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14 April 2010: I was reading the answers to one of the questions on here, about a girl wanting to lose her virginity outside of a relationship. And I was the only answerer who didn't completely dismiss her choice (not saying that other answerers are wrong, just ...
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When is the right time to move in together?
Q. I have been seeing my boyfriend for 2 and a half months nw,ever since we dated we been spending a lot of time together and we spend nights together,i have my own rented house but i spend most of my time at his house,we are thinking of moving in ...
A. 31 March 2010: I would wait until you've been going out for a year. When you live together you have to be with each other all the time and be used to each other's habits. If you're not used to them and then you're flooded with them all at once then the stress can ... (read in full...)
Period during pregnancy?
Q. Heys.. I heard from my realative that her friend only found out that she was pregnant on the sixth month cos shed been having periods. Then again your not suposed to have periods while pregnant. Is this possible and why would it happen?...
A. 31 March 2010: No, it's not possible to have a period while you're pregnant. The blood that you shed exists in the womb to cushion the baby, and only discards to start afresh if you don't conceive. The only bleeding I can think of during pregnancy would either be ... (read in full...)
He was explaining how guys get boners and I wondered if it was a hint?
Q. One night me and the boy i like were hanging out listening to music and talking! Thing is im in love with him. He is so easy to talk to! He said to my friend that we were so close that he appears he likes me when we r just friends. He was explaining ...
A. 31 March 2010: Well was he talking seriously or jokingly? I mean if he was talking seriously that quite possibly was a hint as not many guys would talk about that seriously with a girl without hinting.
However, me and my guy mates often talk about boners a... (read in full...)
Friend gave me head while I was asleep.....
Q. I was at a party with my GF and we slept on the couch of a female friend that was hosting the party. I was on one end sort of sitting back and my GF was laying in the opposite direction. Well the problem is I wake up at about 6:30 am and look...
A. 30 March 2010: Tell your girlfriend! If she finds out from someone else she'll definitely get the wrong end of the stick, and anyway, why would you tell her at all if you were cheating on her? She should believe you.
I'm assuming the girl whose house you were... (read in full...)
How big a deal IS sex and fidelity in a marriage?
Q. Hi, I am a 24 year old married girl. I got married 2 years ago. I dont have any kids and my husband is away for the past year. I want to know how big a deal is sex. I love my husband, but i do not think that I should only have sex with him. I occa...
A. 30 March 2010: Sex is supposed to be connected with love. The sad truth is, it often isn't. You might even say 'having sex' and 'making love' are different things.
What is your husband's opinion on this? Because if he only believes in sex as an act of love the... (read in full...)
These stretch marks are the bain of my life!
Q. hi. im really insecure about my body. ive got stretch marks all over my boobs, bum, in-between my thighs, and knees and starting to get some on my hips. the thing is im not even fat, im a size 8-10. i had this boyfriend and when ever we got closer ...
A. 30 March 2010: Owch, that must be horrible. A couple of my friends have stretch marks and they're not pretty.
Try putting bio-oil on them twice a day, it should lessen their appearance. You can probably buy it in most chemists =]... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend raped me. I'd say 'no' but he wouldn't listen!
Q. I was with my boyfriend (21) for 2 and a half years. Im 22. We broke up 8 months ago as it was a terrible emotionally abusive relationship. He was so so nasty that I just cracked and eventually developed some type of anxiety. He cheated on me, ...
A. 30 March 2010: Maybe before now you were trying to forget about it and now after a while your mind is opening back up to what happened.
But nothing was your fault. The only person you made it worse for is yourself, but now you're realising what happened was so b... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend raped me. I'd say 'no' but he wouldn't listen!
Q. I was with my boyfriend (21) for 2 and a half years. Im 22. We broke up 8 months ago as it was a terrible emotionally abusive relationship. He was so so nasty that I just cracked and eventually developed some type of anxiety. He cheated on me, ...
A. 30 March 2010: You said no, you persisted to say no, you made it clear you weren't joking. He pinned you down and did it anyway. This is rape. Dob him in before he hurts you again or does the same to another girl. If you're not having counselling already, it ... (read in full...)
Pregnancy test was negative but I still don't have my period!
Q. So i take a test last week and on my home pregnancy test said its negative , but then i still haven't gotten my period im really scared what is going on with me. But i don't feel any symptons ! soo anyone can help me . I still haven't gotten my ...
A. 30 March 2010: Tests are about 97% accurate I think, so take one more to be on the safe side. But truth is it's probably just the stress and worrying that you're pregnant that is causing it to be late. Some girls just skip a period for no apparent reason. Are you ... (read in full...)
Sometimes I feel like a failure and other times I'm great
Q. Sometimes I feel like a failure. Don't get me wrong I'm a happy guy and my grades are way above average. It's just at times there is something I can't do and it's like my mind just shuts down and I am unable to do that or any other tasks. I am a ...
A. 30 March 2010: I think most people can say they've felt the same at some point. I mean I feel like that sometimes, and I know there's nothing wrong with me. Some people remain like that and for others it's just a phase. But either way, it's normal.... (read in full...)
My breast size is affecting my self esteem. Any tips on how to make them bigger?
Q. My life is just crazy I guess. I have low self esteem very low I think I am so ugly. Everyone tells me Im beautiful and that I have a pretty smile and pretty eyes, I just don't believe. So I like this guy well love actually I have known him forever ...
A. 30 March 2010: Only a very shallow guy lets the size of a girls boobs affect whether he wants to go out with them or not. Same goes for looks in general. In most cases, a guy won't care much. I mean, some of the most hideous people have found love. There are also ... (read in full...)
Are you likely to fall pregnant having sex during your period?
Q. Me and my boyfriend had sex well i was on my period and we did it the pull out way cuz we both herd that it was unlikely to get pregnit well your on it. Does any one know what the chances or percentage that i could be pregnit? I wouldnt really mind ...
A. 30 March 2010: Very unlikely but still possible, not to mention gross! =]... (read in full...)
Oral sex whilst on my period.
Q. My boyfriend wants to go down on me while I'm on my period. I've never let anyone do this. My only concern is, should I show up with or without a tampon?...
A. 30 March 2010: That's gross! Why would he wanna do that? Well, whatever floats your boat I suppose. If he hasn't done this before, then he'll probably change his mind afterwards. Show up with a tampon in, and then see if he makes you take it out. But if you don't ... (read in full...)
He doesn't have morning or nocturnal erections. Is this health issue?
Q. My friend is having problems! He used to take a long time to come; he said it was because he smoked pot. Now he has quit pot and he doesn't even have nocturnal or morning erections. Can anyone explain what is going on? He is afraid of doctors....
A. 30 March 2010: Erectile Dysfunction. Could be caused by smoking, drinking or drug abuse. Persistent use over time could still affect it after he's given up. I also noticed you're in your 50s. If he's the same age then it could just be to do with getting older ... (read in full...)
My mum has threatened to kick me out of the house if I don't do what she wants!
Q. im 16, pretty independent, mature an very respectful. but lately ive been stressed out an realy upset cause of my mum. she is extremely controlling, in fact she grounded me until i am mature! my mum knows my dream is to be a great chef, and she ...
A. 30 March 2010: There aren't many things you can do without being drastic. But she shouldnt kill your dream, that is very wrong. There is nothing less respectful than a parent crushing their child's dream in order to fulfil their own. You are supposed to put your ... (read in full...)
I had no blood or pain when I had sex for the first time, has anyone else been the same as me?
Q. This is something very personal that's been bugging me for years so I'm just going to ask it. When I first had sex at 18 I was looking forward to the "traditional experience" - blood, a little pain, you know. However, I was quite let down. There ...
A. 30 March 2010: Most girls would be really happy there was no blood or pain!
Loads of stuff can break your hymen - running, dancing, riding a bike, horse riding, using a tampon. And yeah, some girls are just born without. I sure as hell never had one.
If it d... (read in full...)
Help with periods...
Q. hey my problem is that when i menstruate i get a really heavey period and i first got my period 3 years ago and im way too embarrased to talk to my mam about it, i want to know if there's any way to help it slow or cope better? please help. ...
A. 30 March 2010: See your nearest sexual health nurse and go on the pill. It's a contraceptive, it lightens periods, makes them shorter and less painful, sometimes makes your boobs bigger, and helps clear your complexion! Score!... (read in full...)
After the hymen is torn by girls masturbating or she loses her virginity, do her periods get heavier?
Q. After the hymen is torn by girls masturbating or she loses her virginity, do her periods get heavier? If then why? I really want to know,because i am curious,i have ask some of my best friends and they all don`t know! Thanks in advance aunts =...
A. 30 March 2010: No, your hymen has nothing to do with your cycle, as it's just a piece of skin, so your periods are not affected.... (read in full...)
I don't know how to cook and need some tips
Q. Ok I know this doesn't have anything to do with sex,relationship or love but I have to ask sombody...... well im 21 years old and I have a two year old and im preg.... I live with my boyfriend and my two year old. Well we always eat out, because ...
A. 30 March 2010: Sometimes things are easy to misunderstand when you're reading them. It would probably be easier to have someone with you who knows what they're doing to teach you the tricks of the trade.
Also you can buy a lot of things half prepared, and all ... (read in full...)
Still bleeding 3 days after losing my virginity!
Q. hellow there, the thing is im kinda confused right now. i lost my virginity 3 days ago , and im still bleeding right. i dont know how normal is this, and i dont know if the virgin blood could have got mixed with my period blood, because im EXTRE...
A. 30 March 2010: How long ago was your last period? And how long do your periods usually last? Because that's most likely what it is. If it doesn't go away soon then see the gyn =]... (read in full...)
It's as though he can treat me however he wants because he knows I'll stay!
Q. Im stuck in a relationship rut and I dont know whether to end it, ask for a break or try and make it work. for some time now ive felt that my boyfriend doesnt put any effort into the relationship. there are many reasons why i think this: 1...
A. 29 March 2010: He doesn't care about you at all and being with him is just wasting time that you could be spending with someone who actually wants to be with you. Anyway, you leaving may come as a shock to his system and he might (?) learn his lesson, so even ... (read in full...)
I gave my guy friend some relationship advice and now my boyfriend thinks I'm cheating on him
Q. ok i really love this guy and hes my boyfriend but then a couple of days ago i talked to another guy and he told me about his relationship problems and gave him advice and he is only a friend that i gave advice to and my boyfriend doesn't believe ...
A. 29 March 2010: Ask him why he doesn't believe you. He has no reason to think you're cheating does he? It's good that you are a supportive friend to the other guy, that's not something you should stop to keep your paranoid boyfriend happy.
Does your boyfrien... (read in full...)
Saw bruises on my brother that he won't explain ...
Q. My younger brother (13) is staying with me for a few days and yesterday I noticed he had bruises on his lower back and I think they go lower but I couldn't see. It looked like he'd maybe been whipped with a belt but I'm not sure. I asked him about ...
A. 29 March 2010: Telling both of your parents about your concern would be a good way to start. Also sit down with your brother and try again. But don't be forceful, just say that you'll offer him support, and that whenever he wants to get away he can come to your ... (read in full...)
Any advice as I am hurting my husband but I just can't force myself to participate.
Q. My husband has a child from a previous relationship. The mother of the child is very protective of him and really does not like to let him out of her sight. He is her only child. The child stays with my husband alternate weekends. when the child is ...
A. 28 March 2010: You must remember in all of this that none of this is the child's fault. He is only half of this woman's and half of your husbands so relate the kid more to him than to her. Living with a mother who behaves in this way, this kid is probably very ... (read in full...)
Non-savoury discharge... what can this be?
Q. Hi, I'm 16 years old and i've noticed that there is an odd White discharge coming from my vagina and there seem to be small clumps around my clitoris. If I wipe it away it comes back And it's not particularly savoury. I have never had sex or any ...
A. 28 March 2010: Is it white or yellow? Does it smell? Because white and scentless discharge is normal a lot of girls get it every day. It's just the body's way of keeping clean.... (read in full...)
How can I get my mum to want to talk to my boyfriend?
Q. hey guys i dont know how good you guys are at thinking but i need some ideas and fast ... the thing is that me and my boyfriend have been going out for three months now and my mum still doesnt want to meet him and she wont let him in the house...
A. 28 March 2010: Firstly, ask your Mum why she doesn't want to meet him. Secondly, tell her that if she gets to know him she'll be able to see if he is trustworthy or not =]... (read in full...)
He sent flowers and a bear from overseas, but I am not happy coz they arrived at night after I waited all day for a call.
Q. hey everyone! okay,so it was my birthday a week back and my best friend stays in another country. He sent me flowers that reached me the evening of my birthday and a cute bunny bear that said I love you. But throughout the day,I was waiting for ...
A. 25 March 2010: Maybe he was trying to tell you something. It's a long shot but maybe it was his way of saying "Actually I like you as more than a friend." Could explain why the teddy bear said I Love You and he didn't text - either he was too afraid to talk to you ... (read in full...)
Should I ask him to commit to me when he goes away touring with his band?
Q. I've been seeing a guy for nearly a year now, and the beginning of the year we've started to become more serious ( seeing each other the whole weekend and week, he admitted he is in love with me and is crazy about me etc) he told me he isn't seeing ...
A. 25 March 2010: By that I think he just means by not being around often. He obviosly tours a lot and is scared that if he spends too much time away from you then you will leave him for someone else who is always around. Whether you are willing to wait for him or if ... (read in full...)
Is it safe to have another abortion when my last was only in December 09?
Q. I recently went through an abortion in December of last year. The baby was my current boyfriend's. Well, I'm extremely worried that I could be pregnant again. I'm not 100% certian. I'll take a test in about a week. But I'm having similar symptoms as ...
A. 25 March 2010: Firstly, I would ask a doctor's advice on the abortion thing, because hardly any of us here could give you an educated answer on that one. However, abortion can sometimes lead to infertility so two abortions so close together could affect your ... (read in full...)
I had sex with my sisters teacher. Would this be a relationship that could be pursued?
Q. Just recently I had some relationship trouble in my life. I have a sister who is quite younger than me who is going to the school I went to. She is in fifth grade and has the same teacher I had. She told him about what had gone on. At her school ...
A. 25 March 2010: Well it's not a crime if he is with you and teaching your sister. Only if he was teaching you would it be punishable. However, how well did you know him before you slept together? But to me it sounds a bit like he was just after some action. Go to ... (read in full...)
The poor guy is in love with me, but I only went for him as a challenge and now cant stand his clingyness and sensitivity.
Q. Before, I believed myself to be extremely loyal and a great girlfriend, however I've come to realize that I am not one for committment in a relationship, and I don't know how to fix it. I am my boyfriend's first girlfriend. I was the one who went ...
A. 25 March 2010: Technically, you're leading your boyfriend on, because he sounds like the kind of guy who will think you're in love with him as long as you're together. Just be honest and say you don't feel the same anymore and would rather just be friends. He'll ... (read in full...)
My loyalty is to my deceased wife, ... so how can I stop other women hitting on me!
Q. I have four beautiful daughters who mean the world to me. They range from 13 months-8 years. I became a widower 8 months ago and my daughters and I are still dealing with the shock and grief. There isn't a second that goes by that doesn't make me ...
A. 25 March 2010: I'm really sorry for your loss =[ There are several points here to be made:
A. This "Amber" person, in her way, is probably trying to help you. It's clear she can see how upset you are and is trying to cheer you up. She's just not being very tac... (read in full...)
He sent flowers and a bear from overseas, but I am not happy coz they arrived at night after I waited all day for a call.
Q. hey everyone! okay,so it was my birthday a week back and my best friend stays in another country. He sent me flowers that reached me the evening of my birthday and a cute bunny bear that said I love you. But throughout the day,I was waiting for ...
A. 25 March 2010: YES!!!
He made a real effort to make you happy on your birthday. He even got his girlfriend to sign the card! Maybe he didn't text you or call you because of the cost from another country or the time difference.
If he'd forgotten, then ... (read in full...)
I am not interested in sex anymore, ...am I falling out of love or just bored with the same ol things.
Q. READ THIS!!!! PLEASE GIVE ME ADVICE!!! okay. so. my boyfriend and i are both 20 years of age. have been dating for 3 years now, and for the past year, i have completely lost almost all of my sex drive that i used to have with him. like most relati...
A. 25 March 2010: You answered your own question, all of those things sound like a turn off. You could sit down and talk with him but be careful because you don't just wanna sound like you're putting him down.
I also think you overdid it with the daily sex when you... (read in full...)
He said he only wanted friendship, but now he is in my country he wants to meet up.
Q. What do i do? Sometime back i asked help on how can i go about my X, and everyone one discouraged me not to go out with him, 1. because i dont think i know him so well or even love him 2. because it was going to be in a dinstance relaationship(...
A. 25 March 2010: Wait and see if he wants to meet up with you. But don't get your hopes up. Maybe he was just telling you to try and make conversation. Is he even anywhere near you? The USA is huge...
If he asks to meet up, then go, but don't expect anything... (read in full...)
He lies, cheats, drinks, watches porn, and wont have sex with me. What should I do?
Q. help my partner wont stop lying. drinking. he has cheated on me with a woman from his work. have found text messages from another woman he lied and said it was his sister. he barley wants to have sex with me, once saying i was too fat, so not true. ...
A. 25 March 2010: Answer me this question - why are you still with him?
I'm not trying to be insensitive, but you're wasting your time when you could be with someone who actually has some respect for you.... (read in full...)
Should I ask him to commit to me when he goes away touring with his band?
Q. I've been seeing a guy for nearly a year now, and the beginning of the year we've started to become more serious ( seeing each other the whole weekend and week, he admitted he is in love with me and is crazy about me etc) he told me he isn't seeing ...
A. 25 March 2010: Do you trust him? Asking to commit is not a crime, that's the whole point of a relationship. And I agree with domo kun, has he done anything to prevent you from trusting him?... (read in full...)
Is there even the slightest possibility that I'm pregnant?
Q. I had periods on 4th of march this month. Me and my husband started having sex from 10th of march. From 20th march I started having pain in my abdomen. It continued for 3 days. I thought I may have earlier periods. But now on 24th march pain has ...
A. 24 March 2010: It's possible, but when you have sex, there is only 20% chance of conception. Get a test =]... (read in full...)
Embarrassed and confused... could I be gay?
Q. Hey I'm a 13 year old boy from Wales. I have a question about my sexuality. Sorry if this sounds dumb. Today in English, my teacher taught us about PEE. For those of you who don't know, PEE is a technique that we use in English that stands for Poin...
A. 24 March 2010: It makes you curious. It doesn't mean you're gay. Most people are curious at some point, and it can take a while to work out which way you swing, or if you go for both. But as you grow older it will probably become clearer and you may even ... (read in full...)
How do I stop my brother becoming abusive like my dad was?
Q. My dad hit me and my brother when we were very young. When he was angry he took it out on us, I was so relieved when he left. My brother (13) has punched me twice in the last week just because he was annoyed, this is exactly what our dad used to do. ...
A. 24 March 2010: Tell a councillor or a teacher, but make sure someone is aware of it. If it carries on, and your Mum condones it, then you should contact social services as technically this is child abuse on your Mum's part.
Let me know how you get on, and when... (read in full...)
I want to meet his family!
Q. Hey guys, I've been with my boyfriend for nearly a year and I love him to pieces. wouldn't trade him for the world. One thing that's bothering me though, he's met my WHOLE family and they adore him. He's even met my nan's friends! But I haven't met ...
A. 24 March 2010: You should bring it up. Maybe he's waiting for you to show some enthusiasm about it. Unless there is a serious reason for him not to want you to meet them, then I'm sure it's just because he hadn't really thought about it. It's a totally normal ... (read in full...)
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