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My real name is obviously NOT Phoebe Halliwell and no, I'm not Alyssa Milano either, though it'd be awesome if I were. I chose this name (Phoebe Halliwell) because she's a strong character and has been through some tough times in love herself, coming out stronger and still believing.
I'm young, single and live in the UK. I don't have any form of qualification, just a big heart and the occassional spare moment!
I have a pretty open mind and can relate to a lot of people. I'm the right side of 25 and have had some serious ups and downs! I'm just here to give you guys a fresh pair of eyes on a situation that seems to have no solution, sometimes that's all you need :)
Peace,
Phoebe
*NOTE* I'm going back to school for a while to try and change my career path. This means I won't be answering as quickly as I usually do but will still accept private e-mails from those seeking my advice. |
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Was it wrong that I had sex?
Q. I have a problem now that im starting 11th grade boys are very tempting about sex. my boyfriend and i of 3 years had sex and now i feel all weird at first we didnt say that much 2 each other and now we talk alot.. for me loseing my virginity at 16 ...
A. 7 August 2010: I agree with the others. If he forced you, tell someone. It's worrying you, tell someone.
If it didn't feel right, my guess is it wasn't. The fact that you've been together for a few years shouldn't be a deciding factor on what you do toge... (read in full...)
I was too controlling and she left me. Now what can I do?
Q. Well I can't really ask what to do without first explaining my situation. My ex-girlfriend was with me for almost 2 years. One month in our relationship she left me for my best friend. A week after THAT, he broke up with her and she begged to ha...
A. 7 August 2010: hey again :)
Have you tried mending bridges with your best friend? You must have been best friends for a reason and you shouldn't let a girl have come between you. Talk to him and make sure you both try to put friendship before girls next time.
If... (read in full...)
Married life has become a nightmare. Please, anybody with any suggestions?
Q. I have been with my husband since i was 16. we have been married for almost 3 years now our baby boy is about to turn 3. He told me the only reason he asked me to marry him was b/c "it was the right thing to do". I know he is not happy. He tells me...
A. 6 August 2010: Oh dear :(
He sounds like a treat!
Honey, it seems to me that he's taking out his fustration on you. Maybe being married so young he feels trapped and that he can't go out and enjoy himself. This is no excuse for how he's treating you.
Was he... (read in full...)
Do u think my best guy friend might be falling for me???
Q. OP's own title. Do u think my best guy friend might be falling for me??? I've been in love with him for a while now and I want him to be mine forever. We have a odd relationship, like I can tell him anything. Things i have never shared with anyo...
A. 6 August 2010: Hey :)
I was in almost the exact same place. One of my best guy friends sometimes acted like he definitely liked me (I was in love with him) and we talked about everything. Don't worry, other people are/have been in the same boat!
I agree with Jmt... (read in full...)
Confused about sexuality. What am I really?
Q. Hey I'm really confused... Ok right, long story short I'm 16, used to be straight, then was gay, but as soon as i accepted that i may like girls I went off them... so I am utterly confused. So I'm keeping my options open, I was at a summer camp th...
A. 6 August 2010: Hey :)
I agree with marieclaire in that maybe you're not ready for that kind of relationship. It's ok to be confused, at 16 I wasn't sure who I was either (not in a sexuality sense but just knowing myself, what kind of person I am).
Maybe instead ... (read in full...)
School heartbreak
Q. Ok last school year I was in a class with a guy I really liked. We would flirt and laugh and play around most of the year. Well after a a friend (of the boy and myself) told me that he told her he liked me I got Enough courage to get a best friend ...
A. 6 August 2010: Hey :)
Guys love to flirt and laugh and play around. I knew this guy who once did all that with me to see if I'd do it back so he'd feel good about himself, that he was attractive etc. I know it can be scary, but if you had such a good conn... (read in full...)
I like this guy, but my friend says he likes her!
Q. Please people answer as soon as u can..... ok i have this problem i really like this guy and he told me he likes me too... i was talking to my friend today and she goes to his school and she told me that he still likes her and so does my ex bf and i ...
A. 5 August 2010: Hey :)
It sounds to me like your friend is feeling a little threatened by you! She says she's kissed both of them, doesn't mean it's true. It sounds very suspect that she's told you all these things to warn you off this guy that she likes, and then... (read in full...)
I was too controlling and she left me. Now what can I do?
Q. Well I can't really ask what to do without first explaining my situation. My ex-girlfriend was with me for almost 2 years. One month in our relationship she left me for my best friend. A week after THAT, he broke up with her and she begged to ha...
A. 5 August 2010: hey :)
To be honest, your girlfriend doesn't sound like the nicest person. She left you for your best friend? You don't treat people you care about like that.
I can understand your controlling actions, not wanting to lose her. It shows that you... (read in full...)
Can you rekindle a friendship the same way you'd rekindle a romance?
Q. Is it possible to rekindle a friendship in a similar fashion one might try to rekindle a romantic relationship? Or are the two inherently different enough that the same approach can't be used in both cases. ...
A. 5 August 2010: hey :)
well, firstly, friendships and romantic relationships are different so I doubt the "same approach" can be used to re-kindle both!
You have to remember the reason you were friends with this person and also why you maybe drifted apart. B... (read in full...)
Should we share a college apartment?
Q. me(16) and my boyfriend(almost 17) have talked about getting an apartment close to the collage we both will be going to after we graduate. it'll be a few years for me cause I'm a year behind but since he only has one year I figured he should start ...
A. 5 August 2010: I agree with what's been said already. College life is stressful! It'll test your relationship whether you're living together or not. I think it would be good for you to each have your own space to go to at times when you just need to think or feel ... (read in full...)
Why have my feelings for my girlfriend suddenly changed?
Q. I love my girlfriend but now my feelings for her have changed, i am no more enjoying our relationship what is the problem....
A. 5 August 2010: Hey :)
It depends how long you've been together. You've not given a lot of information.
If you've just gotten together and you're not enjoying it chances are you don't have enough in common or are not attracted to each other.
If it's a longe... (read in full...)
The guy I liked got excited when he found out I was a virgin, is that a good or bad thing?
Q. Hey..well there was a guy I liked and he went to school with my sister's bf soo he would ask questions about me soo one day he ask my sister's bf am I a virgin and my sister bf said yes and then the boy got excited and said he was goin to jack me ...
A. 5 August 2010: I agree with the others, this is a bad thing.
He sounds like a complete loser - one of those guys that will see taking your virginity as another notch on his bedpost. Not the guy that will genuinely care about you or treat you with respect. You ... (read in full...)
Are my breasts too big?
Q. hi everyone! I'm a 15 year old girl and I have a small problem with my breasts A LOT of guys my age think they are too big, while other guys that are a bit older think they are fine... why's that? I don't want to go out with an old perv just ca...
A. 5 August 2010: Hey :)
Don't listen to what the guys say. The right guy will like you for you, big breasts and all! I know it's not what you want to hear but hang in there! As you get older guy will mature a bit and start to see past looks to personality and you ... (read in full...)
Adding strangers on msn - what should I say to him?
Q. so i added this one guy that i think is really cute on msn , he doesn't know me , i don't know him him ... YET ! what can i say to him ? if he says "do i know you ?" what can i say back ? ...
A. 5 August 2010: Hey
well, first of all I noted your age group. It is very dangerous to add people you don't know online.
Remember, his profile picture may be cute, but the guy on the chatting to you on the other end could look very very different.
If you ad... (read in full...)
Do I dream of him because he is on my mind so much?
Q. Hey. I've fancied someone for a while now and I've been having lots of dreams about him because of this. I know this is normal because I think about him so much during the day. He (apparently) seems likes me too and it's become obvious to others ...
A. 5 August 2010: Hey :)
Little piece of trivia for you: Studies have shown that we have seven or eight dreams in one night but when we remember them we kind of mash them all together in our head into one dream, that's why sometimes they seem very random and don'... (read in full...)
What am I doing wrong with girls?
Q. So, I'm 15 and I've never got anywhere with a girl. I'm really, really shy and self conscious. My social life, well I haven't got one and I'm home tutored. I desperately want to find someone, not for the sex or anything but for having a best ...
A. 9 July 2010: Hi.
I agree with Denise32.
You sound perfectly nice and genuine, which will set you apart from all the idiotic guys your age out there anyway, so you might end up finding yourself a girlfriend while looking for a best friend anyway!
The first th... (read in full...)
What should I do about this boy?
Q. Ok so I have a problem. So theres this group of four really nice guys all best friends lets call them D,S,A and J. In primary school I went out with D but we broke up and now I thought we were just friends he says he likes me. Okay so S and J and ...
A. 9 July 2010: Hi.
Lucky you! A group of four guys like you, that has to do something for your self-esteem at least, right?
The first thing that springs to mind is to be very very careful. If all four best friends like you and you pick just one, it might be... (read in full...)
My boobs haven't grown any more!
Q. hi. i started my pireod when i was 13 and a half and im now 15 and a half but ever since i started i've stayed the same boob size( a :( ) and 4 months after i started my boobs never hurt again. what is going on with them? thanks for any reply...
A. 9 July 2010: I basically agree with everyone else here :)
Don't panic! Every body is different and grows at different rates. Usually, your boobs won't stop growing until you're very late teens/early twenties, you've got years yet!
And also, size can be hered... (read in full...)
Found my faery tale but trying to live a dream
Q. The Situation: I found my friend from about 5-7 years ago. We were talking but nothing serious just catching up but i somehow caught feelings for him.(When i found him i was in washington and he is in new mexico) I am now in new mexico and we hung ...
A. 9 July 2010: This is a really tough situation. I think to be able to focus on your new and promising relationship you need closure on the "what could have been?" path you travel down when you see your friend.
I think you should talk to your friend. Tell him ... (read in full...)
Lovestruck!
Q. Hi Aunts, i need your help. There this guy well actually hes my best friend. I've always loved him, we have gone out together a couple of times. But now we're just friends. Since we've moved to year 8 we've grown further apart. And it breaks my...
A. 3 July 2010: Hi.
I've been where you are, and I know it's so horrible.
If you've gone out a few times and it hasn't really gone anywhere you have to ask yourself if you guys can last together, and would you risk your friendship for something that may or ... (read in full...)
I want sex but how do I tell my boyfriend...
Q. i am 14 years old and i think i am ready for sex. i have a shy boyfriend who i have dated for about 3 months now, and we barely do anything. i feel left out because the closest of my friends have all had sex; i don't think its fair. i get horny ve...
A. 7 October 2007: Hey,
make sure you are ready. And it's not just your body telling you to.
I know some girls your age who have lost their virginity and regretted it. Make sure, if you are ready you and your boyfriend want to.
You may be ready but he may not be, ... (read in full...)
Can long term friends ever become lovers?
Q. Dear Cupid please tell me I came to the right place. I'm in a situation that I have never been in before. It's verey confusing, but can long term friends ever become lovers?...
A. 7 October 2007: Hey,
your problem is a difficult one but you have been vague with details.
How long have you been friends? Has there ever been any signs that you two could be together? do you both feel the same way? have you ever thought about this before? ... (read in full...)
I don't love my wife, but if we get divorced she can't stay in the country! This is all my fault. What can I do??
Q. First of all, let it be clear that I know I am the only one to blame for my situation and that most women will probably despise me. Nonetheless I want some advice on what I should do. Ok, well im married and live in the UK. My wife is foreign ...
A. 20 February 2007: Hey,
well. I'm not going to have a go, as you'r eporbably already beating yourself up over this....lets see if i can help...
I think first of all you should make sure your wife gets a citizenship as soon as possible then, (i think) she will be ... (read in full...)
I've gone off sex since I had my baby!
Q. Hi i have a 7 month old baby and since having him iv gone off sex im 22 and really worrid about this could you please help me. ...
A. 20 February 2007: Hey,
maybe you've gone off sex because you think you are ready but really, deep down inside somethings' telling you not to because you feel, after having your baby you may fall pregnant again. And, seeing your baby an abortion if you did is now unth... (read in full...)
She finally agreed to go out with me! But how should I interpret this?
Q. I have this friend of which I would like more, I get on very well with her and we often go out with her sister and husband of which are my best friends. I have asked her out a few times over last six months but she is busy or tired. However, this ...
A. 26 January 2007: Hey,
just act natural. Be sweet, be yourself.
She obviously agreed to go out with you for a reason - stick with it and maybe you'll find out why!
Maybe she was nervous before - maybe she was seeing smeone else.....you never know!
Be a gentlema... (read in full...)
Are there definite signs that someone might be gay or bi?
Q. how do you know if you are gay or bisexual?Are there any definite signs?...
A. 4 January 2007: Hey Toriana,
Don't get what all the fuss is about boys? Kissed a female mate just to see what it's like? Have a crush on your sister's best friend? All these are signs that you could be gay. Or you could be 100% straight. Or somewhere in betwe... (read in full...)
Are there definite signs that someone might be gay or bi?
Q. how do you know if you are gay or bisexual?Are there any definite signs?...
A. 4 January 2007: Hey Toriana,
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Period is late, not sure whether condom split! What are the chances of me being pregnant?
Q. Me and my boyfriend had sex last week and I am worried as I am 2 days late on my period. we used a condom but I am worried that it split although I didn't hear it. What are my chances of being pregnant?...
A. 2 January 2007: Hey,
I can'r help wondering why, in your problem you don't seem to be thinking, "Why did I do it at such a young age? Why didn't I wait??" But ho-hum, that's life.
The only definate way to be sure if your preganant or not is to take the test! If... (read in full...)
I want to know what a woman wants but am confused! Please help me.
Q. what does a woman really want in a guy? I hear stories that they want a sweet, caring loyal man who they can cuddle up with and will treat them write yet there are woman going out at night getting drunk and looking for sex. So please tell me what a ...
A. 2 January 2007: Hey,
Well, I'm glad you've noticed that each woman wants a different thing in her "Ideal Man"
Your question does cause me to wonder...are you asking this out of pure interest or is there someone you're trying to impress???
Some women are real fan... (read in full...)
He's really popular at school and I like him! How do I let him know my feelings?
Q. ok so theres this guy and hes popular and im not and im too scared to ask him out he kinda talks to me cause he knows my brother but my brothers 17 hes only 14 [same age as me] and im totally in love with him, i cant get him out of my head, i think ...
A. 30 December 2006: Hey,
maybe you could get your brother to invite him round and then maybe your brother could go out or something and leave you anf him there? Then you could talk to him and find out how he feels about you by watching his body language.
I know thi... (read in full...)
Dating tips needed! What should I ask to breaking the ice, when getting to know someone?
Q. Ok, so basically I'm looking for dating advice.. specifically, how to get to know a person? I'm very very shy when I'm around new people on a personal level. I mean, I have no problem chatting it up with people in any other situation, where...
A. 30 December 2006: Hey,
why don't you try asking about thier family?
You've got to feel comfortable with someone to dicuss your family, where you grew up, borthers or sisters, childhood memories, that kind of thing. Then not only are they attracted to you, but know... (read in full...)
When I am dating women, I'm not sure what I am doing wrong? Any advice?
Q. I need some help. I have no problem asking girls out, but I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong. For example (I've only been with 2 girls, firs tone was typical high school one which was just holding hands, and I'm 19) the last one lasted a month we ...
A. 30 December 2006: Hey,
it just sounds like you havent met anyone that's right for you yet. Just be kool, be a gentlman, treat your girls with respect and take things at a comfortable pace for both of you.
You'll find someone, you have the whole of your life to ... (read in full...)
He's much older and uglier than I am, and provides her with 'security'. How do I persuade her to date me?
Q. hi. i recently confessed to this girl that i've feelings for her. she said shes confused, dazed and also seems like a dream to her. but the problem is she has a boyfriend already. but she says her boyfriend cannot connect emotionally with her, ...
A. 30 December 2006: Hey,
well, it sounds like this girl is taking the easy road with love. Being with someone she's not happy with but almost definately won't get hurt.
I think you need to talk to her, tell her not to be afraid, love isn't just about being let down... (read in full...)
My friend moved in on a girl I liked. He says he didn't know about us.
Q. hi guys im not sure how i put this question but here goes.i started talkin to this girl ages ago we got to be pretty good freinds then after a while we got more serious . then a m8 of myn that didnt know about me an her started asking questions ...
A. 30 December 2006: Hey Cam,
Well first of all, you have quite a dilema going on here.
I think that if you really liked this girl it probably would have been more sensible to let her explain herself before "throwing her away" like some used rubbish.
You say that thi... (read in full...)
How does one deal with unconsciously saying hurtful things your other?
Q. how to deal with hurtful past incidents? How to deal with unconsciously saying hurtful things your other? How to deal with your other half when they become angry?...
A. 30 December 2006: Hey,
How To Deal With Hurtful Past Incidents:
have a good, long talk to someone you trust about the whole thing. The only way to get it out of your system is to get that nagging feeling away by telling someone about how you feel now and how... (read in full...)
I am in love with my best friend...but he is gay!!
Q. Dear Cupid, I am in love with my best friend. The problem is that he is gay. He always calls me,texts me and hangs out with me so much which is harder for me to let go of my love for him. What should I do?...
A. 30 December 2006: Hey there,
now - the first typical question is, of course, is it really love? I cannot deny that by your delcaring love for him you must be somewhat attracted to him. I think some of the main reasons you like him so much is that gay men tend to be m... (read in full...)
He's 30-I'm 17. Is the age difference a big factor here? And he does this weird thing with his eyes..what is it?
Q. Well, i am 17 years old. I met a guy at college and we get along really well. I like him alot but he is 30. I sometimes think the way he acts around me that he might like me but im not sure. He smiles alot when he is around me and if he sees me in ...
A. 11 December 2006: hey,
I do think the age difference is a big factor here - I mean, he's old enough to be your dad!!!
You've admitted in your post that your not 100% keen because of this strange eye thing he does and do you really want to get involved with someone ... (read in full...)
I'm very shy and I like this guy! Should I hint to him that I like him? Or should I not do that?
Q. Hey, Im 16 and have recently started full time work. I love it the staff are great and the job is never boring. One member of our staff stands out to me, I really like him. I've had crushes before but this time it feels different, alot stronger. I...
A. 18 November 2006: Hey,
well first off, you don't seem very worried that you may actually...
1.) start a relationship with a work colleague, often not a very good idea as any break ups could be embarrasing and work and social lives are usually wanted to be kept sep... (read in full...)
Can't stop thinking about him and it's driving me insane! Help me!!
Q. ppl i need your help so so much. im at uni, 18 years old, not bad looking. back in may i met the most amazing guy ever!!!!!! i have never ever felt the same about anyone before. he moved to america when we had been together just 3 months. I ...
A. 10 November 2006: Hey,
I think you just fell for him so badley you were just shocked when things ended so suddenly.
Instead of thinking about the things that you miss about him think about what you don't miss about him. The annoying little things he used to do, l... (read in full...)
I'm not a cheater buy my GF thinks I am after she saw I talk to my friends online!
Q. Hello I have relationship about 4 years and before 30 min i broke up because my girlfriend found my messinger online with all my friends. There are some girls but nothing special. I love my girl but she is so jealous she thinks that im a cheater ...
A. 4 November 2006: Hey,
just talk to her, tell her how you really feel about her. You know no-one could ever replace her in your life, so tell her!
Phoebe xxXxx... (read in full...)
My best friend flipped out because I danced with this guy!
Q. If I danced with a guy who asked me then why did my best friend flip out? Right after our dance was over she said "don't tell me u like him." Why wouldn't she let me decide on my own? He really likes another girl but that girl likes another guy so ...
A. 4 November 2006: Hey,
well first off - not to point out the bad in this, but there is a TINY chance your friend could have been jealous. However, now we;ve got that lil detail outta the way, let's think about your problem for a second.
I'd say just check it out... (read in full...)
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