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writes: There's a guy that I work with that always gets quiet and tenses up around me when I see him. I saw him when I was leaving and said, "Hi!" and he literally froze and pressed himself up against the wall. Another time, I caught him staring at me and so I stared back at him. He didn't know what to do, so he kind of walked around in a circle and hurried off. I also caught him looking around my office desk when he was leaving an office birthday card to sign. (He didn't see me though.) He doesn't talk directly to me, but tried to talk when there were other people around us. Another time when I was going to work, he saw me and ran inside. I don't know if he is either very shy or is trying to avoid me for whatever reason, but it's confusing. It seems like he wants to get to know me, but then he doesn't. What should I do? Should I try to talk to him again or just let him be?
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (27 February 2014):
 I would just be nice and polite. Dating at the work place is RARELY a great idea anyhow. But being civil, polite and nice is pretty much OK :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2014): I wonder if he might have Asperger's or something similar. A friendly hi won't hurt but maybe keep a respectable distance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2014): I think you should give him some more time. Break the ice a little bit by chatting. Have some small talk conversations and see where it leads you both. It sounds like he's really shy...prob too shy to start a conversation with you. Hence the reason you should break the ice! My question is...do you like him? Maybe you don't know properly yet. You never know... you might chat to him a couple of times and realise he's not what you thought he'd be. Or on the contrary, he could be a match ;) Good luck!
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