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writes:Answers from parents are especially appreciated! would you let your newly turned 16 year old daughter date a guy who turned 19 a few months ago? im scared to tell my mom because i havent even mentioned a word about him and we`ve been talking on the phone and txting for about 3 months now. he graduated from my school last year and im a sophomore. hes ridiculously sweet and is willing to abide by any of my parents rules and restrictions for us being together. and she let me date someone who was 18 (my last ex). do you think you would let your daughter be with this guy even though he is older? i kind of need answers fast, i wanna talk to her tonight!!! thank you! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2010): Three years does not sounnd very far apart. The difference between 47 and 50 is laughable.
But the difference between 16 and 19 is not so small. I can totally understand why it would bother your parents.
If the age is not a problem then you should feel just as comfortable with him as a guy your own age. The moment that you start going beyond your real comfort zone because "well, he's older and he would get it from a girl his own age" . . . now the age IS a problem. It will indirectly exert pressure on you even if neither you or he wants it to exert that pressure.
If you get strong feeling for this guy then you're stuck with them. The feelings (and the hurt they might bring) won't just go away as soon you decide the relationship isn't working out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2010): Depends how trustworthy the guy is. If he's sincere and honest then it's fine. I was 20 when my gf was 16 and now I'm 21 and she just turned 17.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (17 April 2010):
 No, I wouldn't. Way too much changes in those three years. But I'd have had a problem with the 18 y.o. too. All you can do is talk to her.
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (17 April 2010):
 No, but I'm not your mother. She's the only person who can answer this question and the only way you'll get the answer is to ask.
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reader, r_a_w_r1645 +, writes (17 April 2010):
 i wanted to date a 19 year old and im only 14 and my mom wouldnt even let me hang out with him! maybe its different iwth your mom. good luck.
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