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writes:I have been invited to a friend of mine's house for a summer country party in the beach which is quite cool but there are 3 things I do not like about going:1. She has invited many people one of whom was ugly to me in the past and who I do not like very much, this guy says only goes if I go as if we were friends and there is a chance no one else goes and I do not want to be with him without other friends around.2. My ex lives nearby, we normally talk on the phone and he insists on we getting together or even getting married but he never makes the effort to come to my town, no he know I'm to go near he says he'll hang round for a drink but doesn't know when or how but that I should go to his house for a weekend and then we would see If we could make a new start, I'm not willing but feel his lack of interest as something I hold back against him somehow....3.I feel my the friend, who has invited me is a bit selfish wanting me to go alone with the guy I don't like so much to her house as she knows about this fact and when I told her I wouldn't go to her town for a girl's night without this guy one day she told him he would be invited any time I went, I talked to her and explained I respect if she likes him but also consider she should understand me not wanting him involved in all my free time activities because of her inviting him and so on.....She says she doesn't like him but insist on him coming around all time, is this normal???I think I need time away from those critisising all time or trying to get things out of me I do not want to share like time for been quiet or doing my own stuff Any tips??? sorry for so long an explanation cheeersAstrid
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2007): Thanks a lot I'm not going to go there I explained the friend who invited me there I have to work so that I prefer to stay home, the problem about the boy I dont want around is that he is so bad tempered and gets me nervous I do not want to argue neither cope with him and my friend doesn't want to understand, I explained point 2 awfully in dearcupid the summary is I said to the friend who invided me to her country house I would prefer to visit her alone or for a girls night any other time, anytime and she ended up telling him If I went ther he would be welcomed...your advice is really welcome and helped very muchcheers
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2007): Astrid,
There are more negatives than pluses to this situation.
I think you'd be happier not going.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2007): I don't fully understand the question because of the language barrier. but if you feel this uncomfortable about going, then don't go.
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