hurt by him again. You don't need to be friends to be civil with each other.
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