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I joined this site a while ago but I haven't been on here for months, busy with university!
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I kinda know what pain Is. I know what love is and i definitely know what confusion is! I also have experience of problems in the bedroom and can relate to many others who do too.
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| Latest articles: ..Who You Lose Your Virginity To
This question has 13 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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14 April 2010: I was reading the answers to one of the questions on here, about a girl wanting to lose her virginity outside of a relationship. And I was the only answerer who didn't completely dismiss her choice (not saying that other answerers are wrong, just ...
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Our daughter is 7 months old and he is doubling my workload!
Q. Why does he have to make my life so difficult? It's just the little things but they add up and I end up feeling really frustrated. We have a seven month old daughter so I could do without the added stress. I probably sound like I'm whineing but I ...
A. 5 July 2010: He's being incredibly unfair to you. He clearly has no idea what it's like, either that or he doesn't care that that's what you're going through. I think you should show him this page, maybe after he reads the answers he might realise the pressure ... (read in full...)
Why is she angry with me for trying to protect her?
Q. Heres the story.. My girlfriend and I were at a bar/dance spot in town with friends yesterday. By the end of the night things got out of control because a few guys started fighting the bouncers. Naturally everyone started rushing to watch the figh...
A. 26 June 2010: Some girls are a bit jealous of the fact that guys can defend themselves better than them, and worry that their boyfriends see them as weak, or incapable of looking after themselves. Maybe she had a really sheltered, safe childhood, and wanted to ... (read in full...)
How does nipple color determine how she is in her sexual life?
Q. hiiii all once aging i want to know sm thing ... may be its can be funny question...but i want ans... different-different women have different-different color of nipple of Brest… So my question is if sm women has light Pink color o...
A. 26 June 2010: It doesn't determine anything to do with it at all. Nipple colour is genetic.... (read in full...)
Why do these things make me feel "dirty"?
Q. I trust my husband and love him dearly, but for some reason some things make me feel...dirty. I know from years of friendship that his type is tiny, blonde, white girls. I'm not tiny, not white, and not blonde. I know I'm attractive and I love ...
A. 26 June 2010: Seems to me that those kind of girls just turned him on. He obviously loves you and fell for you for a lot of reasons than looks alone. Looks aren't something you can base a whole relationship on, and as far as personality goes you're obviously what ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to cum really quickly for your first time of getting intimate?
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, I've grown really close to my girlfriend over the last few weeks and we recently started experimenting with each other - taking steps. Today, we went to third base, she gave me a hand job, at which point I was very VERY turned o...
A. 26 June 2010: Of course it's normal, you haven't built up a resistance to sexual pleasure. Masterbate more, that will help you build up a resistance and last longer.... (read in full...)
Why is she angry that I told her she was easy, when she is?
Q. So my girlfriend and I have a close mutual friend. She says she only fools/sleeps around with men if she potentailly sees them in a relationship. And she's had a few flings. So the other day she was wondering why this guy, whom she was seeing...
A. 26 June 2010: Liking casual sex, and not caring who you sleep with, are different things. In most people's opinions, easy defines the latter of those. That's why she took offence.... (read in full...)
Should I meet this younger girl I have met on Facebook?
Q. I really like the sound of a girl that I saw on Facebook. We have been exchanging emails for a couple of weeks now. Should I meet this girl, she is younger than me? I'd really appreciate some tips from people, especially if they are just about t...
A. 26 June 2010: "You sound cool, wanna meet up?"... (read in full...)
Why is she angry that I told her she was easy, when she is?
Q. So my girlfriend and I have a close mutual friend. She says she only fools/sleeps around with men if she potentailly sees them in a relationship. And she's had a few flings. So the other day she was wondering why this guy, whom she was seeing...
A. 25 June 2010: The word 'Easy' is used as an insult and not something most people want to be called, even if it is the truth, fact is people don't want to admit to themselves that that is what they are. Your girlfriend is angry because you upset someone close to ... (read in full...)
How can I tell him that I supported him by working as a prostitute?
Q. Our parents were physically,emotionally and verbally abusive to me and my younger brother, so when I was 18 I moved out and took him with me. In order to support me and him I worked as a prostitute but I told him I worked the night shift in a food ...
A. 25 June 2010: I think by telling him now, he won't act quite as shocked as if you waited for years and years and tell him as an adult. He may possibly not react as rationally as when he is older, but it still won't hit him quite as hard. He is obviously proud of ... (read in full...)
I plan to move to America... but how do I to tell Mum and Dad!
Q. hello reader i am 17 and i didn't stay at school or go to college i have regretted that as i haven't been able to fibd work. i am now thinking about going back to college and getting some education the thing is next year if i have enough m...
A. 25 June 2010: Really sorry to burst your bubble but, how do you expect to afford to move to America? You haven't had a job, and if you get one, considering your lack of qualifications, it won't be much more than minimum wage. It's really great that you're going ... (read in full...)
I'm 10 weeks pregnant but I don't feel anything towards this baby...why?
Q. Hi guys, Im wondering if anyone has gone through anything similar. I've been with my boyfriend for just under a year now, and everything is perfect with us. I know we're meant to be together. And although it wasn't planned, I found out I pregnant. ...
A. 25 June 2010: You haven't had the chance to interact and bond with the baby. Remember that the baby is part of you and your boyfriend. You'll probably feel totally different once it's born =]... (read in full...)
Should I meet this younger girl I have met on Facebook?
Q. I really like the sound of a girl that I saw on Facebook. We have been exchanging emails for a couple of weeks now. Should I meet this girl, she is younger than me? I'd really appreciate some tips from people, especially if they are just about t...
A. 25 June 2010: Maybe find out some more about her via your friend. I don't think there's much of a problem with the age gap. I think maybe you gave the impression that she was a total stranger and that she was younger than she really is. If you meet her, maybe get ... (read in full...)
Our daughter is 7 months old and he is doubling my workload!
Q. Why does he have to make my life so difficult? It's just the little things but they add up and I end up feeling really frustrated. We have a seven month old daughter so I could do without the added stress. I probably sound like I'm whineing but I ...
A. 25 June 2010: He clearly doesn't understand how hard it is for you. Stress to him how difficult it is and if he still doesn't believe you, go out for a day and leave him for a whole day to take care of the baby. Maybe go away for a weekend with a friend. Once ... (read in full...)
Do I tell him that I'm not a virgin?
Q. I just want to ask dat im nt a virgin, should i tell my boy friend about my secret b'coz we r planning to get married.Sometimes, i feel dat i should tell him the truth b'coz i feel embarrace dat i m not loyal to him.. Plz suggest me. Thanx.....
A. 25 June 2010: I'm assuming sex before marriage is frowned upon in your culture. Does your boyfriend share this view? Because if he does then there isn't much of a problem. However if he believes in no sex before marriage very strongly, maybe you should think ... (read in full...)
Why do I lose interest after we've had sex?
Q. Ok so here I go. So I can really be into a girl, but then once I have sex with her, something kicks in and I lose interest. Its kind of like I find something that I dislike after we have been intimate. In most cases I wouldn't care, but its ...
A. 25 June 2010: Perhaps maybe you look for things that you find sexually attractive instead of looking for the things you want in a relationship. Make a list of the things you want in a relationship, and go for girls that have at least half of those factors. Then ... (read in full...)
How often do you see your boyfriend or girlfriend?
Q. I really hate spending a whole day without my boyfriend. I hate the thought of going for a day without him and when he's gone I miss him so bad. Whatsmore is that with my exes I often used to go days on end without them and relied on msn but my ...
A. 25 June 2010: I go to college four days a week and he works four days a week. My college and his workplace are in the same city. We live about 30 miles apart but he stays over at mine before a workday because I live nearer to the city, and I stay at his once ... (read in full...)
Why is being such a lazy lover? What can I do to improve our sex life?
Q. Hi there. Ive been in a serious relationship with my boyfriend for almost 2 years but pretty much the whole time ive felt really unwanted sexually by him. By no exaggesation, he has given me oral sex 3 times without me having to ask him, and then ...
A. 25 June 2010: It seems a bit to me that he's learnt that he can use you as a doormat and is making the most of it. I know it's hard, but don't you want someone who will do all those things for you? You sound incredibly intelligent and he doesn't deserve you. I ... (read in full...)
Nervous about first-time sex!
Q. Ok, so this is a question to guys and girls. I am 18, and still a virgin. I have this fear when I am going to get to the moment of having sex, I'll be too excited and cum too quick (maybe even before sex starts?) idk, help me out, does that happen? ...
A. 18 June 2010: Doesn't normally happen before sex because you need more physical stimulation, but virgin guys don't normally last long on their first time. So you need to build up a resistance, and the solution to that, my friend, is wanking! The more used to ... (read in full...)
My wife's sexual past that I didn't know about has made me a different person today.
Q. My wife lied to me about her sexual past and has now told me... 12 years later!!! Hi guys, I just wanted to say how much this site helped me become a different person i am today. what ive learned is that if my wife would of told me about her sexual...
A. 18 June 2010: I wish this site was more like facebook so I could like this statement =]... (read in full...)
Why is being such a lazy lover? What can I do to improve our sex life?
Q. Hi there. Ive been in a serious relationship with my boyfriend for almost 2 years but pretty much the whole time ive felt really unwanted sexually by him. By no exaggesation, he has given me oral sex 3 times without me having to ask him, and then ...
A. 18 June 2010: It does sound selfish from your point of view. How often do you have sex? It could simply be that either you have a really high sex drive or he has a really low one (or both.) When you go down on him, is it because he asks for it or do you just do ... (read in full...)
Strong fear of sex, should I see a doctor?
Q. hello every one Im very scared of sex and felt that i would not get married , because i cant take my clothes off in front of my husband and made him touch me , then i feel disgusted of the sez,, knowing that my mother does not speak to me about se...
A. 18 June 2010: Your past has almost certainly caused your fear of sex. You spoke of how it is related to a man's violence and pain you feel. That isn't what sex is about, but you associate all of these things because of your experience. A man who loves you isn't ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and scared my mum will find out I'm masturbating!
Q. i am 13 and have been masturbating for a while now...im scared though that my mom is supicous of some thing and if she catches me im teriffed she will take it badly and get mad at me i read about how its natural for some one my age but still :( what ...
A. 18 June 2010: First, why would your Mum be angry?
Second, it's normal and actually quite a good thing to do because when you're older and with a guy you'll know what you do and don't like.
Thirdly, just wait until you're on your own/late at night. As long as ... (read in full...)
Why have I started feeling uncomfortable around my cousin now that she's pregnant?
Q. i have a 16 year old cousin that is 8 months pregnant.we use to be really close but ever since i found out that she was sexually active (and doesn't plan on stopping any time soon),i feel so awkward and uncomfortable around her.why is that and how ...
A. 18 June 2010: You were close and she did something that disappointed you. Being irresponsible with sex at 16 is not something to be proud of. You probably feel quite distanced from her due to this difference of opinion/lifestyle, and you don't feel you can be ... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble urinating!
Q. hi dear aunts i have a problem since 2 days, i could not urinate normally,it drips 5 drops and then 5 drops it goes on, i have pain while urinating,like someone is pricking with a pin, i consulted the doctor,he says precum has blocked my urethera...
A. 16 June 2010: I've never heard of a problem like this. Go and see a doctor or go and ask your question on www.netdoctor.co.uk. It could be cystitis, do you have to pee more often than normal? If not it could be an STD? Use condoms and make sure you keep really ... (read in full...)
How does a large penis feel? Can a smaller guy satisfy a woman?
Q. I have a question for you women out there who have had a large penis (like 9"). What do you feel when it is all the way in? Is the sensation of being "filled completely" so overwhelmingly erotic to you that you long for it, or is it no big deal? ...
A. 6 June 2010: It's not what you have, it's what you do with it. All girls like different things. Some prefer short sharp strokes and others like deep thrusting. Some girls don't get any satisfaction from penetration and rely completely on clitoral stimulation.... (read in full...)
NO BC pills..should I just use condom and take morning after pill too?
Q. Hi, I need some advice my boyfriend is going to Afghanistan at the end of this month, we have been going out for while but haven't had sex yet, we have decided to have sex before he leaves. The advice I need is that I am currently not on...
A. 6 June 2010: Your GP is not supposed to tell you that. Some girls just go on the pill as soon as they turn 16. The only reason a GP can deny the pill to you is if it will have negative effects on your health. Go to a local Family Planning or GUM clinic and they ... (read in full...)
Why do guys always cheat on me?
Q. Im 18 and i have a baby girl....guys tell my im sexy all the time im always faithful in my relationships but its like no matter what i always get cheated on why is that?...
A. 6 June 2010: Firstly, can you guarantee that they have all cheated on you?
Secondly, a lot of guys will cheat if they get away with it. If these guys have cheated on you and you've done nothing about it then they will continue to do so. You need to make it ... (read in full...)
Do you think he's actually interested? Is 17 and 21 too big an age gap?
Q. Dear Cupid, Is 17 and 21 too much of an age gap? Im turning 18 in November and he's turning 22 in August. I wouldn't normally consider this, i don't go above the age of 19, but there's this guy.. I haven't met him in person yet, he added me a...
A. 6 June 2010: Firstly, don't get your hopes up. Some guys are just very complimentary without really asking anything in return (and they're usually the honest ones!)He may just be very friendly and want to be close mates with you.
There are also a lot of inter... (read in full...)
Help with getting rid of blackheads?
Q. Hi everyone, I have an issue with blackheads. Blackheads are the only type of acne I have, but they're horrible. I have them on my nose, cheeks, forehead, everywhere. They're not really noticeable except up close, but I'm sensitive about them. I've ...
A. 6 June 2010: Don't use the natural oil. Your skin isn't dry so you don't need to. Anything with tea tree in is very good for oily and blemished skin. And products really aren't all that bad. Pore strips aren't as bad for your skin is picking it! There are other ... (read in full...)
Women only Has this happened to you when you were on your period
Q. im 15 and I came while i was on my period why did that increase my flow i get the blood comes from the vagina and so does the cum but why does it just make it worse like it made my like hard for the pad to absorb and i just like to know if this has ...
A. 6 June 2010: The cum probably loosened/mixed with the blood as it came out. Your period will probably be over sooner because you lost the blood more quickly. I wouldn't worry.... (read in full...)
I'm a 28yr old male and sex is painful for me..
Q. hi guys, i am a 28 year old male who was married for several years (seperated last year) and so i've only had a few sexual partners. I am NOT circumsized and basically, sex for me can be very painful because as soon as my foreskin rolls back, ...
A. 6 June 2010: Did you have this problem the first time you had sex or with masturbation before then? Because if not then it could be an STI. If not then I don't know what it could be but you should get checked out as this isn't normal.... (read in full...)
Attracted to taller women, where do I find them!??
Q. My problem is I am only sexually attracted to to women taller than myself. I have had this fetish since pre-puberty when the 'all boys' school I attended, merged with the nearby girls school. I was about 13 years old and one of the smallest and you...
A. 6 June 2010: Instead of going for girls based on looks/height/aesthetics, look for the personality. After all, even if your girlfriend is 6'5" and turns you on, it's not gonna work if you have a personality clash! There are things that are far more important ... (read in full...)
Guy-friend seems interested, but I'm not..do I let him know?
Q. I've a close friend. He's quite nice to everyone, but I've been told that he likes me. I have no idea whether it's true since he has never told me directly, but my friends have said that this seems to be the case. He offers to help with my duties ...
A. 6 June 2010: Just tell him that you're getting the impression that he likes you, then break it. That's all there is to it. Don't beat around the bush because then he might not get the message. Just be direct and apologetic.... (read in full...)
How do I feel more secure in the relationship?
Q. Odd one this, involving more me than my relationship but there you go.... Okay so basically I've been with my girlfriend for 5months now, everything is so, so great, chat for hours, always have a laugh and what not: we're very serious. I'm a...
A. 6 June 2010: When we really care about someone we always worry about losing them. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year and we still worry about losing each other. And I see my boyfriend every day, he stays over four nights a week, and I still ... (read in full...)
Possibly pregnant for the first time, I need help...
Q. I need a little bit of help. I am 17, and...well...there is a posabillity that I may be pregnant, and I am scared to death. I don't know what the signs are, and I dont know what to do to find out if I am pregnant are not. Me and my boyfriend had sex ...
A. 6 June 2010: Do you have any reason to think you have become pregnant? Did you have unprotected sex? Well first you need to take a pregnancy test, either shop bought or see a doctor. It's always best to take two or three to make sure. Also go on the pill so you ... (read in full...)
The condom broke -- could I be pregnant?!!!
Q. hi im am 15 and well me and my boyfriend had sex yesterday on june the 4th and well today is the 5th, and well the condom tore:/ and the condom tore and he didnt know soo he came in me and im scared i might be pregnant? i was on the last day of my ...
A. 6 June 2010: Morning after pill agreed. Unlikely but still possible as it was the last day of your period. Go on the contraceptive pill, then you won't have this worry anymore =]
Symptoms are morning sickness, sore boobs and fatigue, but don't normally... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be attracted to someone but not find them attractive?
Q. This is going to sound strange but here goes. Is it possible to be attracted to someone but not find them attractive? I am attracted to my boyfriend, I love to talk to him, spend time with him, and he turns me on. But I don't think he's attra...
A. 3 June 2010: When I think about my boyfriend physically I am very turned on. However if I think about it in the grand scheme of things, he's not the typical fitty most girls would go for. But he's beautiful in my eyes. Just think about your boyfriend physically ... (read in full...)
Guy-friend seems interested, but I'm not..do I let him know?
Q. I've a close friend. He's quite nice to everyone, but I've been told that he likes me. I have no idea whether it's true since he has never told me directly, but my friends have said that this seems to be the case. He offers to help with my duties ...
A. 3 June 2010: You should tell him. It does seem like he is interested in you, not many guys would go out to dinner with a girl just as friends (although I guess there are a few who would!) You don't want him to get the wrong impression or false hope, or to waste ... (read in full...)
Really in love with my ex-boyfriend's brother...could it work?
Q. I've read other posts similar to this but have not found a clear answer to my question. I'm completely in love with my ex's brother, what should I do? I believe, you can't help who you love and I think it's only natural for me to be attracted to ...
A. 3 June 2010: Different people would react in different ways in this situation. Personally, if you are confident that this guys likes you, then I think you should go for it. However, if he turns you down, then you do need to back off before any damage is done to ... (read in full...)
I keep dreaming of a male celebrity!
Q. Hello! For over the past week or so I keep dreaming about a certain male celebrity. One night I dreamt that he was going to have sex with me, the next he was sitting in my house and on another occasion, he was walking along the beach with his wife. ...
A. 3 June 2010: This is going to sound really cliche but:
It IS just a phase! Most people have a giant celebrity crush when we're really young, and that's totally normal! When I was 13 I had a HUGE crush on Dougie from McFly!!!
However:
Our celebrity c... (read in full...)
Dating questions from a confused teen.....
Q. I went to the movies with a friend who I have known since Kindergarten (we're in 8th now). I've liked her for a long while but never really told. Feelings were probably mutual for all this time... anyways. The theatre was rather empty, around 10 or ...
A. 3 June 2010: Woah that's a long list of questions! OK here goes:
1. If anything, it was very mild flirting. But I know that I could share an armrest with a guy mate without flirting. I wouldn't take that as a sign if I were you as it could give you false ho... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wont do anything in bed for me because he says I am too wet!
Q. im really worried because while in bed with my boyfriend i will play about with him by giving him a handjob and i will give him a blowjob and he wont do anything for me i try to drop hints like saying what do i get and he says sex, i spoke to him ...
A. 3 June 2010: Well firstly, I don't see how getting too wet is particularly a problem if he's fingering you, although I guess I can understand why he wouldn't want to go down on you if you did get as wet as he says you do. Maybe this is a cover up because he is ... (read in full...)
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