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writes:i had my tongue pierced last year and i now hardly notice it. and theres this guy i like who's quite open to piercings n stuff, we're getting along great and we've kissed a couple of times but not snogged. i was wondering if you had any tips for kissing with a tongue bar? i know that hitting his teeth with the bar can be uncomfortable. also he's got braces, he's supposed to be getting them removed but it's not certain if he will. is there any tips on kissing there? will my bar get caught if i'm not careful?and before anyone says anything about the stigma attached to a tongue piercing, i got it done because its a piercing that isn't easily seen unless i point it out. i got it done because it's discreet and i like it. not because i think it will bring pleasure to any bloke.thanks for any adviceanon x
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reader, chigirl +, writes (15 May 2010):
Have you snogged (Im guessing that means kissing with tongue) with someone else after you got the piercing? And you are just concerned about his braces? I've kissed a guy with pierced tongue, it was quite nice and interesting. He had his piercing pretty far out on the tongue. My ex had his tongue pierced but so far back that I'd never really pay attention to it, and it didn't make any difference. I didn't even remember about his piercing until I thought about it now. Hitting his teeth with your piercing could damage the teeth, but try and go at it slow until you have a good idea of how to maneuver your piercing? I dont think the braces can have much of an impact on this. Have you looked up other piercings for your tongue that don't have metallic ends, perhaps some piercings that wont damage the teeth so you dont have to worry so much?
PS. don't worry about Q, he doesn't mean any harm
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou for saying i'm mature i really appreciate it. and thanks for all your help. he had his braces removed today so i wont be posting on this question anymore as i don't really need the question. i'll bear all the adivce in mind so thanks again
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes my question may be confrontational but there are alot of people willing to patronise younger members on this site for one thing or the other. i figured if i put that on there it might clarify it for some people. yes i could have worded it differently but that is how it sounded best to me.
i'm not claiming to be a mature adult. the fact i'm on here asking such a nieve question is almost proof it's not. i merely put that on as i didn't want any comments about giving him a blow job, i'd like to keep my relationship innocent enough. as i said i don't overly want to be seen as an adult. i never claimed i want to be. i get defencive whenever someone seems to question a choice i make. i feel that i should make my own mistakes without anyone saying i've messed up before there are any consequences. i apologise if you weren't suggesting anything but thats what i felt you were saying, maybe i jumped the gun a bit.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (14 May 2010):
Well it is good to hear that the braces are coming off. Also thanks for responding to my concern about your list.
FA
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionso why did you come on this question if you don't really care what i do? surely thats almost being hypocritical. if you were only going to preach about getting a tongue piercing is wrong then why not go onto a question where they're asking if they should get one or not. don't come onto a question where they're asking for advise about something and then say you don't care what they do. it's completely useless
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni don't plan on giving a blow job to anyone any time soon or in the future. i think the entire idea is repulsive. i got the tongue bar because i like it, not because i think it could be useful in the bedroom. you may not like piercings or tatoos but i personally like both and i will probably get a tattoo but i'm not going to get one as soon as i turn 18 without seriously concidering what i want which will last the test of time and where it wont get in the way of work n stuff. it didn't hurt and i keep my mouth clean so it's not going to get infected.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionto q1605 i did get parental concent. my mum was there when i got it. she let me have it as a birthday present. if i didn't my mum would of found out sooner or later and would of killed me for it. i get the idea you disagree with me having it done. it's not like i went down an dodgey piercing studio that no-ones heard of, it was at a respectable place where me and my family personally know the people who work there and although it cost alot it was done propperly.i'm not planning on getting everything checked off in a day i've beaten up several guys who tried to go further when i told them not to. i go at my own pace, which may be slow sometimes but it's a pace i'm comfortable with.i don't have any intention to go any further than kissing any time soon.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (14 May 2010):
Locked braces, accidentally swallowed earrings, these were the fears of kids back in the 80's. Now it's getting your tongue bar locked in his braces. I suppose you will need color coordinated tattoos for the prom next. Sorry I know your question is serious but it is just so funny to me. I don't have any meaningful experience in this area.
Your best bet would be to find someone who works for an orthodontist and ask them if they have heard of any problem like that. If it is common at all they will have some stories to tell. If it still sounds dangerous to you then wait.
You are young. You have plenty of time to try everything. No need to get your whole list checked off this week.
FA
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the advice. i've snogged before and several different people have told me i'm quite good, but all this was before my piercing and it might not make a bit of difference but i'm nervous about putting him off. i doubt he would be, he knows i've never kissed with this piercing and he likes piercings anyway.
i have no doubt that i can kiss but kissing with a tongue bar feels like a completely different kettle of fish. i'm not so worried about getting caught in his braces now though, his appointment to have them removed is for tomorrow. so thats no longer a problem.
thankyou again for the advice,
anon xx
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