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writes:I'm separated, my wife's brother separated from his wife. At this point neither 1 of us have any faith in our liars, cheaters and drunks and have no plans to go back. We are both sexually attracted, but we don't want to wind up in a relationship together for obvious reasons and there are teenaged kids in both our homes. My wife and her brother are heavy drinkers and my wife has cheated too many times so we split up and he's a very abusive drunk so she took the kids and left him. Nothing has happened yet, just a few dinner dates to chat. Would it be so wrong if my wife's sister in law and I get together once in a while to enjoy sex as friends? Neither 1 of us are in any kind of relationship and we both miss intimant contact. Why would this be wrong when it could be a good thing in my eyes.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (7 December 2012):
 I cannot see this being a good idea at all at least in the short term (like the next 10 years)
It will upset the family
it will confuse the kids
it will muddy the waters
ONCE the kids are grown
and you are divorced for a while and have no feelings for your ex
and she is in the same position, maybe then
so the kids are teens... I would wait till they are grown and out of the house before you consider anything intimate with this woman.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (7 December 2012):
 To put matters in perspective.... why don't you and your
S-i-l plan to have this intimacy during a picnic? Plan to take that picnic in a romantic glen - say, in Vietnam, or Cambodia or Kosovo - where you know there are landmines underground....
Except for the magnitude of what might happen, all else is the same.....
Good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2012): I don't think it would be wrong if you didn't say sex with a friend. So, you basically want to be friends with benefits with your former sister in law.
Sex with benefits rarely works, especially for a woman. I understand that for you it would be the most convenient and easy way to get your sex life back without any pressure to commit, because as you think nothing serious can happen because of circumstances.
Why not? I think the circumstances have nothing to do with your intentions toward that woman, I think it's an excuse not to be in a relationship but just have casual sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2012): Let this one go. Plenty of fish in the sea. Too close to home.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 December 2012):
 I honestly don't see this ever being a good idea. You might not see anything wrong with it because you are missing having a physical relationship with someone and you feel close to this woman but there are so many things to think about here. For a start people get in to these sex only relationships thinking it is what they want and then after a while either one or both parties end up developing feelings and end up hurt. You or this woman could end up getting badly hurt out of this, or in another case you could both fall for each other and then that leaves confusion in the children and it would cause a lot of trouble between both off your families which I am sure you do not want to cause, am sure both of your children have been through enough stress with there parents splitting up. I just do not see that sex with this woman is worth the risk. The best thing to do is to go and find someone who is not so close to family.
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