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*lovemyoreo2010
writes:so weve been together for a yr in may. we have a baby girl together shes only 2 months old. we have been talking about getting married for about that long! recently we have been talking about it more his little sister asked us when we were getting marrired and he without hesitation said maybe next month LOL i was like omg some warning would be good i was happy that he said next month (may)but id like time to invite my mother and all (she hates him, but she is my mother) so then he suggested on my birthday june 25th, well i agreed to that and was very excited! but then i asked him if he was serious and he said that he still wants to marry me but not in june. i dont understand we have been talking about this for a while and i love him so much idk y but im starting to feel like he has changed his mind completely. i mentioned to him that my mother has always told me never to get married but now i wish i hadnt said that becausre i do want to get married!! my mother has never been married and she doesnt know how much i love jason id marry him today if we could afford it!! im so scared that hes changed his mind! am i overreacting? Reply to this Question
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (14 April 2010):
 Your Mum obviously has different ideas and values to you in this area so I would just brush her comments off from on and carry on with your plans and thoughts.
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reader, Ilovemyoreo2010 +, writes (13 April 2010):
Ilovemyoreo2010 is verified as being by the original poster of the question sorry i didnt mean that we had only been talking about this for 2 months but actually ever since we found out i was pregnant! he has asked me to marry him several hundred times and i keep telling him yes. we talked last night and he told me that defiantly hopefully this year we will be married.i hope so! my mother never got married so she keeps telling me that i dont need to and it aggravates me so much! she has no idea how i feel about him, and told me that because ive only been with him for a year that i dont love him, that i have to be with him so much longer like 5 yrs or more before im sure that i love him! i dont see where she gets that from!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2010): Yes, you are overreacting. You've talked about this for two months, but none of you have yet proposed even. Take it one step at a time. Propose to him first to let him know you are serious, and if he says yes you know he is serious too. Then set the date, not while his little sister is joking around with him, but when you both are alone and dead serious. I dont see any indication that he has changed his mind about marrying you, he simply chanced his mind about the date. The date that you actually never discussed, he just threw it out there on a whim. Perhaps he was even joking. I dont know how spontaneous you two are as a couple, but most people take their good time planning their wedding, particularly the women. Invited need to be sent out, dresses need to be picked, a place to be wedded has to be reserved. All in all, you need to sit down and plan properly.
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reader, Moo's Mum +, writes (13 April 2010):
I don't want this to sound anti male but guys seem to have a wire in their brain that programs to be afraid of the "M" word. My husband took 7 years to decide he did want to marry me and spent the entire 11 months of our engagement worrying about the wedding.
Just set a date yourself and start planning it and tell him when to turn up and what to wear. The less details he knows the less he will panic about it.
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