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writes:Hi my name is mar mar and we want to have a baby......But I been hearing some suggestings and i think now that i don't want to have a baby.........But i already came in her more than 10 times......And what if she is? Please help and give me tips on this.....What should I do????http://www.dearcupid.org/question/we-are-16-yrs-old-and-we-want.html Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (25 April 2008):
 One more idea, do you have an older brother or sister? They might be able to help too.
Don't forget to buy the pregnancy test; if you get confused about which one to buy, you can send me a private message for some advice, okay?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2008): I believe this age is too young to have a baby as I am the same age. I mean you have so much things left to do in life. Like go to school. Getting jobs. Personally, I think you should wait until your married to have children. So I hope she isn't. It'll be much easier to handle a child when your older.
If she is pregnant don't get an abortion. Like natasia said you'll regret it later. And I suppose if you both are mature enough you'll get through it alright.
But in the end it all comes down to what you believe you should do.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (25 April 2008):
Hi Mar Mar,
I think it's time to come clean with your parents and tell them what's been going on with you and your girlfriend.
If you've been wanting a baby, then, well, you've been doing all the right things to get one. But I think you'll have to agree that if you can change your mind so quickly that maybe you're not really ready to have one. And I expect that she's not really ready either.
So go tell your parents, you tell yours, she can talk with hers and then you can begin to deal with all of this.
If you're not brave enough to talk with them, you can buy a pregnancy test at drug stores, you can also buy condoms there too.
I think you are going to have to tell somebody sometime that you think she could be pregnant, though. It might be easier if you just went ahead and told your parents.
Okay?
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reader, natasia  +, writes (25 April 2008):
 If she's pregnant, well, she's pregnant, and there's not much you can do about it. Although you're young, I'm sure you'd cope. Since you started out actually wanting a baby, I REALLY don't think you should consider abortion - it is a very brutal thing, and you will probably regret it forever, whereas you'll never regret your baby, ever. Those are the only absolute facts you can know about abortion before you do it, trust me.
Anyhow, she won't necessarily be pregnant - even if you did it at the right time of the month - but yep, there's a good chance she might be. What you should do is wait and see, and then deal with whatever comes up. You can do it. Maybe you'll be a parent earlier than you'd wanted, but you'll do it, I promise you. Don't worry. It's not a bad thing, you know - it's great.
I hope for your sake she isn't, because having said it's great, it's also a lot of work, and easier if you're older and not at school. But if she is, just be happy about it. That is my honest advice.
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