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Boyfriend wants a break after 6 years for no explained reason. Help
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 6 years. We have had a long distance relationship(the 1st 4 yrs we were 3 hrs away) then 5th yr he moved to Europe for school and we decided to stay together. I loved to europe to to join school as well. Now this ...
A. 30 April 2010: There are many reasons he could be acting like this. Perhaps his experiences in living and studying abroad have changed him and he doesn't feel the same way he did before.
He says that he sees you in his future...I'd take a look at those words tw... (read in full...)
Will he leave me? My past says so
Q. Me and my BF have been dating for almost 7 months and i have this insecurity that he is gonna leave me for someone better. He tells me all the time that he loves me and for me not to worry cause it wont happen but yet I still worry because the past ...
A. 26 April 2010: As hard as it is, you need to stop worrying and trust him. He's with you because he wants to be.
Also, you have to learn to live in the moment. Enjoy what you have with him now. No one knows what will happen. People change and things might no... (read in full...)
Should I choose love and appreciation over money?
Q. I am for now a single women. I have been getting to know two guys that I really like. One guy is going to be very successful but I'm afraid he won't have time for me and our relationship. The other guy is just your average Joe but with him there is ...
A. 26 April 2010: I agree with Dekten. Never rely on anyone else but yourself for financial security. Sure it's nice to live comfortably, but you need to be able to do this with or without a man's input.
You say you need to "feel appreciated, loved, and unforgot... (read in full...)
I need an opinion, does he miss me?
Q. I was seeing this guy for a few months and I really really liked him but all of a sudden things weren't going too well in his life, he quit college (where we met) and told me he didn't want to see me anymore because he wasn't ready for a relation...
A. 22 April 2010: To be honest here, I don't think he misses you to the point of wanting to be with you again. He's broken it off and that's that. The whole hugging you and kissing on the cheek doesn't mean much. He was probably trying to make himself feel better ... (read in full...)
I really like him but... he's got a girlfriend.
Q. So I've been really having a serious crush on this guy.. I have been told that yeah he is flirting with me and seems to be interested in me. There's only one problem he has a girlfriend. I don't know how long they been together or anything. These ...
A. 22 April 2010: If you pursue this, you're more likely than not to get hurt.
He could like you and like your company but that could be all there is to it. Just because he does all those things doesn't mean he would leave his GF to be with you. You say you don'... (read in full...)
I can't figure this girl out. Did I do something wrong?
Q. hey guys, i have a problem. Theres this girl ive been talking to, for about 3 months now. previously, before me and her, she just ended a 2 yr relationship, and i got out of a bad one with no intentions on dating anyone at all (and still have ...
A. 20 April 2010: What strikes me as very interesting here is that you say that you have "no intentions on dating anyone at all (and still have none)" but here you are analysing this situation to death. Are you sure you're not interested in a relationship with this ... (read in full...)
Is casual sex a bad idea?
Q. Does anybody think casual sex is a bad idea? I don't think there is anything wrong with it as long there is contraception being used. What do other people think thank you x...
A. 20 April 2010: I certainly wouldn't do it because to me sex is more than just the physical act. It's the closest you can get to another person and to me that should only be reserved for those who you care about and who care about you.
But I guess for those wh... (read in full...)
Should I tell her about my previous 'relationship' with her family friend?
Q. Long story short, I've been seeing girl A. 11 years ago (in high school), I dated a girl B who happens to be close family friends with girl A. That relationship with girl B didn't mean much to me. I was younger and had no idea what a relationship ...
A. 18 April 2010: I don't think it matters much because it was such a long time ago, but if you feel like she needs to know, then tell her.
But, think first how she will take it. Although it might not matter now, and logically it doesn't, she might react to it. Y... (read in full...)
Why do guys take so long to call you back?
Q. why do guys take so long to call back? If they don't call after 3 days dose that mean they lost interest?...
A. 16 April 2010: Guys take long to do something when they're not interested enough or when you're one of the many girls they're chasing.
Like CaringGuy said, if this is the beginning stages of dating and he takes forever to call, he's not worth it.... (read in full...)
To shave or not to shave?
Q. I feel like this is a ridiculous question to ask but I really don't know how to go about my situation. I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and everything has been great. He treats me very well and I'm very happy. Our sex life is ...
A. 15 April 2010: To be honest with you, if you've been with him that long, you should be able to ask him anything and tell him almost anything. You have sex with him and that's the most intimate you can get, so I don't see why you can't just say something like "hey, ... (read in full...)
What is normal...how much is too much
Q. Quick question, is it normal for a guy to call his girlfriend of 3 weeks, 10 times in 23 hours for a chat, lasting between 4 mins to 1 hour at a time? ...
A. 15 April 2010: It is a bit excessive, but frequent calling and chats are very common at the beginning of any relationship. I don't know if I could handle 10 times in 23 hours though.
But don't get used to it and don't expect it to continue. He's infatuat... (read in full...)
I want to be bf and gf again, but he says no because of the future!
Q. I am a freshman in college and back in highschool i dated a boy for 6 months we broke up last june because we no longer seemed like "boyfriend girlfriend" just more like friends. We ended up going to the same college and eventually started becoming ...
A. 13 April 2010: He wants the benefits of a relationship without committing to one. Leave him.
So he says he doesn't know what will happen in 3 years? So what, nobody knows, but they still make committments, get married, buy houses and cars, sign contract... (read in full...)
First time sex-- now it hurts when I pee!
Q. I have just had sex for my first time and now I feel kind of strange and it hurts when I pee. Is there something wrong with me? ...
A. 12 April 2010: You probably have a UTI (urinary tract infection). But you could also have an STD. You need to see a doc asap. If it's a UTI, it's easily treated with antibiotics. Make the appointment today.... (read in full...)
Why do women find me unappealing?
Q. Hey, could you provide a list of the most common turn-offs when it comes to females assessing males as possible romantic partners? The following is quite long. So, if you have time to read it and think about it, then I would appreciate some inp...
A. 9 April 2010: If your description of yourself is true, I don't think that anything's wrong with you. You sound like you have self-esteem but you're not conceited. You actually sound like a really nice guy.
One question for you. You say that you meet plenty o... (read in full...)
It's been almost a week and he still hasn't called...
Q. My friend and her boyfriend have been trying to set me up with a friend of his for awhile now. For about a month we had a hard time all getting together because he works two jobs and I have crazy long work hours myself. Finally last week, she called ...
A. 7 April 2010: I'd let him call you. He knows you're interested, he's got your number and apparently he thinks you're nice...so if he's interested he will call.
Your guy friends tell you to give him a few days. You shouldn't wait a set amount of days and then... (read in full...)
Eye Color Genetics
Q. Hi I have a question concerning genetics. So I have green eyes and brown curly hair and my boyfriend has brown eyes and black curly hair. Also, I am white and he is puerto rican. We have one child with brown eyes and brown curly hair with very light ...
A. 7 April 2010: I doubt you'll ever have a child with him who is blue or green eyed. I think he'd have to carry a blue/green recessive gene for that to happen, and being Puerto Rican makes me think that both his genes are for brown eyes.
My mum has brown eyes and... (read in full...)
He's barely talking!
Q. Ok Peoples I need help!! I've been with my boyfriend now for nearly 6 months and lately he doesnt seem chatty and he barely answers me and my texts, he says he's fine but i think theres something wrong and i think it could be me..... so ...
A. 31 March 2010: You don't give us much detail to work with.
If you've noticed a change, then you need to sit him down and talk to him. Don't ask what's wrong, don't say you think it's you and so on.
Just tell him that you've noticed that he's been different a... (read in full...)
What can I do to get over this unrequited passion?
Q. I have a fairly new male friend. I have strong feelings for him, I told him about them. He was nice about it but said he could only ever see me as a friend. I said to myself ok, I can live with that, but here is Where it gets confusing... He is ...
A. 31 March 2010: He sounds quite strange. And no, you're not overreacting. You've clearly told him that you want more than friendship, he's said that he doesn't want that, and now he's acting like more than friends, that's disrespectful to you I think.
You s... (read in full...)
We hit it off but now she's too busy for me. Could she still like me?
Q. Hello, So I am just so confused. I am 22 and in college right now. About a month ago I met this girl at ballroom dancing, we hit it off really well, and I got her number pretty quickly. We met for lunch, and then before I left for spring br...
A. 31 March 2010: Don't worry about what you said or didn't say in your text...it doesn't usually make a difference in the big scheme of things.
It seems that this girl is not too sure about things for some reason. Has she been dramatically different since her retu... (read in full...)
After the hymen is torn by girls masturbating or she loses her virginity, do her periods get heavier?
Q. After the hymen is torn by girls masturbating or she loses her virginity, do her periods get heavier? If then why? I really want to know,because i am curious,i have ask some of my best friends and they all don`t know! Thanks in advance aunts =...
A. 30 March 2010: The breaking of the hymen has nothing to do with how light or heavy your periods are.
Some girls might bleed after first time sex, which is the hymen breaking, but in terms of periods...breaking the hymen has no effect on your period. ... (read in full...)
I am sexually active and the guiltiness wont go away
Q. im 15 and i love my boyfriend i know he truely loves me because he demonstrates it every day with his actions.We've had sex several times but i feel very guilty afterwards because i feel like im letting myself and my mom down.Im a catholic and my ...
A. 28 March 2010: You were clearly raised in a home where sex is something which is only expected to happen after marriage. You have done otherwise, and at a very young age, and so you feel guilty.
You will continue to feel guilty until you resolve this within y... (read in full...)
Am I being paranoid? Is this weird behaivor for a new relationship?
Q. I just started a relationship with my best friend. It was kind of sudden, and before we started dating him and I made plans to see Cheech and Chong stand up comedy live :). well last night he spent the night and today we decided we're dating. Well ...
A. 26 March 2010: I used to be the exact same...reading into things stuff that didn't even make sense.
I don't think it's weird behaviour at all. Perhaps now he sees you as a GF he didn't see the need to invite you out with Wes as one of the boys. But most lik... (read in full...)
Sleeping with a broken heart...
Q. Hello, Here's my situation: i found out through myspace that my boyfriend of 3 years has been cheating with an ex girlfriend for the past year. when confronted, he denied it so i confronted her and found out it was true. when he found out i talk...
A. 25 March 2010: I really think that you should take a hard look at what happened and ask yourself if you deserve to be cheated on, disrespected and then blamed for 'snooping?'
You ask if you're broken up...that's a decision you should make. Are you ok with let... (read in full...)
Being needy scaring him off?
Q. met what i thought was the perfect guy (im assuming im talking on behalf of a lot of girls lol) he was meeting me all the time texting, ringing then i went and blew things by being a little needy i hadnt heard from him for like 16 hrs so being ...
A. 25 March 2010: You know, there is a saying that goes "you cannot say the wrong thing to the right person." I truly believe that and I would also add that you cannot do something which you think is wrong (texting, being needy, etc) if this guy is for real and likes ... (read in full...)
He's going to fast and I want to take things slower... help!
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm 18 years old and only kissed one guy before. That was when I was 15 and didn't know any better that all he wanted was to get in my pants. And once that didn't happen he was gone as fast as he came. After him I learned to be ca...
A. 24 March 2010: Well done for saying no to the other guy. This guy now might be in it for the same thing. How will you know? Only do what you want and not what you're expected to do or what your friend thinks you should be doing.
If this guy is genuine about yo... (read in full...)
Do people find love when they least expect it or is that just rubbish?
Q. Do people find love when they least expect it? How does that work? And DOES it work? I'd really love know this!!...
A. 24 March 2010: I think that's true in a way. What it really is, is that when you stop looking and stop obsessing about it, it happens. I think that's because a carefree and happy person draws people to them...and might be lucky to draw someone to them who they ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend claims to love me yet he is planning on cheating. I need some advice.
Q. My boyfriend of almost 3 years claims i mean the world to him. But a couple days ago i saw texts in his phone to another female and they were making plans to get together romanticly......my hearts crushed and my trust has gone out the window. And on ...
A. 23 March 2010: How sure are you that he plans to cheat? If you're positive, and even though he hasn't done anything yet, I would talk to him. Although snooping around someone's phone is not the best thing to do, I'd let him know what you've found out.
He mi... (read in full...)
How can I ever trust someone ever again after what she did to me?
Q. i was dating this girl for a while, but she hooked up with somone else, got pregnant,and basically started pretending i didnt exist. she ignored all my textes,and didnt answer her phone when i called. we were extremely close and my question is, feel...
A. 22 March 2010: By realizing that everyone is different, and the fact that she had no respect for you or your feelings, doesn't mean that many other women out there won't.
Were there any signs before she did this? When you look back on things, are there things s... (read in full...)
I have fallen in love with an older, married man. How do I overcome the pain?
Q. I started an apprenticship a year ago to be an offshore electrician. There I met a guy almost 20 years older than me (I am 21) who taught me on one of the offshore platforms. He looked after me really well and was so kind and taught me so much and ...
A. 18 March 2010: He might be right for you, but the fact that he's married means that he's wrong for you.
You say you're shy and quiet and that you've never had a boyfriend. Now, here is this man, who's older and mature and seems to have taken a liking to you...ob... (read in full...)
Was I wrong to tell him not to expect sex right away? We met online.
Q. I met a guy online three months ago. We hit it off right from the start with tremendous passion and chemistry and have butted heads a few times too. We were supposed to meet next week and he was going to come out here and I requested he stay in a ...
A. 18 March 2010: You didn't do anything wrong. You're protecting yourself and righly so. If he's mature enough, he'll understand and realize that you didn't intend to hurt his feelings by saying this.
You don't know him and you were perfectly fine in saying w... (read in full...)
Could they be more than friends?
Q. My fiance has a female friend who's been living in another country for a few years. He used to take care of her cat when she'd go on vacations and such (before we met). Now this same girl is coming back to our country, the US, and is wanting to go ...
A. 18 March 2010: It's natural to be a little bit jealous and upset but don't let it overcome you and turn you into a possessive girlfriend...that's not attractive.
If I was you I'd totally let him go and catch up with her, he should be able to have female friends.... (read in full...)
How do I stop myself getting back with my cheating boyfriend?
Q. my boyfriend cheated...how do i keep myself from geting back together with him?...
A. 17 March 2010: I agree with the other Aunts...no contact with this man, ever. He's not worth your time or attention.
A man who had no respect for you, doesn't deserve your time or attention. You stop yourself by realizing that he doesn't love or respect you. Don... (read in full...)
Is it a bad idea to see this guy if he is acting like this?
Q. I met a guy just before Christmas.. we were seeing each other quite intensely for a few weeks, but then I went to Thailand for a month. I cam back from Thailand, we saw each other once and then after that I didnt hear from him again, which was...
A. 17 March 2010: I agree with CaringGuy, this man is not worth your time.
He's either got other women going, he's got issues or he just enjoys the attention.
Where was he for 3 weeks? No guy, who is genuine about you, will leave you hanging for three weeks.... (read in full...)
Is virginty that important?
Q. My friends make me feel like still being a virgin is something to be ashamed of. most if not all have had sex before and whenever they bring it up they always make it sound like whoever hasn't yet is either ugly or an outcast...it's not like i ...
A. 17 March 2010: Stick to what you believe in...I think you're on the right path. Virginity is something very personal and you need to stand up for what you believe in. Don't listen to anyone else...it's your body and your choices. Have you ever thought that perhaps ... (read in full...)
He neglected to tell me he had another gf! What should I do now?
Q. hello everyone, i really need ur sincere advice, i met a guy when i was visiting my country , i met him through a common friend, but i always heard of him ever since i was a kid, he's 7 years older then me, not specifically handsome but very ...
A. 16 March 2010: This guy will continue using you if you let him. He's done it once and he knows you'll fall for it again, so he wil do it again.
Let me ask you, what's so special about him? A guy who lies to you, who ignores you and who is now playing with you... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he call when he says he will?
Q. this guy ive been chatting to.. i really like him.. i gave him my number...we flirt alot..hes got my number... he use to text me often but not anymore.. hes only called me once..and after the convo he texted me and told me i sound nice. we dont...
A. 16 March 2010: I'm going to give a you different opinion. He's not busy or nervous, he's just not that interested.
He talks and flirts when he's got nothing better to do. He doesn't call when he says he will because you are not a priority to him.
I don't... (read in full...)
Remembering my ex....It's as though I'm living in my own fantasy world. It's not good, is it...?
Q. Should I remember the things I've done with my ex? I constantly flash back those moments when I am about to sleep. Sometimes I feel it's not healthy because I tend to act as though what we had is still going on. But just merely the thoughts were so ...
A. 16 March 2010: Are you just reminiscing of the times you had together? If so, that's normal. And especially when you're not doing anything else, like when you're about to go to sleep.
Sometimes I think of so much stuff before I go to sleep and I often wonder i... (read in full...)
My ex wont move on....should I stop contact for a while?
Q. My ex broke up with me nearly 4months ago and we still stayed very close afterwards but I realised 3weeks ago that it was not helping me get over him and I was only ended up upset after talking with or meeting up with him even tho we would have a ...
A. 16 March 2010: And I guess I forgot to answer your question lol
Stopping contact only works if YOU are the one who wants to move on completely. If you're stopping contact for any other reason, it will not work. If you think that stopping contact for a few week... (read in full...)
My ex wont move on....should I stop contact for a while?
Q. My ex broke up with me nearly 4months ago and we still stayed very close afterwards but I realised 3weeks ago that it was not helping me get over him and I was only ended up upset after talking with or meeting up with him even tho we would have a ...
A. 16 March 2010: Why did you break up? I might be wrong here but I think what he's doing is trying to make himself feel better about the fact that he broke up with you. Even though you're not together anymore, I'm sure that he does miss you and your company. And ... (read in full...)
Just friends with benifits.
Q. i am in a physical relationship with a boy who has recently come out of a 3 year relationship. We see each other and are intimate but he claims we are just friends however aspects of our relationship are those that couples have it has been 2 months ...
A. 15 March 2010: You should stop sleeping with him until you are in a committed relationship. He says you're friends but he's sleeping with you? Friends don't sleep with each other. He's using you and you need to stop, because it's you who's going to get hurt in the ... (read in full...)
I want out, but guilt kills me!
Q. I seriously need help... Ive been with my girlfriend for just over a year now and she is great.. Shes always there for me, she doesnt treat me bad, and we never have sexual problems or even huge arguments.. And yet I don't want her.. I didnt wa...
A. 15 March 2010: Hey, you just broke up with someone...even if you had good intentions you'll always feel bad about it. In the end thought, it's the best thing you could have done. She'll get over it in time :)... (read in full...)
I want out, but guilt kills me!
Q. I seriously need help... Ive been with my girlfriend for just over a year now and she is great.. Shes always there for me, she doesnt treat me bad, and we never have sexual problems or even huge arguments.. And yet I don't want her.. I didnt wa...
A. 5 March 2010: Hey, at least you're being honest.
You don't want to stay, you don't want to go...but you can't sit on the fence. You have to make a choice either way.
I think you'd be best of ending your relationship. She might be great and a wonderful girl, ... (read in full...)
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