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writes:So I work in a variety of places as I am a contractor and last week in my workplace I met the most beautiful woman. We got on well and I think there was a connection and mutual attraction there. As it would have been unprofessional during my job to ask her out I didn't so I'm now thinking of maybe sending her some flowers with a short note and my number then it's upto her. Is this a bad idea?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2016): Don't send flowers to a girl you're not already dating! Suggest to try and catch her after work one day and just ask her if she fancies going for a coffee... Keep it casual and friendly to begin with especially if you dont know if she already has a boyfriend. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2016): The flower thing is much too grand a gesture and there is always the risk you can spook someone out.So, go low key.I think leading questions are a good strategy where you might get her to take the bait.Like, talk about a band who will be in town. Say you have been wanting to see this band perform in ages. See if she says something to the effect of she likes them too or wants to see them. Then ask her if she'd like to go with you. Sometimes if a woman is interested and bold herself, she will ask you questions and she will be the one to start the ball rolling.You need to reel her in. If she is interested, she will play along and let you reel her in.Just think of ways to feel her out. Or you could be blunt and tell her I am going for a coffee. And where is a good spot? And ask if she'd like to join you. You should be okay with that approach. If she says yes, great. If not, then you will at least know without having crossed any lines. And you would be able to continue your professional relationship. Because asking someone for coffee is fairly innocent.But I hope it all works out and she says YES!Keep us posted and good luck. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2016): Stick to normal dating procedure.i.e:smile to her,if she smiles back,say hello,if she says hello,ask her you would like to know her and if she would care to have a coffee with you. She will tell you at this stage if she is attached or not.If you win a date with her,then it will be nice to give her a flower when you meet her.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (18 July 2016):
 Nope, don't send flowers. What IF this beautiful girl has a BF or a fiance or husband?
You BARELY know her.
And yes, it's unprofessional.
Now I LOVE getting flower, but not from strangers.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (18 July 2016):
 Nope. I would be chuffed if some cute guy did that to me. Even if I wasn't interested or had a bf I still would be flattered. If it were me I'd keep it a simple selection. No roses etc, that is all that bit too lovey dovey. Instead something contemporary or simple like sunflowers or tulips. Good luck I hope she gives you a call.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (17 July 2016):
 Unless you don't have her address - I thought you worked in her home - needed to read it again ;)
I take back my advice, as it's not her home you worked in.
Where did you do the work? In your workplace?
How would you send her flowers? I still think that's a bad idea, by the way.
Will you see her again?
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (17 July 2016):
Flowers often feel a bit much (or even creepy) when sent before you're dating.
I'm not really sure if asking this woman out is a good idea, as the best (but most inappropriate) time to do it would have been when you were leaving her place, but keeping her address to send her flowers and your number is coming on too strong and a little iffy. Maybe post a short note (on a business card of yours, not anything else like a card or paper) through the door with your number: "call me on (your number) if you have any issues with the contracting work I did - Bob", then it's up to her, but don't hold your breath.
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