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writes:He does not manage to break-up... why?I have been dating a guy for about 1.5y including 1y on a distance relationship. We now live back in the same city. Things are not going well. We are getting closer and closer to breaking up. Still, he does not get himself to do it. To give one example, again, last night, after we had dinner, he talked about our options, i.e. 1) pause, 2) ignoring the pbl, 3) stop. I asked him whether he wanted to push the stop button as it was apparently the case. He replied "it is a hard button to push". I ended walking upstairs with him to his flat. I told him that there was no point for me to stay over if he did not have some slight desire for things to improve. He said he had. his scenario happens over and over. He pushes us to break up and we are about to do it, finally don t do it. I do not see why I should say it since I like him very much and I do not want to break up. I would appreciate your advice on a situation like this. Does he want to break up, or is he unsure? I am sad. I need your help. Reply to this Question
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reader, quarky  +, writes (29 July 2007):
 I reckon you should lay it on the line and not give him the luxury of an answer of anything other than 'yes' ot 'no'. Guys are like that, no grey areas.
You also need to work out whether YOU want he break up - sounds like you perhaps do - in which case, maybe it's you that has to make that decision?...
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