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I need help with online dating ettiquette!

Q.   Hey everyone. I was just wondering at what point when dating someone is it normal / the etiquette do you not chat with other people / ask for dates? I've been online dating for a while, but without much / any success. Had a second date recently, t...

A.   13 November 2019: My advice is that if this is the first person you have dated since your breakup you need to keep it very casual and low key.. Just hang out have dinner grab a coffee and chat together.. Its only been a year since your last relationship so you will ... (read in full...)

Married 40 years and not once has my wife given me oral sex. She refuses to

Q.   I have been married for forty years to the same woman. She has never given me a blow job in all those years. I have gone down on her for years, but she refuses me when I ask her to do the same on me. When we were first married we had good sex but ...

A.   9 November 2019: She's stayed by your side for 40 years.. But she's so bad because she doesn't want to give you a blowjob.. Hang on let me repeat this. SHES BEEN BY YOUR SIDE FOR 40 YEARS. The grass isn't any greener tell your wife you love her because she obviously ... (read in full...)

What's it like dating someone with a young child?

Q.   I'm currently seeing (nothing official yet) a guy who has a young kid, 3 years old. I never really wanted any kids of my own but I am really starting to fall for this guy and I think he feels the same way. I'm not good with kids, not because I don't ...

A.   1 June 2019: You need to understand that if you split up. You will hurt from the loss of a child as well as hurt from the loss of your partner.... (read in full...)

Thought she was my friend, is it me or has she changed?

Q.   I’m not sure where to start as I’m in complete shock at the moment. a while ago I joined a dating site to find myself a girlfriend as I’ve been single for nearly a year. came across a female who I liked and seem to get on well with each other. it ...

A.   31 May 2019: She rushes into relationships to quick. She doesnt learn and keeps repeating the same mistake. She boasts about how many men she has been with. This woman is disgusting. Would you really want to build a relationship with someone everybody has used ... (read in full...)

Can men get so used to porn that they think of the porn stars as better than normal women?

Q.   Is it possible that a man who has been single for a long time and used porn as his main sexual release can become infactuated with porn women and think of them as being better than or above ordinary women. I ask because the man o have met seems to ...

A.   31 May 2019: Wow lets idolise a porn queen thats had a terrible child hood with such a low self esteem that she does porn. O look shes in a gangbang with five men. Its ok shes taken pain killers for the anal shots. she takes cocaine.. No way. Come on is this ... (read in full...)

I've wasted my prime is it too late to get over it?

Q.   This is a petty question I'm sure but it's something that holds me back I will try to keep it short. I've had depression off and on since 15 but hit a hard spell at 21 after a relationship knocked me back because of it my life has been frozen....

A.   31 May 2019: No one can tell you what you should or shouldnt be doing. The Reason is you suffer from deppression. And it sounds like your trying to get on top of it. The mind is a very powerful thing. But it can lie and make you think you should be doing things ... (read in full...)

She thanked me, said she had a good time but also said she is not looking for anything serious

Q.   I matched and got talking to a girl on a online dating app.. Few messages later went out for dinner. Holy smokes she is stunning. I don’t have a clue how it went. She kept thanking me and saying she had a good time. But also said she is not looking ...

A.   31 May 2019: Being a gentleman has cost you nothing. She might have saved you alot of heartache and pain. She has been honest with you. So what she said was shes not looking for anything serious. You need to not let this bother you. Really its no big deal. So ... (read in full...)

I'm married and am infatuated with a man who is also in a relationship

Q.   I am a married woman and I have developed an infatuation with another man. He is in a relationship too. I don’t know a great deal about him but I know he too fancies me. He has made it clear and has asked me out. I have never been unfaithful ...

A.   30 May 2019: DONT DO IT...Cheating is like using a atomic bomb on everyone. After the bomb has been dropped the radiation causes pain and suffering for everyone including the children and yourself for years to come. Dont think you wont feel guilty. Dont think ... (read in full...)

Should I respond to and forgive a homophobic friend?

Q.   Time ago I had a friend. We knew each other for a long time, almost 10 years. All this time I was in the closet but then I met this guy and everything got serious between us and that was when I decided I wanted to finally come out. My friend was ...

A.   19 May 2019: If i was you. I could easily forgive him. Even the spit in the face is no big deal. The fact that he regrets his actions is enough for me. People make mistakes.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend just stood and watched while I was struggling rather than help me. Was this mean? Selfish?

Q.   I went shopping with my boyfriend and I was struggling to carry the bags so one of the bags fell on the floor and I was struggling to pick it up meanwhile my boyfriend just stood there and watched me struggle. I said thanks for helping me and he ...

A.   19 May 2019: If he cant help you pick up some groceries that you have dropped. What happens when you have a flat tyre late at night. Or you need to be taken to hospital..? Is he going to be there for you..? Or is he going to make a scene..?... (read in full...)

Just found out he cheated the entire relationship. Should I give him chance?

Q.   I have been dating my current boyfriend for 3 years now. Our families have meshed and we've gone on many trips together, have gone through many experiences and have even told each other I love you half a year into our relationship. He lives on...

A.   19 May 2019: Sorry honey. Get out you deserve better. If you forgive him and get married your allways going to be insecure. He will be late home from work and you will thinking hes sleeping with someone. If there is no remorse or offer to try to make you feel ... (read in full...)

We're both unhappy in our marriages and have a long history. Should we have sex?

Q.   When I was a teenager While visiting family i met a boy, through high school we crushed back and forth on each other secretly and living in different ends of the country made it impossible for anything to happen. As young adults be told me he liked ...

A.   19 May 2019: Here is an idea.. You could cancel the meet up and concentrate on working on your marriage. Saying your not 100 percent happy in your marriage is no excuse to start developing an emotional relationship that could lead on to a sexual relationship. ... (read in full...)

My husband looks at young women in porn and tells me I should just be happy he's still having sex with me despite my shortcomings

Q.   My husband looks at porn of women around 18- 20 . I’m entering menopause and feeling extremely depressed about my changes to my body such as less elasticity and lubrication wrinkles etc . I’m fit and healthy but nothing makes me as young as the ...

A.   17 May 2019: Thats not fair. And to be honest your husband is being a dumb ass. We all age stretch marks,saggy boobs, going bald loseing teeth. I dont have a problem with the porn and i dont think he would cheat on you. Its all just a fantasy. But saying you ... (read in full...)

Do we change our views in regards to relationships as we get older?

Q.   Silly question maybe but in terms of how you are as a person do we change all that much from the ages of twenty to forty when it comes to how we view relationships? My partner says he didn't know what love was, had nothing to compare it to, looks ...

A.   17 May 2019: Im near 50.. And i can say we change alot. Im nothing like i was 10 years ago when it comes to relationships. Infact im ashamed of who i was. And of what i didnt understand. I cheated and i lied and i hurt people. I learnt through counseling that ... (read in full...)

What happens when male and female best friends share a bed for the night?

Q.   I recently moved into my own apartment. It's a one bedroom and I don't have any furniture. My long time female friend plans to stay over this weekend so that she can 1. see the place and 2. not have to go all the way home after we watch a movie ...

A.   28 April 2019: I think you need to relax and see what happens.. If you are close friends then its all ok to make love and enjoy yourself. But if she says do you mind if we just have a cuddle and go to sleep then you need to respect her wishes.. Who knows you might ... (read in full...)

After I broke up with my ex I began seeing one of his friends

Q.   Rite long story... me and my ex where together for 6 years. 1 little boy age 4. we split just about a year ago and it was a nasty split after we broke up i started seeing his friend to which after months he fell in love with me. i know i hurt ...

A.   28 April 2019: Sleeping with his friend after the breakup was wrong. With so many men out there why would you want to do that..? When two people break up the love is still there for a long time afterwards. With this said you need to understand that he is trying ... (read in full...)

I had sex with another man because its what my husband wanted and now he's mad

Q.   How can I fix my marriage? We are married 5yrs and both age 27. For 2yrs my husbby has had a fantasy for me to fuck a hung man. I have resisted. We have used this as fantasy sex talk. Fri night we went out together to a bar and met friends. Later ...

A.   28 April 2019: Stupidity... Your bond together will never be the same. When your having sex he will be wondering if your thinking about him or mr X. You didnt want to do this but you gave in because you love your husband and thought that this would excite him and ... (read in full...)

I think I am being manipulated into being Plan B

Q.   My ex who dated me for almost 5 years suddenly blocked me on whatsapp and 3 weeks later sent me a break up letter. I did not react but I cried and still cry. I went online 2 days ago and saw that his ex wife has new pictures in his new house wh...

A.   27 April 2019: Destroy the letters. Block and delete. Forget the photos of you and him as they will work for you causing him more problems.. Forget the photos of there flashy house she is showing off it will soon be sold. Stay in no contact as you will become ... (read in full...)

He's 30 years older than me and doesn't want sex as much as I do

Q.   I’m engaged to a man 30 years older than me. We’ve been together seven years almost eight. The only thing we’ve had minor discussions about is sex. I want sex more often than him. We’ve never done it twice in one day even! He’s the only man I’ve had ...

A.   25 April 2019: Forgive me for saying this... But Its not going to work. You are sexualy frustrated. You need to ask yourself if its worth living the rest of your life without sex. Or enjoy a loveing sexual relationship with someone more compatable. This is ... (read in full...)

My husband loves looking at other women

Q.   My husband loves looking at other women. He used to go online and ask them to send him pictures. I asked him to stop. He stopped now that we got married 8 months ago.he has posters all over his garage and playboy and looks at pictures on facebook. I ...

A.   25 April 2019: The good news is he is only looking at the menu and he will be eating at home. The bad news is you feel like your not good enough for him and this makes you feel insecure. I used to look at porn when i was in a long term relationship but i allways ... (read in full...)

He cheated on me, was violent but it now feels things are back on track. So why am I not happy?

Q.   I really don't know how I feel anymore, my head is all over the place and I'm so mixed up. I've been with my boyfriend for 8years. When we first met things moved very fast and I knew i loved him very early on. We had what I thought was the perfect ...

A.   16 April 2019: Sounds like he is about to learn a painful leason.. The trust has been broken. You will feel like you want to check up on him all the time.. The point is he has made yoi feel like this by his cheating. He wants to forget about it and move on but it ... (read in full...)

I get dates but then I think there might be somebody better so I ghost them

Q.   Hello everyone, I am looking for some help and would be grateful for your opinions. I'm single and looking for a woman, and I've had 13 dates so far this year. I'm not a fussy guy and I liked 9 of them. With 7 of these 9, I have had second or th...

A.   15 April 2019: Come on man... Ghosting. Man up and tell them your not interested. And if your having sex with these woman i hope your protecting yourself... There is no perfect woman like us men none of us are perfect. Personality and similar interests are what id ... (read in full...)

I suspect my ex set up my (now also an ex), boyfriend to cheat on me.

Q.   I've been seeing this guy for about 3 months now. I go to his house every weekend for Friday and Saturday night, and he comes to my house usually to stay the night on Wednesdays. He's been a complete sweetheart to me and we had good plans for the ...

A.   15 April 2019: Im not proud of what im about to write.. But i am honest and for this i feel im an agony uncle that brings a different light to each question. I cheated in the begining of my last long term relationship not once but a few times. After the ... (read in full...)

I still resent the way my husband proposed to me.

Q.   I wanted to see if I’m being sensitive or not, I can’t get over the fact after 6 years of marriage with two kids of how my husband proposed. We’ve been dating for 5 years before he propose and the way he did it makes me sad till to this day. I see ...

A.   12 April 2019: He stuffed up.. Big time. Ok we all do at some point. Does he love you and treat you right. Sounds like he regrets his actions. I understand how important this was to you. But if he is your rock and he loves you i think he deserves a second chance. ... (read in full...)

How do you break up after 2 dates with a nice person?

Q.   How do you break it off with someone who has been very nice and seems very keen but is maybe a bit too full on after 2 dates? What words would you use to not hurt their feelings?...

A.   11 April 2019: I really enjoyed your company. You have a great personality and your a beautiful woman. However i feel this is all moveing to quickly with out me feeling the same way. I dont want to waste your time or mine and i want you to find the right person ... (read in full...)

Does anyone have any advice on dating a divorced man with 2 young children?

Q.   Does anyone have any advice on dating a divorced man with 2 young boys (2 and 3 years old)? He's 6 years older than I am and from the moment we met, there was an instant connection. He treats me much better than I've ever been before and I believe ...

A.   11 April 2019: Taking it slowly is the best option. If you help raise the kids and become close to them you need to know that if the relationship fails you will be heart broken for the kids as well as your partner. ... (read in full...)

I'm not really into the new guy. Do I give him a chance or am I wasting my time?

Q.   I have been single for 6 months and have recently got back into dating. I say dating - I have met up with one person so far as the 'pool' is so small where I live - even online. The guy I have met is nice. He is sweet, kind, laid back but I ...

A.   11 April 2019: 6 months is not long enough.. He will never be better in bed then your previous lover. He has not had any time to learn about your sexual likes. And if your thinking maybe... Well good luck with that one Honey.. I think you know your answer.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend tries to have anal sex without my permission. Does he not respect me?

Q.   I am 64 female,boyfriend is 60,seeing each other for 6 weeks now and have had amazing sex,he is much more sexually experienced and into porn very much. He tried to enter me analy without asking me and I jumped back because it really hurt,told him ...

A.   7 April 2019: Firstly im sorry you were raped. This must have been a horrible experiance for you. This guy knows this and should be more sensative and loving towards you. Sorry honey hes a selfish pig. Get yourself a real lover one that cares about your needs and ... (read in full...)

Am I overreacting to his sex secrecy?

Q.   So, crazy title question, I know, but I'm not sure if im overreacting. A few weeks ago my boyfriend and I were talking about women "squirting" during sex (insert embarrassed face lol). We were just talking about it casually because we are v...

A.   7 April 2019: Guys like to show and do something that no other boyfriend has ever done with you. You are special to him and he wants something only you too share together. Sometimes they will take something after you break up that was only special to the too of ... (read in full...)

Is all fair in love and war?

Q.   I had an affair 7 years ago. He broke it off after 2.5 years. We boyh stayed married to our spouses. I really loved him and was heart broken. 2 months ago he reached out to me. He claims he still loves me, is in love with me and on and on. I ...

A.   29 March 2019: I was once unfaithful in a long term relationship. This occured in the beginning of my relationship. I never realised but I grew to love my partner but allways had to live with the mistrust of what I'd done. As I grew to love her more and more. I ... (read in full...)

Is there anything wrong with fantasizing what your friends would be like in bed?

Q.   Hey, I want to ask a quick question (I'll try to keep it quick anyway) Is there anything wrong with wondering what your friends are like in bed, or even fantasizing about such things when you're alone? I love my partner and he satisfies m...

A.   29 March 2019: Fantasising about other people is a normal part of sexual fantasies. I used to fantasize that my girlfriend would say to me.. Hay I have this friend and she's lonely and horny do you think if I brought her over you could help her out. And Id answer ... (read in full...)

I am not feeling comfortable with his intentions towards dating me

Q.   Afew weeks ago, a man approached me and we talked a bit, just a small talk. However, recently, i just don't understand what he wants. So basically, i started seeing him around me more often, just glancing at me from a distance. He approached me ...

A.   27 March 2019: What an idiot. What would you like this guy that says I feel nervous, Intimidated and awkward around you. Sounds like he's looking for a mother. Or an Alpha male that says would you like to go for a coffee or a drink with confidence and strength. I ... (read in full...)

If I move in as he suggests I fear I will be stuck into one of his little compartments and kept separate from his life

Q.   Hi, was looking for advice. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for around 2 years. He has basically been staying at mine every night for over a year but still maintains his own place which has made money really tight as he cant afford ...

A.   27 March 2019: Sounds like you are just in a place where he wants you. Just for his own benefit. Sorry honey he needs to grow up. Find yourself a man and leave this boy...... (read in full...)

I feel nothing after separating from my boyfriend of 4 years

Q.   My boyfriend and I have broken up after 4 years together and I feel numb. We've separated because even though we love each other, we're not "in love" and we both knew it and it was completely emotional. Is it normal the feel this unphased af...

A.   27 March 2019:  Love takes time it grows slowly. It's not like the movies. Wen you go to the gym to build muscle. You go one week and see no results. You go for a month and you start to see some changes. Love is like this. Your partner comes home from work and ... (read in full...)

I trust him, of course I do, I just don't understand his actions.

Q.   I’ve been with my partner for almost six years and we’re currently expecting our first baby, due in July. For a while now he’s been taking his phone everywhere with him, even if he is just going to the toilet/puts the bins out/make a cup of tea, he ...

A.   27 March 2019: He should just tell you there is no other woman's numbers in his phone. Unless it's for work. He could just leave it unlocked and say honey I'm just going for a shower. And let you go through it. I used to sometimes look at porn on my phone. So ... (read in full...)

I trust him, of course I do, I just don't understand his actions.

Q.   I’ve been with my partner for almost six years and we’re currently expecting our first baby, due in July. For a while now he’s been taking his phone everywhere with him, even if he is just going to the toilet/puts the bins out/make a cup of tea, he ...

A.   27 March 2019: He should just tell you there is no other woman's numbers in his phone. Unless it's for work. He could just leave it unlocked and say honey I'm just going for a shower. And let you go through it. I used to sometimes look at porn on my phone. So ... (read in full...)

We broke up and he's acting like nothing every happened

Q.   hi i ended my 5 year relationship 2 weeks ago due to his lazy immature behaviour as soon as he got home from work he would start getting stoned then by night time he would be falling asleep on the settee and basically I got bored he spends hundreds ...

A.   25 March 2019: He needs time away to reflect on his issues. Once he is out of the relationship he will be able to see what he did wrong. Trust, and honesty are need to be respected in a relationship. He also needs to show you affection and make you feel secure. ... (read in full...)

Is it normal to be a bit incompatible in your sex life?

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and when we first got together, we had quite a lot of sex. Before him, I hadn't really found anyone that I "clicked" with so kind of went without. When we were first dating, we did it a LOT. Like, 2 times a ...

A.   23 March 2019: My relationship just ended after 9 years. A big part of our relationship issues was sex. Or lack off it. I have a high sex drive and my partner at the time had an average sex drive. The sex we did have was amazing partly because we loved each other ... (read in full...)

Has anyone ever lost their libido to this degree due to boredom and lack of emotional connection and was I selfish for not being a sexually dutiful partner?

Q.   Thank you to anyone who reads and responds to my post. I recently separated from a 9 year relationship, 4 years living together. I'm not sure if I have done the right thing but what I do know is that I am heart broken knowing I have broken his ...

A.   9 February 2019: Well there is a lot going on here.. First I'd like to say you were not selfish you suffered some serious health issues over the period of your relationship. I can also see he was not selfish either or he would have ran away a long time ago. For all ... (read in full...)

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