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anonymous
writes:hi so im in a pretty messed up situation, here is the story...im 19 years old my boyfriend is 30. we have only been together several months. he is in a lot of debt and i just graduated from school. i am pregnant i found out the end of may,i told him and he said we HAD to have an abortion. i have told myself my whole life i couldnt get an abortion i just dont have the heart to kill my own child. "we decided" to have an abortion even though i had no say so in it. and made 3 appointments and missed them for various reasons i.e.no cash today car isnt here stupid things, but i was thankful. then we were kind of in a rough patch and he went out of town to supposedly go see a bunch of friends that were reuniting. he came home 2 days later and he broke up with me. i was devestated i loved him so much i did everything for him around the house cook him dinner do our laundry take care of the dog and went to school full time granite i couldnt give him money but i pulled my weight. it was over he left and i left to go to my parents house and i write him a note on the back of a receipt as im leaving and turn the receipt over to find condoms bought during his trip. i was so sad. i went home told my mom everything including me being pregnant and told her i didnt want the abortion and she supported me the next day we drive to my bfs house to get my things during this drama filled day he was told im keeping the baby and freaked out called me like 20 times kept calling my moms phone just nuts. that night i get back to my parents house and finally call him back we talked for hours he told me to come home he wanted to work things out. the next day i lied to my parents(bc they didnt want me to see him) and drove 2 hours to work things out over the next 2 weeks we worked things out and he came around to the idea of raising the child he bought books told all of his friends and went to my first ultrasound appointment and things were wonderful for a while he was more than i had ever hoped he wwould be. 3 weeks ago he came home drunk and we got in a fight and he said he didnt want the baby and i had to have an abortion, we have gotten into several very heated arguments about it and he is convinced it is the best choice, i am almost 20 weeks,pretty pregnant and i cant do it. i know i cant i dont know what to do he has such great poteintial to be a great dad but he has a lot of issues and i dont know how to confront it. he will has threatened me with making my life hell if i do this and all this other shit and i know deep down if he would give it a chance it would all be worth it but i think he is just sccared i dont know if things dont get better in the next week im leaving and going to my parents house where i will be loved and supported but i love him so much and just cant give up on him. help me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2009): if a part of you wants to keep the baby then by all means do not have an abortion. cause it will stay with you forever so hope you make the right choice!!
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reader, purple_butterfly  +, writes (15 August 2009):
When your instincts and god's signs of you missing all the abortion appointments for whatever reasons are against abortion, dont do it. You have your parents to support you and you can live with them. Like both of them said, you should try to keep your mind off this and just take care of yourself. Try to keep the stress off. Just hope for the best. I shall pray that god has the best in store for you.
If the guy would be lucky enough, he will know its worth it very soon :)
goodluck hun
take care
and lots of love for you and the baby..
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