 eddie, posted
over a year ago
Being gay must be difficult at times. Especially when you first become aware you are. Of course, we live in a society that would have us believe, for the most part, that it's second class. I give gay people credit for having the courage to live as they are so inclined.
You say you are not bothered by other peoples reaction to your cross dressing I think you are to some extent. I understand you're disliking their behaviour when you enter the room dressed as a woman. But just as you want to be accepted, you have to cut them a little slack too. Talking crap is out of line, that's for sure, but you might try to understand what they see. You're a man, dressing as a woman. You're not a women. So you're pretending to be something you're not. People have a right to react to that, in good taste, but react, none the less. They have no right to offend you but I'm sure you see it all the time.
Most gay people Ive met are not cross dressers. It's limited, but from what I can tell, most gay people are just gay. If some guy walked into a gay bar, dressed as a clown, you might laugh too. And, I'm in no way equating cross dressing to clowns. My point is, it's out of the ordinary. People react to things that are uncommon with trepidation. They're afraid of the unknown. If a man puts on a dress, that doesn't make him a woman. It makes him a man dressed as a woman. That's not good or bad, just out of the ordinary. We make our decisions based on what we know. It helps us to form opinions. If I see a red thing hanging off a tree, I expect it's an apple, not an orange. If I was looking to meet a woman, I wouldn't want to spend my time talking to a guy in a dress. After all, I'm being real, you're pretending to be a woman. That doesn't make you bad, just not authentic. Some men can really pull it off too, so unless everyone knows that you're not really a woman, it's kind of a misrepresentation.
I like all people. I like to hear what makes them tick and what they're all about. If I'm talking to a man who's wearing a skirt and a halter top, you're darn right it will intrigue me to ask a question or two. When I travel, I look forward to meeting the stranger beside me on the plane. IF they're from Peru, I ask about Peru. Diversity is fun. You have to realize though that if you try to pretend you're something you're not, people react. It's not just cross dressig either. People don't like people who misrepresent thmeselves, especially sexually, especially men. Men seem to take it as a threat to their own sexuality.
I would give you the courtasy you deserve but I have to be honest. If you wee dressed as a woman and doing a really poor job of it, I might get a chuckle out of it.
Posted on 18 February 2007 @ 1:21 (London time) - permalink
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