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26-29,
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writes:Hi, I'm not worried about this exactly, but I really want your opinions on it.Okay, so I'm quite pally with one of my teachers, we smile at each other in class, a guy hurt me in another lesson and this teacher walked in and told him off, and then we were in his lesson afterwards and he refused to answer this guy and said "Oh so what did you do to her?" and at the end of the lesson, he wanted to tell my head of year, that was asking for trouble. At the time, me and my head of year were, sort of ennemies, I wanted to get along with her but she didn't seem too keen on me, so I thought "Right, it's going to go horribly wrong." so I talked to him, and persuaded him not to say anything, but he was saying "Oh but he's not allowed to hurt yo...girls." He almost said you and then he changed it.He's been teaching at my school for 2 years and we have a laugh, we talk to each other almost everyday.Since I'm a foreigner, he's always saying "____'s really clever, she speaks better than all of you" or "Oh Emma, don't make any mistakes" and when my head of year was putting me down, he was saying "Well ___ speaks better than everyone, she's really clever." even she mentioned that.He also said I was beautiful, twice, once in his first year teaching at my school, and a second time in front of my friends a few months ago. My closest friend heard, I didn't. She's been mad about it all for ages, even before he said that, she keeps saying "I bet he fancies you", before that she'd go and see him during breaks and tell him to back off (she thinks I haven't worked it out, but she had been threatening for ages) but it all got a bit too out of hand when the teachers had a meeting to write a report on the class, and my form tutor said that my teacher had said that one student in my class was violent. Everyone looked at me and started making comments. My friend was cross after that, because he said to me he wouldn't mention anything.My friend and I had a word to my form tutor, and she was saying "Oh he was saying how clever you are and he seems to really like you, you've got an admirer." But she was sarcastic. Now, my friend keeps making comments, if we work in groups and he asks one person in each group to get something, she'll send me, going "Oooh he'll be really pleased!" and making rude comments about him. Now she's saying I'm interested in him.I've spoken to my mum about this, I haven't told her about when he said I was beautiful, at the time I almost did, but I didn't, and I know if I told her that it would totally change her point of view on all this. But she said that okay, maybe he's a bit silly and a bit "flirty", but my friend's causing problems for me. I've tried to stop hanging around with her because she's saying a whole lot of crap about me, not only this, but she has been giving me a hard time about my accent, etc. She still talks about me behind my back.I just want to know what you lot think. I know this is really long, very sorry. And I know him saying I was beautiful is definately not appropriate, but everytime I just walk away, I think he's learnt to keep his thoughts, or his "jokes" (not sure if he was serious, I'd be very suprised if he was) to himself.I'm not worried, but it's nice to have other people's opinions on this.Help ! :S
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2010): I don't mean to be rude but what exactly are you trying to ask here?
Do you have feelings for this teacher?
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Are you asking if you should be worried he has feelings for you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2010): ( I am the person who wrote this article btw )
So, today was a little weird. I'm English, and I live abroad (as I said in the first part, I'm a foreigner), and I was talking to this teacher, and one of my guy friends came up and asked me as a joke in English "What's your relationship status?"
I said in English "Single" at the same time as the teacher said it to, and I looked at him a bit confused, and then he said to me (obviously not in English, because my friend understood), "Well, yeah, you're single aren't you?" and I went "Well, yeah..." still confused, then the guy asked this teacher in English too, and he said "Well it depends..." and he said "So at the moment are you single?" and the teacher said "It's a very complicated story" (in English), my friend asked what he said so I translated, but I think the teacher was looking at me when he said it and my friend went "Well, I'll leave you with your complicated stories, I'm off!" and walked off, almost a bit shocked (which is suprising because nothing normally shocks this guy).
What do you lot think ? Should I be weary or have I got nothing to worry about ? Because he said I was beautiful and charming last week and today he said that.
Another teacher said a girl was pretty, but he's the joker out of all the teachers and takes the mickey, he's married with two children. I was thinking about it, and I realized "It's not quite the same, he will probably only say it once and laugh."
I'd just like someone's opinion please :) Thank yooou !
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2010): Hmm... this is an interesting one. Well, one things for sure, these people (or this person) is definatly not a good friend if they are causing issues for you, talking about you behind your back and just generally making your life more difficult instead of easier. You should try to find other friends to be with who can make your life easier who will understand your situation with your teacher, someone who you can have a laugh with. And as for the teacher issue, its probably best if you dont involve yourself with him too much as its not a good idea to get involved with a teacher. Hope this helps x
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