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I'm in love with my best friend's brother and might be pregnant! I have no idea what to do!

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Question - (6 January 2007) 6 Answers - (Newest, 29 October 2007)
A female age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Im a 16 yrs old and Im in love with my best friends brother who is 25. Im so scared because I lost my virginity to him. I am freaking out. I think Im pregnant. I cant talk to my mom or dad because it will hurt them that I had sex with a 25 year old. Also I have been sore down there and I have no idea what to do. Any females can relate??

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2007):

i can because i did the same thing, but im 12 and he's 17

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A female reader, love2help +, writes (7 January 2007):

I've always fancied my best friend's brother. he's also nine years older. I never got into anything quite as serious but we did have our times. I think you should take a pregnancy test and find out for sure. If you're not pregnant there won't be a problem. if you are then i'm sorry but you are going to have to tell your parents. It's best if you tell them at an early stage because it would be safer. as your stomach may grow they may guess before you tell them. This may cause them to act more upset and angrier. there is no way to stop that. look at it from their point of view. imagine your daughter having sex with a 25 year old. Don't live in the past beause you can't change it now. Look for the future and stay positive. At least now you know you'll never make that mistake again.

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A female reader, Reebe United Kingdom +, writes (6 January 2007):

Reebe agony auntFirst things first, get your self a home pregnancy kit and see if you are actually pregnant, then get youself to your GP to see if you have a infection or worse. Even as young as you are you must by now understand the risks if you don't use contraception! and being 25 he certainly should.

So firstly find out if you are actually pregnant and get yourself in the clear regarding any infections. Any infections should be able to be cleared up with medication but tell this guy if you are infected as he needs to know to to stop him spreading this any further. If you turn out to be pregnant then you must tell your parents, they maybe upset and angry, but will be even more so if you hide it from them, and they really are the best people to help you through it what ever your decision. Whatever happens do not sleep with this guy again especailly without any protection!

I hope for your sake your are infectiona and baby free. Get this checked out today you can not delay it.

I hope all works out well.

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A female reader, hiddenspace United Kingdom +, writes (6 January 2007):

hiddenspace agony auntNot meaning to sound nasty, but it really bugs me when people say 'they'll be really cross with me for having sex with a 25 year old'. If you knew that your parents would disapprove, and you aren't sure that you want it enough to tell them the truth. And don't you think your parents would rather know that you had sex with a 25 year old, than, if you are pregnant, nine months later a baby being born, and your parents having to deal with the stress of both a new born baby, and coming to terms with the fact you've had sex with a 25 year old.

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A female reader, Nikita United Kingdom +, writes (6 January 2007):

Nikita agony auntWell, the first thing you need to do is find out if you're pregnant. You need to get a testing kit or see your doctor. Then you need to talk to your parents. I know itll be hard but they are the best people to talk to and can help you. They will be hurt, its only natural but they love you and only want whats best for you. As for being sore down below, this could be due to a number of things; the fact that you've had sex for the first time, thrush or even a sexually transmitted disease. Again, see your doctor or go to a family planning clinic where they will be able to advise you. good luck okay. hope it all goes well.x

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A female reader, Juliette United Kingdom +, writes (6 January 2007):

Juliette agony auntI can see how the possible preganancy may be scary and and your parents will probably be the ones to help you if it turns out to be true. The relationship is questionable in respect that the potential father may not have been at least a loving boyfriend who may stick by you for the right reasons. As for the age, that is nothing. My mother was 16 when she married my father who was 25 and they had 64 happy years before he died age 92. You can be mature at 16 as much as you can be immature emotionally at 85. Age is immaterial, it is the fact you may be pregnant and that the father may have been a transient sexual partner that to me is more of an issue.

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