You can't fight true love

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Article - (6 June 2008)

6 Comments - (Newest, 1 July 2008)

A age 36-40, writes:

Have you ever been in a relationship that was long-lasting, but then one of you cheated on the other? All of a sudden someone comes along to help you put the pieces back together again and several days later, you and this person really have a connection and one of you wanted to start a relationship?

Over the course of May, I've meet this girl who was a truly nice person. I've written an article about cheating on this site and she really liked my article. We'd started to ask each other questions about our different lives(and being that we were living on two different continents) and that's how we became fast friends.

One day she told me about her relationship with her boyfriend. He cheated on her for three days and she felt really devastated about it. The girl and I talked about it and I wanted to confort her. I gave her an advice to talk to her boyfriend and told her to tell her boyfriend how she really feels. Everything changed when the girl and I started to feel for each other. She started to have mixed feelings and I'd started to have mixed feelings about the relationship.

Just a few days ago, she and her boyfriend broke up and it was quite devastating for her that she wanted to kill herself. I intervened and told her that she is beautiful and quite lovable. She had a whole life ahead of her and she was thinking about to commit a terrible act that would destroy her life completely. She thanked me and she slowly started to feel better. Yesterday, her ex-boyfriend contacted her and they began to talk to each other. Later on that night, she said to me that they were back together and they wanted a brand new start on their relationship.

I was kind of angry about it and I couldn't sleep last night because of it. But then I realized that maybe being friends with her could be better. I didn't want to see her hurt and I didn't want to write this article about our private lives, but I had decided not to use her name because I didn't want to ruin my friendship with her. You can't fight true love because it will only destroy you in ways that can ultimately end your life. If you are in the same predicament like I am and you wanted to be with that person, but this person is in love with their first love who cheated on them and now they are getting back together, then you can't fight it. You can't say anything that would make them want to be with you and you can't force them to be with you

either. You just have to be friends with them and respect their decisions.

Personally, I wanted to be with someone that I would care for and love that person just like my friend, but I'm screwed up inside and I feel like I can't go on living like this, but I have to move forward and be there for her as a friend. Deep inside, it's tearing me apart and I feel really bad about hurting her, but I did accomplished on a few things: I helped her out with mending her relationship, stopped her from killing herself, and became a very good friend.

I know that I will meet that special person someday, but I don't know when. It is only a matter of time when I finally meet that special girl and I will cherish her like my friend.

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A female reader, asian gangster +, writes (1 July 2008):

wow, its defienetly inspirational.

i've experienced the exact same thing but it was for the better.

i mean this guy i met and i were seeing each other but to be honest, we only got together because we were attracted to each other of our looks.

i wanted to love him but i knew i could'nt. i was too in love with another guy.

it was funny when i saw this guy i was seeing the next day with a new girlfriend. i was upset because he just left me but i thought they were the best couple.

i knew i couldn't stop them from being with each other but now, i just laugh at it because it was a moment in my life of awkwardness but fun.

i wished i still talked to him as friends because we were good as friends as he always made me laugh.

a girl decided to tell the couple i was making threats to them but they learnt that it was all a lie. i still talk to the girl but i don't know about the guy.

but oh well.

sorry it wasn't related to the topic, just felt like sharing that.

but it just goes to show that there will always be someone else. =)