I'm participating in his affair but I don't want to be..
Q. I just got out of a abusive relationship and all my past relationships were either abusive physically or emotionally or both, my question is how do I stop currently having sex with my boss who is married. I used to always say no but I finally gave ...
A. 10 August 2009: You need to stop this affair and you know you do, just try to explain to him that you feel guilty about his wife, and you don't think you should have sex anymore.
Also you seem to have a pattern with abusive partners, which obviously would effe... (read in full...)
He laughed and called me his "fuck buddy!"
Q. Hi People I'm finding this really hard, I've been split with my bf just over a month, and I'm still in contact as in friends and I still sometimes sleep with him in the car, Well last nite I went round his house for the first time since we sp...
A. 29 November 2008: Most of us have been in a situation where we love someone so much that we let them get away with things that we are not happy with.
I feel for you, but you have to find the strength to stop seeing this guy, not even as a friend, no friend would trea... (read in full...)
What can I do to loose weight?
Q. I'm 17, 5 ft 3 in and 130 lbs and I want to lose weight deperately. I've thought about getting hydroxicut or some weight loss pill but theres no way for me to get it. I am not old enough to buy it. I've tried diet and exercise but its a little too ...
A. 29 November 2008: Hi
You are not over weight, you are pretty much the exactly the correct weight for your height.
Maybe you just feel a little untoned, eat healthily and maybe the answer is just to excercise and tone up?
Please do not take slimming pills, they ... (read in full...)
Do all women expect you to read their minds to some degree?
Q. Girls keep leaving hints, sometimes I get them sometimes I don't. Of course I don't really mind when it comes to little things, but when it comes to huge emotional issues it seems to come out at an unexpected moment. Unexpected as in "how was I ever ...
A. 27 November 2008: You mean you can't? ha only joking!
I suppose every woman thinks that her man "should just know" but men are guilty of this too!
Of course the only way to know what is on someones mind is to ask them.
Although sometimes women think that droppin... (read in full...)
Other than diets, exercising and starving myself how else can I lose weight?
Q. Hello, I'm new to this site and just had one main question if you could help I would really love it. Well to start I'm 16 years old. I weigh 130 About. I'm just under 5 ft. To me I'm am fat although my family and friends say I'm normal. Plus for...
A. 27 November 2008: You can not go on like this! You can have up to 1800 calories a day and work out for 30 mins and still lose around 2lbs a week.
I have lost 5 stone (70 lbs) so I know how miserable you can feel when your not happy with yourself, and it was hard and ... (read in full...)
Do I confront my husband or just leave it?
Q. My husband has been working at night in our basement for his second part-time job. Today I went down to use his computer and found videos that he has been watching on You Tube with girls stripping and doing very sexy things. What do I do? Do I talk ...
A. 13 November 2008: Personally I would mention it, but in a light hearted way, I don't think it means anything I just think he's looking, remeber looking doesn't mean touching or actually wanting to do anything about it. Just say that you saw what he had looked at and ... (read in full...)
Liar liar pants on fire!!
Q. My husband is a worldclass liar. Let me start from the beginning. So around 12 years ago I got addicted to pain pills and ended up going to rehab in malibu california. While in rehab I kicked the pills and was feeling really great. I also fell in ...
A. 6 November 2008: He seems to have been looking at these sites for a very long time. To him it probably what he considers normal.
I don't think you can learn to live with this, and you have asked him over again if he will stop, he obviously can't and has some kind... (read in full...)
Ejaculation problem!?
Q. Hi all, A recent girlfriend commented one that day that I ejaculate quite a lot and that it probably isn't a good thing - she certainly didn't seem to like it! After reading a few posts on this site, I decided, in the name of science (!) to d...
A. 6 November 2008: I don't know about medical, but personally I've always liked it!
From my own limited experience, men ejacualte different amounts.
I've just looked it up and the average is 1.5 to 5 milimeters.
Are you sure you measured it right? If you are conc... (read in full...)
My man of 8 years will not even try to have sex with me.
Q. Dear Cupid: What have I done? My man of 8 years will not even try to have sex with me. He won't even flirt, act interested or touch me. Since our daughter was born he has regularly slept in another room, and he likes it that way. I think it...
A. 6 November 2008: He sounds like he's making excuses I don't think it's you, although maybe you've putting too much pressure on him? He might be depressed, and he might be feeling negative about himself, if you've been improving yourself.
He might see you diff... (read in full...)
Do I go for the new guy or give my relationship a chance?
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for just over a year. Recently things haven't been the same and I told him I wanted to break up with him. He said we could work through our problems and doesn't want to let me go so I agreed. The thing is I ...
A. 6 November 2008: Only you know the answer to this, but the grass is not always greener.
you might regret leaving your boyfriend for this other guy, or he could be the man of your dreams.
You shouldn't feel like you HAVE to be with your boyfriend because he doesn't ... (read in full...)
My friend says he's straight but I don't know.
Q. Dear Cupid. I'm a 31 year old gay male. A few years ago I meet a guy I'll call him Bear. Last year Bear and I met up at a part and we hit it off real well. I let him know from the start that I was gay and he was great with it. So to this day we have ...
A. 6 November 2008: I think you just need to ask him, I can understand you not wanting to ruin your friendship, but if he already knows you like him, then if you say to him something like " have you ever thought of me more than just a friend" then he's not going to be ... (read in full...)
I'm interested to hear from anyone who does or has ever worked in the corporate office environment.
Q. Hi everyone, I'm interested to hear from anyone who does or has ever worked in the corporate office environment. I am feeling miserable and really need some advice :( I'm 25 years old and for my entire working life I have been bullied at work...
A. 6 November 2008: I agree with cowboy, it really as a dog eat dog industry.
Try not to compete with her.
It sounds like she feels threatened by you.
My advice would be too keep your head down, work hard and try to be nice to everyone. It's hard to stay stong w... (read in full...)
I'm baffled by these texts from guys!
Q. I'm quite old fashioned when it comes to dating and in the early stages I normally leave it to the guy to initiate contact, because I think if you don't hear from them for a few days then they can't be that interested. I've noticed that recently ...
A. 6 November 2008: Well in a way they did contact you first, I think it's their way of asking if your ok, and to get you to text them back, with out coming on strong.
It's good to have morals and values but you both have to show that your intersted.
If you don't ma... (read in full...)
Any tips on how to do it or how to deal with my confidence??
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a month now and we've done stuff together. The problem is, it's always him doing things to me and not the other way around. It's not his fault, it's mine, I just don't know how to do it. I'm sure he'd love ...
A. 6 November 2008: There's nothing wrong with waiting until your ready.
Is he pressuring you? I hope not.
There's no rush and to be honest if you don't naturally want to do it then your not ready to.
There's no rush, you have all the time in the world to go on to ... (read in full...)
We didn't break up on bad terms, so why won't he talk to me?
Q. Hey everyone. I've had something on my mind now for a little while now and thought I'd get some insight into what other people may think about it! Well, basically the back story is that I recently broke up with a long-term bf (2.5years). For...
A. 5 November 2008: I know exaclty where he's coming from. When me and my boyfriend (6 years) broke up in January he said he wanted to be friends and I said no. I just couldn't do it, it doesn't mean I hated him, far from it, we also never split up on bad terms, it's ... (read in full...)
He's working away - will it work out?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 months and its been going great until he landed a new job approx 2 hours drive away. he thinks it won't work and we should call it off but i don't want to do that and i'm really hurting. he's not leaving for a mo...
A. 5 November 2008: It can work, but it takes alot of effort and the feelings have to already be deep enough to make that effort. I agree with Miss Potter you should just move on and find someone willing to be there for you.... (read in full...)
Could it be possible for him to be over me already?
Q. been single 3 month well almost 4 after splittin with my boyfriend of 2 an half year we were still very much in love an still had a strong spark after 2 year we were a match from the start but after tryin to battle with his drink problem for so long ...
A. 5 November 2008: He's probably not over you. But eventually eveyone moves on and he probably thinks he has blown his chances with you and he thinks that your not going to go back, and really as much as you love him you shouldn't try be with him right now. His ... (read in full...)
My hubby saw my postings! My life is over!
Q. Hi i really need help, my hubby saw the other 2 postings and in one of them i confess me and my brother in law making love and me being his danzel in distress, he knew of course i confessed, but he didnt know that i was still thinking about him, ...
A. 5 November 2008: Try showing him this posting. Or write him a hand written letter, Tell him you know he's the one for you and you don't want anyone else. Your going to have to tell him how much you love him. If he is still getting over what has happened this co... (read in full...)
Is he having second thoughts? Should I just leave him to it?
Q. I have known this guy for about two years, we speak online but we've never met. recently he's told me he's likes me and would love to marry me one day in the future. then this past week he told me how much he liked me and that he's falling for me ...
A. 5 November 2008: Depends what you said back to him when he said all these things, he may feel foolish if you didn't say anything back.
Email him and ask him if anything is wrong as he's being quiet with you, maybe ask him (if it's possible) if he would like to meet... (read in full...)
How can I stop him being so possessive?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together 14 months and in the 1st month i cheated. We worked it out and stayed together, but about 4 months into our relationship he deleted all my boys numbers off my phone, all boys off msn and everything. i think its ...
A. 5 November 2008: Ok you made a mistake and cheated, but he is now being very controlling over you.
You will need to sit him down and explain that you wont do it again he has to trust you, if he doesn't he is not going to change. With out trust in a rela... (read in full...)
Is he being unfaithful after 6 years? I know he's been on gay dating sites!
Q. Hi, I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 6 years. I was surfing the internet this morning on our computer, when I came across something which really upset me. The computer is a new one and I've never notice before but it has a...
A. 5 November 2008: You don't know that he has actually cheated on you. Although it seems like he could be interested, or he could be just looking at it? You need to talk to him and find out for sure he if still wants to be with you, it may all be innocent but you won'... (read in full...)
I just with the other babymomma would go away
Q. Please help me please Iam in a difficult sitaution i let my babydad move in with me after he just broke up with his other babymom.They been brokenup for two 6 months they have two kids together and i have one bye him to.I know him first i met this ...
A. 4 November 2008: You have to face facts that she is not going to go away, he has kids with her and you all need to find a solution to get along for the sake of the kids. You need to ask him to speak to her, and ask her to stop sending nasty emails etc. The grown... (read in full...)
Can my gay friend reallly be straight?
Q. So my absolute best friend is gay...is it possible that a gay guy can turn straight? I mean he has told me he is in love with me and that he would be able to have sex with me if he had to. I can get him excited, if you get what I mean. Most people ...
A. 4 November 2008: Could a girl turn you gay? It's very unlikely. You say "he could have sex with me if he HAD to" doesn't sound like he wants to or would get anything out of it. Have you ever known him to be with another woman? It sounds like he loves you and ca... (read in full...)
Do you think it is possible for someone to stop fancying someone?
Q. Do you think it is possible for someone to stop fancying someone? I have a guy mate who said he fancied me so much in the past but now he is scared to tempt our friendship.. he says he loves me too much. he has been sending me a lot of mixed me...
A. 4 November 2008: Yes it is possible I have fancied many people and looking back now I wondered what I ever saw in most of them!
I think he cares about you, but is worried about ruining your friendship.
Remember boyfriends come and go, friends do not.... (read in full...)
I just feel so used, hurt and basically broken.
Q. I am having a very hard time, two days ago something happened to me, which I just never imagined would happen. I had been with my boyfriend for only about six months. We got pretty serious straight away- not sexually but emotionally. He seemed to ...
A. 4 November 2008: I'm not suprised you feel the way you do. what a sad thing to of happened especially when you trusted him so much.
What he did could be classed as rape. You asked him to stop and he didn't.
Stop all contact with this guy, I wouldn't be suprised... (read in full...)
I'm married to him now but can't stop thinking am I as good as his ex?
Q. This has been bugging me for over 4 years now. I can't get it out of my head and I even break down crying sometimes 'cause of it. I need help! To start, my husband and I have been married for about a year and half now. We have a beautiful baby g...
A. 4 November 2008: Most people have more than 1 serious relationship in their life, the first time you do anything you get more excited bout it.
You are going to ruin your self esteem if you carry on thinking like this.
At the end of the day he is married to YOU.
I ... (read in full...)
Normal or abnormal? Can we be together?
Q. Is it normal for a student to have a crush to his/her teacher? Some says yes. some says no. What is the real and true answer? I just wanted to know if I am just a normal teenager who admires her teacher so much. When I see him in the hallways...
A. 4 November 2008: Yes I think it is normal to have a crush on your teacher.
You just have to be realistic, nothing is probably going to happen between you.
Most people when they're at school/college ect find a teacher that they really admire and look up too.
My... (read in full...)
Is he just wanting a make out buddy?
Q. There is this guy who has hung out with our group of friends for the last 4 months or so. One night we started kissing and he asked me out on a date a few days later. He was texting me often after he asked me out and before the date. The date was ...
A. 4 November 2008: Yes guys really do get that invloved with video games - well some do!
Why don't you text him ask him out right if he wants to meet up again, you'll then have your answer!
... (read in full...)
Is it common for married couples to get bored with sex after 5 or 6 years?
Q. Hi Sexy Auntieeeeess and Handsom Unclezzzzz. How are you doing? Your suggestions helped me a lot. 10x a ton for dat. Now one more thing to ask... plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz I want to know for some reason, is it a common feeling in between Husban...
A. 4 November 2008: Yes it's normal, like anything you have to work at it bring new things in, try different postions etc.
I personally would not involve anyone else, wife swapping etc this normally just causes more problems, such as jealousy and broken egos.
Could... (read in full...)
Can't stop brooding, any advice?
Q. I am a terrible brooder. I seem to have a mind that wont ease up and give me a break from the moment i wake up to the time i go to sleep. My brain concentrates on particular issues that are going on in my life to the point of obsession until it ...
A. 4 November 2008: Have you thought you could be depressed? It sounds like it to me, going over everything.
Even if your not, go and see your doctor maybe there is something your avoiding thinking about, by thinking about everything else?
Good Luck.... (read in full...)
Can't stop brooding, any advice?
Q. I am a terrible brooder. I seem to have a mind that wont ease up and give me a break from the moment i wake up to the time i go to sleep. My brain concentrates on particular issues that are going on in my life to the point of obsession until it ...
A. 4 November 2008: Have you thought you could be depressed? It sounds like it to me, going over everything.
Even if your not, go and see your doctor maybe there is something your avoiding thinking about, by thinking about everything else?
Good Luck.... (read in full...)
Any tips on sexy underware ... I want to suprise my boyfriend!
Q. hey. im a size 16-18 with really big boobs. i want to surprise my boyfriend with sexy lingrey (sorry bout the spelling) x but i know not many things will be flattering on me. any suggestions??? thanks x x x x...
A. 4 November 2008: Definatly a basque, with your curves it will look great! He won't know what do with himself!... (read in full...)
Is my foreskin normal?
Q. i am 16 and my foreskin covers all of my penis even when erect, also when erect it hurts when i try to pull it back. has this ever happened to anyone else before? and is there a way of fixing it? any answer will be appreciated thank you...
A. 4 November 2008: If it is hurting when erect then I would say it's not normal this shouldn't hurt.
Just pop along to your doctor and let them just check it out. There's no need to be embarassed they have seen it all before. Even if there's nothing wrong it will put ... (read in full...)
Sometimes he climaxes in 10 minutes, sometimes in 40. Why is this?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been having sex for about 8 months now. Sometimes, he can cum within 8-10 minutes and then others about 30-40 minutes. What is this? he thinks i am botherd by it but im not. What is wrong with him? ...
A. 3 November 2008: nothing is wrong with him it's normal.... (read in full...)
I can't stop these feelings of shame...
Q. Basically, about a year ago I got in to drugs and heavy drinking and became really self-destructive and depressed. I slept around a lot and started seeing my ex (Ste*) who lived near me with his girlfriend (Lucy*). One night I slept with Ste and his ...
A. 3 November 2008: Firstly well done for turning your life around. No one is going to win here, if you tell her, you could lose her friendship and also break up families - which will make you feel worse. Also you say it could be dangerous for you. Most people ha... (read in full...)
Hurt by the way I was treated before we started dating... can I talk to her about it after 13 months?
Q. In the few months leading up to the first date with my now current girlfriend, she was jerking me around quite a bit. she was getting over a relationship, and would get close to me then push me away and back and forth like this for quite some time ...
A. 3 November 2008: It's never too late to talk about something if it's bothering you this much. Keep it light hearted. When you break up with someone it normally knocks most peoples confidence and if she was really hurt she proabably wasn't thinking straight and want... (read in full...)
Can I still consider myself a virgin or is it wrong?
Q. i know this might sound like another stupid question...but is it really wrong to call myself a virgin even if he did penetrate me... i know the whole definition of being a virgin and all but i tried to prevent it...he was just to fast for me to stop ...
A. 3 November 2008: Well technically no your not a virgin if he penetrated you. Just wait until your ready next time.... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a girl my age to be interested in older men? Could they reciprocate?
Q. I'm 17, and lately I've been into older men (30's-40's). Boys my age just don't interest me in anyway whatsoever. I know this isn't a phase. What I want to know is if this is normal for a girl my age.And also,I would like to know if guys in their...
A. 3 November 2008: I went through a similar thing although I was in my early 20's. I didn't think it was a phase either but it was.I would be concerned if someone in their age group was interested in you, your still young and usually they would only be intersted in 1 ... (read in full...)
Double Standard Boyfriend - what does he want?
Q. My bf (of two weeks) openly talks about he thinks girls who wear short skirts and so on are 'sluts', 'skanks' etc. He says that he has no respect for girls who put out with every guy they meet. He says girls who sleep with guys easily are hard to ...
A. 3 November 2008: Sounds like he wants it all!Yes he does have double standards! Don't sleep with him until your sure you can trust him and until you want too. He might just want to be like one of the boys? Make sure he treats you with respect and if he doesn'... (read in full...)
I called the guy I love and I don't know if I should believe in what he says?
Q. I have deep feelings for a guy I met a year ago. We met in person but is one of those cases where you wish it could been more if it wasn't b/c he had to leave shortly since he is an active duty airman. So, we communicate via email. What started a...
A. 3 November 2008: I don't think anything "is going on" I think he's being straight with you. He sounds like he genuinely cares for you and I would try to meet him as soon as you can that, I think, Would let you know if anything can/will happen between you :-) Good L... (read in full...)
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