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writes:If your significant other left a notebook or journal at your place by accident, would you read it? Do you think you could resist, or would curiosity get the best of you? Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (9 January 2012):
 I wouldn't read it. An ex of mine notoriously left his e-mail open, his facebook open, one time he even forgot his phone at my place and I could have kept it and snooped around as much as I wanted.
Even if I am curious to know what "secrets" are in there, I know that it is none of my business. I lose way more than I can ever win by reading private thoughts/messages/e-mails. First off I lose his trust. Second I lose my dignity. Third I risk finding many things that are just hurtful. And what could I possibly win by doing this? Finding out a reason to dump him? Finding out something secret that I can announce to others and use as emotional blackmail on him later? I mean seriously.. what good does it do me to read it?
Besides, I'd not like myself for having done it, and having the self respect that I have I wouldn't sink that low. I don't care if there was a murder spelled out in there, it isn't for me to read or know about.
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reader, AgonyAuntsBeccaandLauren  +, writes (7 January 2012):
 to be fair, i think i'd probably read it but i am a very nosey person. any gossip and i'm first to know! but whatever, that's just me! it's up to you what you do but just remember, if you do read it there may be consequences!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2012): yes! taboo but at least i am honest i would tell them by leaving a little jitty on the next page....if he were my partner we would have no secrets anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your opinions! I would never read my partner's journal, I don't think he even keeps one. The reason I'm asking is because I recently lost mine, and I think I left it at his house. I just wanted to know what you guys would do in a situation like that.
Thanks!
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reader, person12345 +, writes (7 January 2012):
 No. The curiosity to do it is probably normal though. The most I'd do is if I got on the computer and saw his email open I might scan over what's visible quickly before logging out. If I really want to know something I'll ask.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (7 January 2012):
 would NOT read it... it's private.
I would give it back and say "you left if, was there something you wanted me to see?" because I know my private stuff is never left anywhere... I'm very careful to keep it under lock and key...
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (7 January 2012):
 Nope wouldn't do it.
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reader, uroboros +, writes (7 January 2012):
there's no way i'd read my partners diary. you shouldn't do it as well. first of all respect the foundation of a healthy relationship, and by reading your significant others private thoughts u simply let them know u don't respect them, nor they privacy. secondly, have you considered the obvious risk of reading something you wouldn't like to read? knowing a secret you'd rather not know might affect your relationship, or even end it. be aware that stuff once red cannot be unred.
and one more thing, your partner is entitled to have a past, same as you do.
to recap, do not read it, if you think there ight be something interesting about him, you don't know yet, the easiest thing to do is to ask!
good luck:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2012): No, my partner has a few of them and she keeps them in a box in the attic.
She stopped writing in them about 4 years ago because she feels no need seeing as she can express all her deepest and darkest thoughts to me instead to vent.
They have been lying around a few times and there's no way in hell I'd read them. Firstly and most importantly I don't want to risk finding out something I really didn't want to know. My partner is who she as she has presented herself all these years and I love that presentation. I don't want any piece of info to muddy that. That to me is far more important than her privacy, I do respect that too of course but she said I can read them if I like but I see no need, her past is her past and it can make an issue in the present if you find out something bad.
Any person who would is an idiot because they're just opening up Pandora's Box. Reading someone's most intimate thoughts can change everything and not always for the better.
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