I think he's cheating and we had unprotected sex!
Q. I posted a question few weeks ago about this guy that I’m seeing, a 46 years old physician divorced with no kids. From the beginning I made my dating rules clear and told him that I don’t want to have any physical contact or intimacy if he is seeing ...
A. 7 January 2018: What do you plan to accomplish by confronting him? I doubt that he is going to start rending his garments throw himself at your feet and beg forgiveness. Tell him you’re done. If he ask why you can tell him but don’t expect him to come clean. Finish ... (read in full...)
Should I confess to my drunken night?
Q. I went out last night and got really drunk. A guy grabbed me and started kissing me and feeling me up and without thinking I started kissing him back. Then he said he would help to get me home safely but he got out of the taxi too and we ended up ...
A. 6 January 2018: If no one else knows keep your mouth shut. Why hurt your bf because you can’t control yourself? And learn to control your drinking so this doesn’t happen again.... (read in full...)
Are my husband's conditions unfair?
Q. My husband's conditions for our marriage were that I would never talk to men online ever (including my male cousins, childhood friends who were like my brothers and gay male friends), that I would cut off contact with all my male friends in real ...
A. 6 January 2018: What was it about this control freak that caused you to marry him? His demand was unreasonable and your agreeing to it was sad and to be honest kind of pathetic. But you did agree to it.
I assume at some point you realized how controlling his dema... (read in full...)
How do I handle her cheating?
Q. after marriage my wife got pregnant third time. she aborted because she did not want three children. but i wanted. i have doubts about this abortion at that time and i was doubting some one in our family. 2. one day my wife had two red marks on...
A. 6 January 2018: Your wife is cheating. She probably got pregnant by the person she was cheating with so she aborted that child. You have caugther cheating and she has lied to you about it. So you have two choices: Divorce her or learn to live life as a cuckold. I ... (read in full...)
Why does my girlfriend not allow me to perform oral sex on her?
Q. My GF and I have been dating for 3 years. Our sex life is very good and frequent. The question I have is she will do anything in the bedroom with me except allowing me to go down on her. I have asked her many times as to why and she said she doesn't ...
A. 6 January 2018: Perhaps she doesn’t like oral sex. If after three years she won’t let you do it and it’s not affecting your sex Life negatively let it go.... (read in full...)
My boss seems to hate me and I wonder why!
Q. Am I wrong to think that my boss has some kind of a problem with me? Here's some background: I've worked under her for over 7 years we never had any arguments, but I noticed that she does not treat me the same way she threats others. First...
A. 6 January 2018: There is no way for us to say if you are imagining this.
But if we take you at your word it is long past time for you to have a talk with your boss’s boss about what is going on. I’m going to assume you can back these things up because you’ll need... (read in full...)
I feel I shouldn't move in til he sorts his children's visitation issue.
Q. I have been dating my bf for 2 years now. we live separately for the moment he has his home and I have mine. He has asked me to move in his home but, I have declined at the moment for this story I will tell. he has 3 children 9,10 and 18. I have ...
A. 4 January 2018: You need to support your boyfriend but you should stay out of it. You say he is seeing an attorney. Let the mouth piece advise him.
And it still applies; do not move in with him until all of this is sorted.... (read in full...)
The ex is bad mouthing me to another man. Why would he do this?
Q. Around five months ago for God knows why the guy I was currently going out with ended the relationship with me saying it was too much and the break up was not mutual. I still have him on social media and he has supposedly assumed I've moved on with ...
A. 4 January 2018: He’s a jealous creep who says he doesn’t want you but doesn’t want anyone else to have you. He broke up with you now is the time for you to break up with him. Block his phone number and block him on social media.
If he tries to contact you in pers... (read in full...)
My question is should I follow my heart and keep seeing her because I feel great in her company or should I cut my losses now?
Q. So I've been living in Spain for a few months and I met a local girl and we really hit it off the first night. I tried to meet up with her again but she said she just wanted to be friends because she liked a German guy she met a few weeks ago but he ...
A. 4 January 2018: If you haven’t had the exclusivity talk what is the problem. Right now you’re just dating. There is nothing that says you can’t date more then one person at the same time.
. If you want to be exclusive ask her. If she says no then move on, or c... (read in full...)
Uh Oh! My girlfriend and I are related!
Q. My girlfriend and I are related, found out after 30 years but are great great grandparents are cousins??..I love her to death and we have a 4 month year old daughter but what should we do?...
A. 3 January 2018: Your great grand parents are cousins? So you’re essentially related by rumor. You’re something like 32nd cousins. Get on with your lives together.... (read in full...)
Why didn't my ex have the courtesy to tell me he was getting married and having a child?
Q. Hi Everyone, I could use some advice. I'm having a difficult time coping with my ex boyfriend getting married and having a daughter. He was married in August and continue to see me casually until one day I found out he was married with a d...
A. 2 January 2018: He continued to see you I assume because he was getting sex from you. He is a creep and you’re better off without him. Consider yourself lucky that you found out when you did.... (read in full...)
I ended things at Christmas and gave each other's presents back, but she is furious about it!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 years, but we don't live together. I've been hesitant of her moving in, because in the past she has professed the belief that a man should sacrifice himself financially for a woman. Because of this, we ...
A. 31 December 2017: You have ended things with her. Or at least you say you have. Why do you care what she says? Delete her phone number. If you are on social media block her there. Return the gift to the store, get your money back and get on with your life without ... (read in full...)
I don’t regret the decision I made to split ways but is there anything I can say to make things right between us as friends?
Q. My boyfriend and I officially parted ways about 6 months ago after 4 years together on and off. I made a judgement call during his visit to see me in Boston from New York this past summer. As much as I loved and cared for him, there were some ...
A. 31 December 2017: Leave him alone. Sister you are a piece of work.You dumped him when he was down and now you want to be friends. He doesn’t want to be your friend and you need to stop trying to force him.... (read in full...)
Can this violent, abusive relationship be saved?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for just over two years now. We have a house together and before we moved in, we had a great time. However when we moved in, he kept throwing parties and his friends would strip naked and jump into our bed, be ...
A. 31 December 2017: You won’t sleep in the same room with him? Why are you in the same house with him? He a violent mean drunk. Leave now.... (read in full...)
I feel my girlfriend is cheating on me... With her ex husband's new wife!
Q. I've been dating my girlfriend, we'll call her "S", for about 11 months. She has a 4 year old son, I have no children. She's divorced, and it was rough. He was an abusive, meth-head a-hole. I've never been married, but I've been cheated on ...
A. 31 December 2017: You’ve been together 11 months it’s a decent period of time but it’s not as if you’re in a long term marriage. If you think you can’t trust her move on.
If what you say is true, that she stopped in the middle of sex with you to text this woman back... (read in full...)
My boyfriend planned a week long New Year's party at his parents' holiday home despite knowing that I wouldn't be able to make it because of my upcoming exams
Q. My boyfriend [24M] of 6 years decided to throw a week long New Years party with all our mutual friends (roughly about 20 people) at his parents holiday home, which is couple of hours drive away, while I [23F] stay back and study for finals for grad ...
A. 31 December 2017: He is supposed to put life on hold? It is the New Year. When is he supposed to do a New Year Party. Your decision to study for exams is your choice. So you can’t get away for the entire five days. Take one or two.
And you can voice your opinion now.... (read in full...)
My friend wants me to be friends with his wife but I don't like her!
Q. I’ve just recently become friends with a male friends wife. My friend and I have known each other ages but I never really got to know his wife (she was always busy and they are quite independent of each other). Anyway, we’ve been meeting up for ...
A. 31 December 2017: You don’t have to be friends with the wife but you do have to tolerate her. She has no friends? I’m not surprised. It is not your job to be a martyr. Tell your friend you really like him but you can’t be friends with her. If he ask why be honest. If ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend getting friendly with my colleague. Should I worry?
Q. My girlfriend recently became friends with one of my work colleagues on Facebook. On Christmas morning, whilst I was still asleep, my girlfriend sent my colleague a message saying Merry Christmas along with a selfie of herself fully made up. She's ...
A. 29 December 2017: Yes you should worry. She is looking to move on. Let her.... (read in full...)
Worried my girlfriend will cheat while out of town on NYE.
Q. My girlfriend of seven years is going to spend New Years Eve with a friend of hers who lives in another state. This is the first NYE we will spend apart since we've gotten together. My girlfriend (and her friend, who has been her best friend ...
A. 29 December 2017: Your girlfriend can cheat anywhere and anytime she likes as can you. A relationship is a matter of trust. If you don’t trust her out of your sight for one night you need to not be in the relationship.... (read in full...)
Why am I upset that none of my dad's family congratulated me on my wedding?
Q. Hey, This is more a question on advise on how to control my feelings. I'm not particularly close to my dads family, always been excluded from family events (I.e wasn't even invited to my Dads wedding or were my two sisters from his second ...
A. 29 December 2017: You’re upset because he’s your dad and these people are part of him. But don’t hold it against them they are just following the road map laid out by your father. Who by the way sounds a real piece of work.
I know it’s difficult but you need to conc... (read in full...)
Why can’t they leave me alone and enjoy my visit?
Q. Am visiting family interstate for 2 days,staying overnight then leaving. Staying with my parents and will visit my younger sister and her family also, as they live in the same town. I have to stay with parents as sister has 2 kids (17...
A. 29 December 2017: As an adult the only leverage you have with parents is you; your presence and your involvement with them. So tell your mother how you feel about he constant criticism. And also tell her that if she doesn’t knock it off she’ll be seeing a lot less of ... (read in full...)
Career, family, marriage and my life are challenging me! Help?
Q. Hi. I am 26, single forever and unemploymed forever. I have done my MSc in Biotechnology. Since then it's been 3 and half years that I am still unemployed after giving hundreds of interviews. I was so interested in the field of research in ...
A. 26 December 2017: Take the internship and then prove your worth. The pay may not be great but it is better than nothing. The internship will allow you to network and get your name and face in front of others.
Once your mother sees you working every day she will prob... (read in full...)
Cannot accept my background and heritage
Q. I can’t identify with my European parents and nationality. I have been living in the States for the last three decades but along my life I have encountered people from my nationality. I don’t mean to sound judgemental here but everyone from where I ...
A. 26 December 2017: I have a friend who is a Filipina. She has the same issue that you have. She is prejudiced against her own people. She is a wonderful young lady and I like her a lot but none of us can understand why she feels the way she does.
I didn’t know what... (read in full...)
Family troubles have me at my wits end
Q. I’m in a tough spot. Due to some circumstances, I am living with my boyfriend and his siblings in their parents summer home. It was a very good living situation - none of us paid rent and we had a huge house to the four of us while his parent...
A. 26 December 2017: Confrontation will do you no good. You’re living with a mean entitled drunk who everyone makes excuses for. A confrontation will only make people take sides and from what you wrote everyone but your BF will be on her side.
What’s that term you youn... (read in full...)
How do I choose between my two men?
Q. I'm in love with two men one ive known for four years and one ive been with 10 months and I cant choose and its starting to depress me and stress me out having to choose the right one to settle down with, I keep thinking what if I make the wrong ...
A. 24 December 2017: Go with the new guy. You wouldn’t be with him if you were supposed to be with the first guy. ... (read in full...)
Am I a terrible person for wanting an abortion?
Q. I'm 18 in my first year at university. In week one I met this guy and we became friends, and then really close friends, spending a lot of time together and when we weren't together, talking on the phone and texting. As you can imagine, we got ...
A. 24 December 2017: The decision to have an abortion is a terrible position to be in but it doesn’t make you a terrible person. Whatever decision you make I wish you the best.... (read in full...)
I feel I shouldn't move in til he sorts his children's visitation issue.
Q. I have been dating my bf for 2 years now. we live separately for the moment he has his home and I have mine. He has asked me to move in his home but, I have declined at the moment for this story I will tell. he has 3 children 9,10 and 18. I have ...
A. 23 December 2017: Sadly A clear case of parental alienation. Started by the fact that he has moved on and she hasn’t.
You’re right not to move in until he has this sorted. The stress would not be good for you your kids or your relationship with him.
I know you didn... (read in full...)
I found men's boxers next to my hot tub!
Q. I have a hot tub in the back of the house. The yard is not fenced and there is open space behind where people often walk. Last night I found a pair of men's boxers that are not mine laying on the ground next to the tub. My wife of 19 years said ...
A. 21 December 2017: Fence your yard! If you have no reason to believe your wife is cheating why keep bringing it up?... (read in full...)
Husband is cheating, wants me to leave the marital home.
Q. Hi, I hope you can give me some advice. My husband of 19 years asked for a divorce in April this year, straight after I finished treatment for breast cancer. There has been no intimacy for 2 years now. He has refused to leave the family home ...
A. 20 December 2017: The only thing you should confront this cheating POS with is a lawyer. You have rights and he has responsibilities. Get a damn good divorce lawyer and the courts will force him to live up to his responsibilities as an ex husband and a father.
D... (read in full...)
Three men and I can't date them all. Who would you pick?
Q. I appreciate your help in advance. I don’t know what to do with these three men in my life. I’m 40 years old divorced with one child. My ex husband who is trying to take me back and hasn’t moved on 3 years after our divorce. I know the first guy who ...
A. 18 December 2017: You’re divorced for a reason. Unless something has changed dramatically no reason to go back to that. Do you actually like either of the other guys? It sure doesn’t sound like it. It seems you’re more interested in some sort of business deal. So ... (read in full...)
My sister is toxic and bitter, and she hates me, what do I do about her?
Q. Dear aunts, I have a sister who I love only for the fact that she is my blood, but everything else about her I just can't stand because we have a toxic relationship ever since I was a kid she always told me that I'm ugly, that I'm dumb, that i am ...
A. 18 December 2017: Just because she is your sister doesn’t mean you have to have her in your life.
My question is how did she make you, your boyfriend and your mother go to her house on your birthday? Did she hold you at gunpoint? No you went to appease a bully. Stop... (read in full...)
Our intimacy is gone and I don't know what to think or say?!?
Q. Don’t know what to think or say!! I haven been married for 15 years to a wonderful lady. Like every marriage we have encountered ups and downs. For about a year our intimacy is gone. She gets off work at 5:30pm arrives home at 8:30pm. She is a...
A. 17 December 2017: Oh come on dude. It is over she has found someone else. Divorce her and move on.... (read in full...)
Her kids and mine are cousins, is it okay to date?
Q. So I have started to date or have been with and seen, my ex wife’s brothers ex wife I have a son with my ex and she has two kids with her ex who is my ex wife’s brother. Our kids are cousins but we both want no more kids. We both feel this could be ...
A. 17 December 2017: You are related to this woman by nothing. Of course it is okay to see her. She technically may have been an in law but I’m not sure about that and she certainly is not an in law now. You two should enjoy yourself’s ... (read in full...)
How do I get the power back in the relationship?
Q. Hi, I started an affair with a guy from work around 1 year ago, who actively pursued me. The relationship I was in was physically and dometically abusive and around 5 months ago after police involvement I left him and moved out on my own, which was ...
A. 14 December 2017: What power are you trying to get back? You had no power. It seems to me you jumped into a relationship with this guy to get away from the abusive guy which put you in a pretty weak position to begin with. If this guy is pulling away let him go. He ... (read in full...)
She's left me twice does she deserve my respect? Or do I just be her friend like nothing ever happened?
Q. Hello ladies, got a question for you, I was seeing this woman, she left me for another guy, OK, five years later we started to see each other again, she did it again, with a friend in a band, now he dumped her and she is trying to talk to me, am I ...
A. 11 December 2017: Have you no self respect? This woman has dumped you twice and you need to ask strangers what you should do? For the love of heaven you’re an adult not some love sick tween. Act like it.... (read in full...)
How do I deal with his ex and his family during Christmas?
Q. I have met the most wonderful guy ever. I have totally fallen for him after years of rubbish relationships and I love him wholeheartedly. He has a young daughter with his ex and he never gets to see her despite trying over and over to be civil wi...
A. 10 December 2017: He needs to see a lawyer about an enforceable visitation schedule. This will solve that problem. ... (read in full...)
A practical joke gone horribly wrong
Q. My friend Bailey and I played a joke on our friend Eve just to embarrass her and teach her a lesson but Bailey took it too far and now Eve got suspended and her parents punished her real bad. She's not aloud to talk to us or anyone or go anywhere ...
A. 10 December 2017: . Eve’s parents are asses and the administration are your school are morons. But compared to you and the other girl they are saints. ... (read in full...)
I'm unhappily married but in love with a man who's engaged but hesitant to leave his fiance
Q. Please could I ask for some advice on my situation... I have been married for 3 years but for the last year the marriage has been very difficult and we both feel that we have grown too far apart to fix things, although haven’t yet said we will div...
A. 8 December 2017: Get a divorce before you jump into bed with another man. After you are divorced make sure the other guy is free of entanglements before jumping into bed with him.... (read in full...)
Should I get her approval that I attend a fetish party?
Q. Im a closeted crossdreser, I'm totally straight, No bi tendencies. I have a long term wonderful girlfriend. I'm loyal to her, She knows about my crossdressing habit and she is cool with it as long as she doesn't see me dressed up. Never. This c...
A. 8 December 2017: Do not ask her approval. But tell her you’re going. If she objects listen to her objections and then tell her you’re going. Cross dressing is part of who you are and you shouldn’t have to ask anyone’s permission to express part of yourself... (read in full...)
I want her back but she doesn't want a relationship. How can she just walk away?
Q. So, there was this girl I met two years ago and I am in love with her (we dated and were pretty serious) . I am in the military and I was stationed in Alaska.( Where I met her, I am originally from Florida). But I hurt her and she well I left ...
A. 7 December 2017: She can walk away because she is not into you, she doesn’t love you , she doesn’t see a future with you. You failed her.
What can you do? You can be a man for once and leave this poor woman alone.... (read in full...)
My husband is having an affair with a woman half his age and lies about it!
Q. Married 19 years my husband 54 is having an affair with a girl who is 27 he sits with her in different areas of the city and goes to her house when we go to church he knows that I know and continues to lie about everything what should I do?...
A. 7 December 2017: See a good divorce lawyer... (read in full...)
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