I don’t really want to go on this vacation with my dad and his girlfriend!
Q. Dear Cupid. I am 24 and need some advice... I’m due to go on a trip in june, with my dad and his girlfriend...tickets have been paid for and now I’m not really wanting to go...I’ll be stuck on a yacht for 10 days, their friends are going bu...
A. 5 February 2018: Your mother’s alcoholism has nothing to do with your dad’s infidelity. It may make you and your mother feel better to blame him but that is not how alcoholism works.
If you don’t want to go on vacation with your father don’t go. You obviousl... (read in full...)
He’s blocked me on everything, do I wait to see if he comes back or do I move on?
Q. Hi guys I need your advise. Me and my ex have broken up. A few months ago Due to arguing. But we are still meeting up nearly every week. He kept accusing me of cheating which I would never. He never likes me going out because guys would approach me ...
A. 3 February 2018: Stop wasting your time and move on.... (read in full...)
Whats with my husband saying the things he says to me?
Q. I don’t understand why my husband says things that he says example : I tell him I’m running to the store after giving me that yeah right look he says ok. I’m gone 30 min and he texts stuff like. Having fun or what are you killing the cow. Or I kn...
A. 2 February 2018: Your husband is controlling and insecure. What he is doing is conditioning you to respond to his commands. He text you at the store so you hurry home. When you get home he gives you the silent treatment until the next day. This will go on until he ... (read in full...)
Three dates in and she does't want to kiss!
Q. So I met a girl through Tinder and we went out for dinner. I'm 30 and she's 27. We hit it off really well. We talked for nearly 4 hours. She had a pretty bad cough though, and I didn't attempt any sort of physical contact except a brief touch of the ...
A. 30 January 2018: Of course she’s stringing you along! You’re 30 years old and still allowing yourself to be conned by a pretty face. Grow the heck up and swipe this broad out of your life.... (read in full...)
My sister wont listen, when this guy takes her for everything I am not going to help her!
Q. My sister met this so called great guy in November and put him in the friend bracket, so she said. February of 2017 after a short relationship with another guy didn’t work she started dating this so called great guy. In a week of dating she brought ...
A. 30 January 2018: I assume your sister is an adult. What she does with her life is her business. If the guy turns out to be a con man of course you have no proof of that then that will be her problem.
Of course I have to wonder what kind of man would turn his back... (read in full...)
My family wants me to forgive our dying father for the abuse but I can't!
Q. Am I a demon for not caring that my dad is dying from cancer and i want nothin to do with it or him or those who care about it. I've posted about my dad with other accounts which I have deactivated. So I would just give a summary of what he did. ...
A. 30 January 2018: First you are not a demon. You are not a witch and you are not wrong for the way you feel.
What is happening to you is sadly not unusual in abusive families. Everyone decides for various reasons to bury their heads in the sand and pretend ever... (read in full...)
The tickets have been bought, time planned but I don't want to go see my boyfriend
Q. I have a plane ticket to go see my boyfriend this weekend. It's our anniversary and his uncle has gifted us with concert tickets and dinner. His uncle went through a lot of planning and prepping for this, because he's a really great guy and his aunt ...
A. 30 January 2018: If you don’t want to go don’t go. Sounds like the relationship has run it’s course. Call your boyfriend and tell him it’s over. Thank his uncle for his kindness and Offer to reimburse his uncle for the cost of your ticket(s). In fact don’t offer, ... (read in full...)
The thought of breaking up with my boyfriend is hard but I can't get the new girl out of my head
Q. Hello! I have a sticky situation and need advice on what to do. My boyfriend and I have been together for roughly two years, we have had plenty of ups and downs during this time. He has been steadfast through each fight, though, as have I, u...
A. 28 January 2018: You and the boy are not sexually compatible. You have met someone else. Tell the boy it is over and get on with your life either with the girl or with someone else or on your own.... (read in full...)
He seemed so into me, said he had no wrong intentions... Then why did he ghost me after that evening of no sex?
Q. I commute to work and every Friday, as I'm waiting at my bus stop, a young man would come and wait for the bus as well. We would exchange polite nods of the head, smiles, "good mornings" and then both of us would retreat back to our cell phones, ...
A. 28 January 2018: He didn’t get what he wanted out of you at the first asking and decided to move on. The way he has done it shows that he isn’t worth you wasting any more time thinking about him.... (read in full...)
I moved to be with my son and his family. They want me to leave, I'm miserable and don't have the money to leave
Q. For years my son has been asking me to move to the state where he resides with his second wife her 4 children one which they share the other 3 has different fathers. One is handicapped severely. I had gone bankrupt and was a hair being evicted so I ...
A. 28 January 2018: Call your local YWCA and tell them your situation. The YWCA is in the business of helping women. They may be able to find you cheap temporary housing or put you in contact with agencies that can help.
You need to get the heck away from these peop... (read in full...)
Her confession, while turning me on, makes me angry and I feel betrayed.
Q. Where do I start? My wife and I have been married for close to 17 years and have 2 young daughters aged 10 and 8. We are a happy couple are most probably enjoying the best period of our married life. My wife is hot and still looks amazing......
A. 27 January 2018: Of course you’re right to feel angry and betrayed because you were betrayed. But now it is time for you to see a counselor either together or by yourself to help you work thru your anger.
CNN recently ran a story about how infidelity can help stre... (read in full...)
He doesn't want my advice
Q. What should I think of this? I'm feeling negative and weird about it. I've been together with my boyfriend for over only half a year. I think it's natural to make suggestions for someone you care about when they are going through a problem. He is ...
A. 26 January 2018: Your bf has made it clear he doesn’t want advice. Stop giving it unless he ask for it.... (read in full...)
Was it wrong of me to intoduce him to my kids so soon?
Q. I started dating my ex husband when I was 15, he was the only guy I dated. We got married shortly after high school and had five kids together. I love him but neither of us were really in love with each other for years but we had kids and we were ...
A. 25 January 2018: You know your kids. You know this guy. You are the best judge of when to introduce someone to them.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he will break up with me if I move 150 miles away
Q. Iv been dating my boyfriend for a year and i love him so much. But i want to move in with my friend who lives 150 miles away and my boyfriend says if i do he will split up with me and look for someone else. So now i feel trapped because i dont want ...
A. 25 January 2018: There is a lot missing here like why you are moving 150 miles away. Are you moving for a job or some other valid reason? If so your boyfriend is a jerk. If you’re moving because you think it will be fun to live with your friend then it may be too ... (read in full...)
Its to the point where anything with my family causes problems between my husband and I
Q. So my sister and I have never got on, even when we were kids. Now days we have little to do with one another, we have to get together occasionally because, you know, family, but we never talk, or have a conversation unless i'm being made fun of (I'm ...
A. 24 January 2018: I have to assume you and your husband have children. I can’t imagine why he would still be in this affenzirkus otherwise. When you married your husband you promised to love and honor him. Clearly you aren’t. Your relationship with your “family”... (read in full...)
Am I right to feel humiliated?
Q. Why was this cAfe server laughing at me? Ordered a coffee from a mall cafe 3 weeks earlier.. I ordered a Coffee and a small cookie,( the same order I ordered 3 weeks ago) Same server. Whilst ordering she began laughing at me saying “...
A. 22 January 2018: This sounds like she was being friendly. And you are overreacting massively. ... (read in full...)
Should I try to reconnect with him now that I live nearby?
Q. In October of last year, while I was on the west coast for a job interview I met a guy from Tinder. His profile said he wasn't looking for a relationship but just looking to meet cool people. We went on a date, had a great time and while it wasn't ...
A. 21 January 2018: If you have his number call him. What’s the worst that can happen, he says he’s seeing someone? At least then you can stop wondering.... (read in full...)
He's abusive and I need to get out
Q. I'm going through a really difficult period in my life and don't know what to do. How to restart and go on... I'm 41 and have been with my husband for 15 years, no kids. Good times and bad. Well now things have gotten pretty bad. The good times y...
A. 21 January 2018: If you are in the United States call the National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233 online at TheHotline.org. If you’re not in the US figure out that countries equavelent organization and call them. They will provide you the help you need.... (read in full...)
How do I handle troublesome ex?
Q. My boyfriend had a son from a previous relationship. We have 2 children together now and one on the way. This ex of his won't let him see his other child, and talks a lot of nonsense about him on social media, whether it's directly or indirectly. I ...
A. 20 January 2018: It is not your job to handle the troublesome ex it is your bf’s. Block her on social media and block her phone number if she is calling you.
His seeing his son is his issue. If he needs to get a court order to enforce visitation then he needs to... (read in full...)
Thiinking of leaving because husband is so controlling
Q. Hi I have been married for 25 years. We have had some good times but my husband is very controlling and demeans me. I am not allowed to have any male friends because in his mind it’s wrong and that means I am having sex with them. If I enjoy...
A. 20 January 2018: Then leave. Why stay in a marriage with a man who makes you miserable? You don’t say how old your children are but I assume they are adults or close too it so that should be an issue Sounds like this marriage ran it’s course long ago. Find yourself... (read in full...)
Why does my partner bring up my ex?
Q. Why does my partner bring up my ex? This will happen if she wishes to upset me in an arguement or even from right out of nowhere; which can be particularly problematic. I have told my partner that I really dont want to talk about her. I have reas...
A. 20 January 2018: You have told your current partner that her bringing up your deceased partner upsets you yet she still does. It upsets you to the point that it is turning you hostile and angry.
The question you need to be asking yourself is not why does she do i... (read in full...)
How do I get my life back?
Q. Husband found out I have been using tumblr for fandom stuff and threatened to smash my phone. He didn't understand what "reblogging" meant and thought that character pictures were actually real dudes. I'm not allowed to talk to "strange people on ...
A. 20 January 2018: Why are you with this guy. You need to call a Domestic Abuse hotline or Thehotline.org and tell them you need to get away from a controlling abusive husband. Because that’s what this guy is. Good luck... (read in full...)
I feel I owe this married man an apology
Q. Hello Aunts, I met this man sometime in 2015 when i was on a temporal job in another state in the country. He is Married with a son. When we first met, he was attracted to me and we pretty get along so well. He dropped hints about dating me bu...
A. 20 January 2018: For the love of G-d leave this man alone. He is married and apparently plans to stay that way. Stop this stupid childish on again off again flirtation you have going on, that’s what it is not friendship and get on with your life. You say you don’t ... (read in full...)
I’m feeling guilty for our breakup!
Q. First of I was married for 7 years I have two boys they r young 3 and 7. I divorced my husband can give a straight reason we just didn’t get along couldn’t work as a team. It was like we where against each other all the time. He was depressed and I ...
A. 18 January 2018: If you no longer love your ex husband do not go back to him. You are not responsible for his unhappiness. Except for taking his children from him but that happens to all most all men in divorce.
You can encourage him to seek help for his depr... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't like public displays of affection and it bothers me
Q. my boyfriend of year and a half just doesn't like public displays of affection and it bothers me. I am a very romantic woman and I like to cuddle, hold hands and kiss in public but he never does any and when I approach him he backs off. I cant ...
A. 16 January 2018: You have discussed this issue with him. He has attempted to change but always falls back into his normal pattern of behavior. If he is your age he is unlikely to change at this point.
You have two choices: learn to accept that this is who he is and ... (read in full...)
Why send me a video of his girlfriend?
Q. My to be ex husband sent me his intimate vdo of him with his girlfriend. After we have been talking about divorce for these past years. We have been lived in 2 different countries though. So he sent me that last week, saying I should know and he ...
A. 16 January 2018: He told you why he did, so that you would hurry up and divorce him. So why don’t you? He sounds like he’s kind of a tool I should think you would be happy to be rid of him.... (read in full...)
Am I an evil step mother?
Q. I am a stepmother who will be inheriting my husband Home instead of his adult child. I want responses on whether * am the evil stepmom everyone fears. Here is my story. My husband was a widower when we married,that was 14 years ago. His daughter ...
A. 15 January 2018: This is your husband’s home to do with as he chooses he has chosen to put it in your name. He sounds like a good man and you sound like a good woman. I hope the two of you enjoy your house together for many more years.... (read in full...)
I want marriage and children, is he wasting my time?
Q. So I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about five years we both have crazy work schedules so I suggested that we get a place together somewhere located centrally Between both of our apartments.In my mind it’s the perfect solution so we can spend more ...
A. 15 January 2018: Five years and he told you he’s not ready. It I’s two years past time to tell him goodbye.
You have already talked to him about it. Heck you’ve been arguing for six months what more is there to say other than goodbye?... (read in full...)
Some advice on circumsision please
Q. I'm nearly 26 years old and uncircumcised. In my country, only a certain religious group practice this. But now I hear it can be done as a medical procedure and it is beneficial for hygeine and is actually recommended by WHO. Am I too old to do it ...
A. 12 January 2018: There is no health or hygiene reason for circumcision. It is nothing but mutilating male genitals, usually to appease someone’s imaginary friend in the sky.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is travelling with another woman and told me not to call him
Q. My bf told me to stop texting him for 2 weeks. I am on my 8 days of no contact it's really hard specially I am seeing him online all the time. We've been together for 7 years. But recently for the past 2 years we do not see each other in person due ...
A. 11 January 2018: This guy is not your boyfriend. You need to stop contacting him, permanently. ... (read in full...)
Events of 30 years ago still hurt!
Q. my husband had an emotional affair with my mom, and this went on for four years, as she died in an auto accident. He claims sure was fun to be with and that all they did was kiss, no sex. #1 how could it last for this long with non sex, # how can ...
A. 11 January 2018: It seems a bit late to be worrying over this now. You lived with this vile event this long why dredge it up? Obviously you don’t plan to leave him the time to do that was 30 years ago when 24 years into your marriage he began fooling around with ... (read in full...)
His email to his brother hurts more than his affair
Q. My partner and I have been together for 3 years in January, he cheated on me with someone I knew in October. In our bed When I was away for 2 days. When I came back he acted like nothing had happened but I knew in my heart and then my friends told ...
A. 11 January 2018: There is a terrible old saying. “If you hit your woman and she comes back you can do what you want with her.” Your partner has slapped you multiple times and you keep coming back for more. Why should he leave?
If he breaks up with his affair part... (read in full...)
I need help breaking the happy news to my partner!
Q. Hiya everyone I’ve been with my partner for 4 years we have a 2 year old son together the problem is I have just found out I’m pregnant which I’m over the moon about but the problem is he doesn’t want any more children ever he has said I haven’t ...
A. 11 January 2018: Just tell him. You’re over the moon and that’s what counts. You wil probably be surprised by his reaction.
And If he doesn’t want anymore children he should have taken steps to make sure it didn’t happen. ... (read in full...)
My friend wont stop pestering me
Q. Since mid December i decided to cut back on social media ( im not on it much ) i let my friends know i was having a break from it so they knew they wasnt being ignored. I really enjoyed having a break from it ive felt free and relaxed so this ...
A. 11 January 2018: A friend trying to get in contact with you? What a monster.
Anyway if you don’t want her contacting you on social media unfollow her. You won’t see her stuff. But since you’re taking a break from social media you shouldn’t see her messages anyw... (read in full...)
Should I confront my soon to be ex husband about his girlfriend from another country?
Q. Been married 18 years and my husband asked for a divorce 9 months ago. We are both still living in the marital home awaiting property settlement in a few weeks time. The situation is very stressful and toxic for me. We both have lawyers ...
A. 9 January 2018: You’re getting divorced from a man who has to purchase a bride from a foreign country. You should feel pity for him.
Confronting him will do nothing. Take your payoff from the home and make a life for you and your child. ... (read in full...)
My gf wants to learn salsa dance and I hate it. How to say no
Q. Hi. I've been in a relationship with my gf for about 2 years now. I'm planning to propose soon but there's is something thas is making me reevaluate my relationship. I took her once to a latin club where salsa music is played and she absolute...
A. 9 January 2018: Being a man means occasionally doing things you don’t like. Your girl has asked you to go salsa dancing with her she has told you she is going to go with or without you. Seems to me the answer is easy.
I find it hard to believe that you can’t work... (read in full...)
My best friend seems to want to end our friendship
Q. I've been friendly with my pal David for over 30 years. He drives a taxi for private hire for a living.I provide computer fixing services. A month ago, for the first time ever, he referred a customer of his to me who had a computer problem. The...
A. 8 January 2018: Call him and explain the situation. If he understands then fine. If not you know the friendship was not as close as you thought.... (read in full...)
He ended it after 15 years and I can't move on
Q. hi my name is carol and upto 3 years ago i was havein an afair it lasted 15years but one day he said he couldet see me any more but never realy said why i was deversteted and still am thort after all them years i desevred better i still miss him and ...
A. 8 January 2018: You wasted 15 years on this guy and now you’ve squandered another three pining for him.
I would stop looking him up on Facebook. But i suspect if you could do that you would have already. Try to find a therapist or counselor who can help get over... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants to go away with his friends, not with me!
Q. Lads holiday to Berlin when in a long term relationship of 5 years??? My boyfriend of 5 years and his friends want to go on a lads holiday after we finish our A level exams this summer. They are thinking of going to Berlin however, I’m rea...
A. 7 January 2018: If you can’t trust him you shouldn’t be with him. ... (read in full...)
He's got a girlfriend, should I wait and see if it works out?
Q. Over 3 years ago, I met a guy in college who I began dating. We were both about 20. He is great and is a total sweetheart. We met and began dating in the summer 3 years ago. After our first date, he would always text and call, but was a little slow ...
A. 7 January 2018: How long are you willing to sit back the phone hoping that his girlfriend breaks up with him or vice versa?
Start dating other people and start distancing yourself from this guy. If you keep playing this “best guy friend” game it is going to stop... (read in full...)
I think he's cheating and we had unprotected sex!
Q. I posted a question few weeks ago about this guy that I’m seeing, a 46 years old physician divorced with no kids. From the beginning I made my dating rules clear and told him that I don’t want to have any physical contact or intimacy if he is seeing ...
A. 7 January 2018: What do you plan to accomplish by confronting him? I doubt that he is going to start rending his garments throw himself at your feet and beg forgiveness. Tell him you’re done. If he ask why you can tell him but don’t expect him to come clean. Finish ... (read in full...)
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