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writes:Would you add a guy who you brought back one night on Facebook? Or is that something you just don't do, apparently guys hate it? My friend said he would hate if a girl he went back, with found him on Facebook.Thing is, I didn't go searching him he just appeared on the side under 'people you may know' and we had two friends in common. So I recognised him and thought why not. I met him on New years just gone, he came back but we didn't sleep together. He basically felt me up and then that was it, we just went to sleep.It's been a while since that happened and we have friends in common so it's not desperate, or looks like I intentionally tried to find him on there. But when I told my friend I was surprised I found him, she was quick to tell me to add him, because he was a decent guy and we ourselves didn't see the harm, it is Facebook after all.. But our guy mate, said 'no don't bother, he won't be happy about it, if anything he'll decline the request leaving you humiliated'. I said I'll send him a message acting casual about it, but again he said 'he won't reply, he'll look at it and ignore it.. he's a guy'.Obviously, I don't want to be humiliated but is that true that guys hate it and that he will ignore the message if I send him one? Why is this and who's right here, my friend (girl) or the other friend (guy).....
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2012): Adding on facebook is not a big deal OP. It means nothing really it's just facebook.
OP life's too short to give a crap about such menial things, if you want to add him go ahead he will or he won't accept neither is a life altering outcome is it?
Do what you want in this situation and don't overthink things.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (28 March 2012):
 If he doesn't friend you back, he never had any interest to start with. I wouldn't friend him AND message him immediately, just send a friend request and see what happens. I once met a hot guy in a bar and we just talked for a bit. I added him on facebook a week later and then we dated for awhile. I don't think guys as a whole dislike that, I think your friend doesn't want contact with one night stands.
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