How common is rejection for the first ever date attempt in life?
Q. I've been doing a great deal of inner work lately, and I wonder how much it "wired" me when I was rejected the first time I ever asked someone out, at 17. It would help me to know if this is common or unusual. If you are a guy, were you or any ...
A. 24 December 2016: I'd have to agree, RubyBirtle, in my particular case...that I was on the introverted side to begin with, or at least starting with being bullied in middle school plus an unfavorable family life. But this "ask" with a "no" result itself was a pre... (read in full...)
How common is rejection for the first ever date attempt in life?
Q. I've been doing a great deal of inner work lately, and I wonder how much it "wired" me when I was rejected the first time I ever asked someone out, at 17. It would help me to know if this is common or unusual. If you are a guy, were you or any ...
A. 22 December 2016: Thanks for the responses. I like analogies, so here's one that might work. For several years I was a member of toastmasters, a group that gives people practice with public speaking. If a brand-new member was actually laughed at the very first time ... (read in full...)
Should I worry that his first love is making contact?
Q. Hi my husbands first love is trying to get in contact with him. He's not sure yet if he will reply to email. I'm not sure how I feel about this,on the one hand I want him to do what he wants but on the other I'm a bit concerned about feelings being ...
A. 21 December 2016: Hard to say, but do you feel right to prevent it? This topic of first/early loves has intrigued me for several years, since I missed out on that (and that's a huge source of pain for me). There are powerful forces at work...and I don't mean to put ... (read in full...)
Crippling retroactive jealousy - does it get better?
Q. My battle with retroactive jealousy: - It's been almost 2.5 years. Improvements: - It is getting better. I can function normally in last one year. - Hearth shattering instant images no longer pops up. - It is getting less visual. - I kinda g...
A. 20 December 2016: I'm at just over 2 years myself. Married 15 years. At its worst it was a few hours a day (like you describe, while able to function at other things). I don't know about all this "acting out" people talk about because for me it was 100% interna... (read in full...)
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