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*usieQ1970
writes:My ex and I got back together a few months ago but I have recently discovered that he never finished things properly with his girlfriend. He used the excuse that his family were upset about him finishing with her to keep things quiet with me and we had to be careful that we were not found out. I led me to believe that he was not in contact with her and didnt want to be again.Then he told me that he didn't want to be with me and wanted to resolve things with her but that he didn't want to get back with her. I know that while we were together she almost found out a few times and he lied to her about it so I thought that she should know the truth and I phoned her and told her. I'm guessing he has lied to her again cos at first she said she wanted to sort things out with him and now she's claiming she just wants to be friends.During all this time my ex had his 40th birthday and I wanted to make it really special for him. I spent over £300.00 on gifts for him and almost £100.00 taking him out for the day to celebrate and just spend some time with what I thought to be my loving boyfriend. He didn't seem all that pleased with his gifts and told me he would have to hide them which seeing as one of them was a watch I thought was a bit pointless.Now I know what he has really been up to and has been deceiving me I'm thinking of asking for the gifts back. Is it wrong of me to do this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2007): I say go for it, I had a similar situation with my ex. I spent alot of money on stuff for him during our relationship. When we split I demanded it all back, he was not impressed and demanded the gifts he brought me, I didnt give a shit because omg I can so replace a fricken Finding Nemo DVD etc lol. So, I took the Modded xbox and the 360 and all games and gave them to my nephew (this gutted my ex) and then I wished him well and never looked back. Good luck
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (14 July 2007):
 Heya hun,
This guy sounds like a right user. You can give asking him a go but do you think he will give them to you? And also how do you think it'll come back on you? Before my ex I would have told you to go in all guns blazing and squeeze the gifts out of him. I tried that with my ex and I ended up looking the silly one in front of the girl he was sleeping with. I still haven't got over the shame of it even though I did get the stuff I asked for back and I only did that because I took it with the last of my stuff when I moved out.
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